我同學個女未到兩歲識百幾個中文字,大家分享下三歲正常係識d什麼?

winsonma

ellylau,
我以前同你一樣希望小朋友很快樂, 健康地成長, 一生夠運就最好了, 但每個人快樂嘅定義都唔同, 要一生夠運我地更加控制不到, 我認為我地唔應該用大人嘅angle去睇小朋友, 大人嘅分析力遠勝小朋友, 但學習能力就相反, 大人可能覺得小朋友有得玩就最開心, 但其實佢地更喜歡學習, 但記住不是花費大量金錢就以為學習到很多, 如果家長不願意花精神時間陪小朋友成長學習;想仔女將來成為有用嘅人就真係要睇佢好唔好彩遇唔遇到貴人咯!

ellylau 寫道:
各位,

請怒我得罪講句,訓練到小朋友好似超能兒童般對小朋友本身來說真的好嗎?  
"yau"或只是滿足家長的虛榮心,炫耀心多些呢?  小朋友學習進度比同年齡行快很多步..在香港現今社會資源配套好像很貧乏啊..
再者這些高人一等的小朋友同朋輩相處,學習上會產生好多問題...他們會覺課堂很悶, 沒興趣聽課. 實在很擔心, 現在香港父母望子成龍心態, 家長窮一生精力, 金錢, 精神, 時間, 你追我逐, 很怕孩子比下去...孩子要學這些學"la"些,好驚錯過黃金學習機會...家長疲於奔命搵錢, 工作上受很大壓力,值得嗎?   
一個聰明絕頂的人, 人生道路絕不好行....我只希望小朋友很快樂, 健康地成長, 一生夠運就最好了

lycheema

ellylau

你好像很憤怒似的......其實我們都是香港教育的過來人,應該明白好一點的記憶能力可以為/曾經為自己帶來那些好處, 這些好處是否可以令小朋友"快樂一點",或是減少"不快樂一點",真是見人見志.

至於你提及的"疲於奔命搵錢", 其實"flash card"所費無幾, 白咭紙加紅色筆,有幾貴, 只是母親的時間心血毅力, 價值無從計算.

為人父母, 想盡心盡力栽培下一代, 真的如你所說, 只是為要滿足作為家長的虛榮心,炫耀心, 那麼簡單和自私嗎???

Lycheema


ellylau 寫道:
各位,

請怒我得罪講句,訓練到小朋友好似超能兒童般對小朋友本身來說真的好嗎?  
"yau"或只是滿足家長的虛榮心,炫耀心多些呢?  小朋友學習進度比同年齡行快很多步..在香港現今社會資源配套好像很貧乏啊..
再者這些高人一等的小朋友同朋輩相處,學習上會產生好多問題...他們會覺課堂很悶, 沒興趣聽課. 實在很擔心, 現在香港父母望子成龍心態, 家長窮一生精力, 金錢, 精神, 時間, 你追我逐, 很怕孩子比下去...孩子要學這些學"la"些,好驚錯過黃金學習機會...家長疲於奔命搵錢, 工作上受很大壓力,值得嗎?   
一個聰明絕頂的人, 人生道路絕不好行....我只希望小朋友很快樂, 健康地成長, 一生夠運就最好了 [/quote]  

ellylau

Hi winsonma,Lycheema,

I am not angry at all.  To be honest, I am kind of crossed and frustrated whether I have done is best for my child or not.

I have a two and a half years old gal.  She has strong cognition & language power equivalent to a 5 years old kid.  She can memorize simple poems, knows more than 400 vocabularies.  She started speaking full sentence eversince her 22 months.  Now she can make more complicated sentence using conjunction like "and", "but" or "because".  Dr. said her IQ is over 130 or more. (She is going to have the Stanford binet test later this month)

She is a kind of perfectionist, other people finds she's kind of stubborn.  She loves singing and dancing, she can sing many English, Putonghua & French nursery rhymes.  She loves to ask questions and want to know everything in details.

On the otherhand, she is so active and she has some emotional problems, say "tantrum".  Other people finds her very difficult to deal with, including her daddy/grandmoms & the maid.

I really have much pressure taking care of her in controlling her temper & mood.  My words must be very careful, she is so sensitive.  

Now, I have headache what kind of kindergarten I need to help her apply.  I really worry she moves a bit so fast and she cannot fit into the society.  Anybody can tell me what to do pls.?

  

benho

ellylau，

也恕我得罪講句，將孩子訓練超能兒童的好像是你 啊！

我認為多數父母都是愛孩子，都希望發掘他們的潛能。如果不趁年幼時學這學那，又怎能知道孩子的潛能呢？

作為一個負責任的家長，就應該掌握孩子的黃金學習時機。你將孩子帶來這世上，就有責任給他最好以及全方位的教育。如果你只希望孩子成為一個快樂健康的清道夫，倒不如不生的好。

你說“一個聰明絕頂的人, 人生道路絕不好行”，天啊！你應該沒試過聰明絕頂的滋味吧！我試過，太過癮了。

在求學時代，平時不必趕功課，考試不必開夜車就名列前茅。上課輕輕鬆鬆，毫無壓力。老師說的一點即明，是老師心目中的好學生。受同學愛戴，是同學的好榜樣。最重要的是有大把時間參與我喜愛各種課外活動，享受校園生活。

