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原文章由 hjm 於 08-3-13 23:00 發表 
Agreed....even comparison between siblings is not encouraged...but natural human beings, it's just hard to NOT compare...Sometimes it's also necessary to at least know the standard.
When my elder son ...
I am no expert on education, but I think nobody is.
What you are sharing shows exactly why we don't need to compare between kids. One can excel in one field and never learn in another. The baby who can walk at 8 months is fascinating while another who can only walk at 15 months is creating a lot of stress for the parents. However, we can never tell which one can run faster when they grow up.
The kid I talked about reading Harry Potter at 7 is still playing with puddles of dirty water at the street, hitting his brother all the time, grabbing other people's toys anytime he likes, picking up the sandwich for eating after he dropped it accidentally on the ground. Are his parents not teaching? They have been spending great effort in teaching, but nothing seems to improve. He can never say hello or thank you unless urged. He can hardly concentrate but he has a great memory.
My kid's reading skill is 10 times below this his friend. But what do I care? To me, there is no general standard. If there were one such standard, it would only create frustration instead of help.
Let's try to look at what the kid is good at instead of trying to find out what the kid is falling behind.
Yes, Chinese Dictation is fine for me too. In fact, homework is fine, to the extent that my kid doesn't hate it. Do they have English Dictation at all? I don't ask, though I know that they have phonics games at class.
I think most schools are actually [揠苗助長]. Most people would disagree, but I always feel learning is a process like [行雲流水, 任意所之]. We can only arouse the kids' interest, but don't always get what we want, 總得隨緣, 順其自然, 行乎其不得不行, 止乎其不得不止.
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