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didima

civic:
我有d parent tel no,有d就係未入學前己經識既朋友,所以我既network都ok
didima

didima

cotttontail:
我執屋執到無左你電話呀,所以打唔倒比你
didima

didima

hi all:
最不想發生的事終於都在今日出現了

囝囝今天喊晒口話唔刷牙唔返學,問佢點解佢就唔出聲,我話陪佢返都話唔返,我就知出事了,唯有攬住佢等佢喊飽先,佢好似受左好多委屈,喊到口都震埋

過左一陣,我問佢,佢至一五一十講出來

原來佢排隊慨時候會比同學(鍊)頸同用指甲(界ベ)佢膊頭,
佢好唔鐘意,不過就無同老師講,因為攪佢果個,就係(習
)名果個同學

另外就係比同學仔(習)名,1日27個,有理無理都(集),最慘同囝囝講佢點乖都無用,其實之前囝囝講過就算佢轉堂時伏在檯都照(習),初時我認為都係好小事,因為我都知囝囝比較活躍,習幾個名不出為奇,囝囝亦會承認有唔乖既地方,只係繼續鼓勵佢要再乖d,唔好大聲喧嘩,同埋有人(對佢不滿意,佢會改善./只要努力,就會有進步.)--用返佢響EQ班d金句教導佢
點知佢話,佢盡左力去乖,習名果位同學都話無用,我一聽咁,就死火喇

昨日返來佢同我講上課時佢答問題,但係(習)名位同學唔准佢舉手,我話佢無權咁做傢,因為佢只能在轉堂時有同學唔乖至可以習名,係負責管秩序,到上maths 堂,我囝有條問題唔識答,佢就話(Й你咁(喳)嫁,老師叫佢道歉,但佢無同我囝道歉
最慘係話耍捉囝囝去見老師,攪到咁,係我最唔想倒的,心理有左陰影有排煩,所以我相信早排佢會有大叫/大聲說話慨情況出現

希望件事快d settle ,唔係朝朝要我咁早起身,同囉我命無分別,如果班主任攪唔掂,至找校長傾傾
didima :cry:  :cry:

lochan

didima,
Feel so sorry for your son. The other kid must hate or jealous? your son so much to pick on your son so frequently. I think you must step up and talk to the class teacher, if necessary with the kid's parents. Is that boy the class rep or table rep? If he's only table rep. , then you could simply request to change table. Otherwise, you must make sure that the teacher explain to the class rep. the limit of his power without abusing it. It is horrible to see that the sudden gain of power can corrupt even a child's mind!

Keep it up.

Justin2002

Hi didima,

I suggest you talk to the class teacher seriously.  It is very important to the school know.  I admit that teachers sometimes maybe too busy handle these matters, but I am sure they will do something.  At least, no one should insult another by whatever means.  Also you have to comfort your son and re-build his eagerness to attend school.  No one single boy could stop him from learning.  There are still many other good classmates around, yes?

Sometimes it's sad to hear such stories (my son has encountered similar problem when he was in P1 also) but with the help of class teacher, he was able to come over it.

Justin2002

bbk

hi didima

很抱歉聽到你囝囝被人「蝦」的消息，若他已不願返學，我相信這情況必須盡快處理。我亦認為可以再與班主任合作及對方之父母，另外，因為大家也是小一學生，若可以以和平及用孩子角度之方法解決問題，就大家都win win啦﹗

didima

hi lochan, justin 2002, and bbk:
今天同囝囝班主任傾過,佢話會跟進,

今日幫囝囝預備左d鉛筆送比d同學,又帶多左d零食比佢同同學分享

今晚囝囝只係無冑口食飯,其他都ok,佢宜家砌緊高達,老公同佢傾緊,老公就緊張d,我叫佢冷靜d

同(集)名的mami傾過了,因我地之前好傾得埋,佢打比我時聲都沙埋,我都唔好意思,我地大家努力啦,細路得6歲,慢慢教啦,
相信可以overcome的

didima

lochan

I think it is very important that the boy to learn how to say "NO" in an affirmative way and stand on his own territory. Your boy may gain respect when doing so.

If that doesn't work, tell him to talk to the teacher or social worker.

If that doesn't work still, only then that's when you should start stepping in. He should learn to deal with his own problems, sometimes in a slightly more violent way which moms usually wouldn't teach their boys.

My boys textbook once got cut by another boy, he told the teacher and the teacher punished the misbehaved boy. Case closed.

mattsmum

有理無理都(集),
why (集)名? Jesus asked us to forgive others, school teaches child to remember the bad things of others.

i don't like the (集)名culture in my son's school.

Justin2002

Hope didima's case could be settled soon.  Yes, it's really a long way to run.

But I do not hear my son complaining about this (集)名 culture at school.  I know that there are two monitors each class and they have the authority to note down the names of those who mis-behave.  Maybe my son is at P4 and older boys will be more mature to carry out tasks when assigned to.  Usually when kids grow up, they will act better.  So, don't worry too much, didima.

Justin2002

judy

why (集)名? Jesus asked us to forgive others, school teaches child to remember the bad things of others.

(集)名 = teaches child to remember the bad things of others

第一次聽到，你話上BK幾重要呢， 又學到嘢啦！

WYmom

mattsmum 寫道:
有理無理都(集),
why (集)名? Jesus asked us to forgive others, school teaches child to remember the bad things of others.

i don't like the (集)名culture in my son's school.

Such culture is very common in local schools, I remember I also did the same thing when I was a monitor in primary years, and I always wrote the names wrongly.  My daughter also told me about this in her school, and the kids just talked or joked about whose names have been picked for whatever reasons.  This seems to be normal kiddy thing, so may ask the kid not to take this too seriously.

e-mame

WYmom 寫道:

Such culture is very common in local schools, I remember I also did the same thing when I was a monitor in primary years, and I always wrote the names wrongly.  My daughter also told me about this in her school, and the kids just talked or joked about whose names have been picked for whatever reasons.  This seems to be normal kiddy thing, so may ask the kid not to take this too seriously.

Agree.

我仔淨係怕school prefect 集佢名咋, 同班同學集名就一於少理!

HuiTung

Are you guys talking about 擇名?  Well, it is also very common in the western culture.  But the western teacher may say, "I'll put your name into my sad box."  That's it.  No big deal.  It is much much better than asking the kid to stand in the corridor during lunch or play time.   

珠仔

Picking names are so common and may be a bit 'abused' by the prefect, my son has got up to 10 names picked without knowing the reasons. If no name is picked on that day, there will be a star given to the child from the class teacher. That becomes a big big encouragement to my child and make him so happy.

didima

mattsmum:
其實我concern不在(集名)方面,而係希望老師處理囝囝被(鍊)頸同用指甲(界ベ)膊頭

至於(集)名,1日27個,6歲小朋友就會label左囝囝好曳,所以要老師幫幫手

mattsmum你也是DBSPD的家長嗎?

hi all DBSPD parents:
(集)名是小事,但不友善的接觸則需要seriously處理吧,唔好又話第一次聽

didima

civic

didima,

Yes, talk to teacher. She should able to solve this. But I know some of the boys are very naughty. Once, a boy go out of classroom during lesson, my son called him back and he turn to my son and 槌佢心口幾下   I asked him if he is injured, and he said he is fine. But I remind him if this happens next time, he should tell the teacher.

ヌ試過有同學把佢支木鉛筆整到冇左一忽木. 都幾勁.

didima

今日再同老師傾過電話,知道老師處理的方法,我同老師亦約了面談
今日囝囝如常返學,希望快d settle down
didima

didima

hi civic:
Elmomo約了13號下午見,你今次係咪又著圓點呀

6歲小朋友有好多野要我地提醒,解決左就無事了
我無怪個小朋友,只係老師要我打電話比佢之後才處理,我覺得老師力有不棣,因我同佢傾電話時佢己知道有d件事發生,所以我老公有小小勞氣
didima

easy

Dear didima,

So poor of your son and you!

I am very busy for my son's performance recently so I give this response so late. So sorry AH !

Let me call you when I am free.

Elmomo,
I have interest to meet you too. Let me reply you thru PM tonight.