能有這一切，我最感謝的是我的父母。由衷感激他們在我年幼時就開始給我最好的教育，永遠將孩子的教育放在第一位。我媽媽早在30年前，我年幼時就進行早期教育。

今天我是一位母親，我會同樣愛我的孩子，同樣給他最好的教育，協助他發揮潛能。相信他長大之後，也會感激我今天為他所做的一切。

ellylau 寫道:
各位,

請怒我得罪講句,訓練到小朋友好似超能兒童般對小朋友本身來說真的好嗎?  
"yau"或只是滿足家長的虛榮心,炫耀心多些呢?  小朋友學習進度比同年齡行快很多步..在香港現今社會資源配套好像很貧乏啊..
再者這些高人一等的小朋友同朋輩相處,學習上會產生好多問題...他們會覺課堂很悶, 沒興趣聽課. 實在很擔心, 現在香港父母望子成龍心態, 家長窮一生精力, 金錢, 精神, 時間, 你追我逐, 很怕孩子比下去...孩子要學這些學"la"些,好驚錯過黃金學習機會...家長疲於奔命搵錢, 工作上受很大壓力,值得嗎?   
一個聰明絕頂的人, 人生道路絕不好行....我只希望小朋友很快樂, 健康地成長, 一生夠運就最好了

睡覺

ellylau
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winsonma

ellylau,
(Dr. said her IQ is over 130 or more. She is going to have the Stanford binet test later this month)
就咁睇你對你女嘅描述, 佢真係IQ好高!其實點解你仲要你個女去做 test? 是否正如你所講為咗滿足家長嘅虛榮心?
(Now, I have headache what kind of kindergarten I need to help her apply. I really worry she moves a bit so fast and she cannot fit into the society. Anybody can tell me what to do pls.?)
我諗你都無需要為 kindergarten頭痛, 因為香港唔一定要讀 kindergarten, 你個女可以讀playgroup, 每日不同主题,日文, 法文, 德文............
最後, 係最重要, 如果你係有做嘢, I sugguest you quit your job, 俾多d時間, 俾多d關心個女, 睇多d書, 有一本書值得一看再看, 就係Carl Weter's Educational Law!

ellylau

Hi lycheema, benho,winsonma,

I am just a passer-by.  Don't take anything too personal.

Enjoy your life!  Cheers!       

ellylau

Hi Benho,

You said,
"天啊！你應該沒試過聰明絕頂的滋味吧！我試過，太過癮了。"
"做我喜歡的事，享受人生。"

Before I forget, my husband and I started enjoying our retirement life,"做我們喜歡的事，享受人生。"in our early thirtys, "太過癮了"

We worked out all the things by our own hands when we were young and we can now spend most of the time with our beloved kid.  Isn't it cool?

You still have to work for your own biz????  You're REAL smart guy!!!


          

solo

實在太過癮了！

ellylau 寫道:
Hi Benho,

You said,
"天啊！你應該沒試過聰明絕頂的滋味吧！我試過，太過癮了。"
"做我喜歡的事，享受人生。"

Before I forget, my husband and I started enjoying our retirement life,"做我們喜歡的事，享受人生。"in our early thirtys, "太過癮了"

We worked out all the things by our own hands when we were young and we can now spend most of the time with our beloved kid.  Isn't it cool?

You still have to work for your own biz????  You're REAL smart guy!!!


          

palmchristy

謝謝分享. 看了大家的留言, 除了讓我有機會反省到早期教育的方法外, 更令我有機會反省一下自己為人父母, 應該如何作好榜樣, 以及如何在品德上培育孩子.  

我希望孩子將來除了有能力面對生活中種種挑戰以外, 更能夠做一個懂得尊重自己, 尊重他人, 以及對社會有貢獻的人.

資優孩子自尊心強, 要做好這方面的教育, 實在是一大挑戰.

sonma

其實資優係天生還是可以訓練出來呢

benho

What you've done is cool, no doubt.

Just to put it right, I've sold my business in order to welcome my baby. I'm now a fulltime mum.

ellylau 寫道:
Hi Benho,

You said,
"天啊！你應該沒試過聰明絕頂的滋味吧！我試過，太過癮了。"
"做我喜歡的事，享受人生。"

Before I forget, my husband and I started enjoying our retirement life,"做我們喜歡的事，享受人生。"in our early thirtys, "太過癮了"

We worked out all the things by our own hands when we were young and we can now spend most of the time with our beloved kid.  Isn't it cool?

You still have to work for your own biz????  You're REAL smart guy!!!


          

Sindy

資優係天生,但有做早期教育,可以將一個非資優細路既能力提升,本身係資優既就更加吸收到多方面既野...即係有病醫病,無病補身..........所以係唔係資優,都應盡力培養個小朋友

sonma 寫道:
其實資優係天生還是可以訓練出來呢

Kristytracy

Yes, i agreed most of the gifted kid is from gene.
one of a 3 years old girl, she is not trained by mom caused mom is too busy to help her elder sister. She read cds and books by her own, she is now recongize more than 200 words, not just read with pictures, she can recongize the words.. she has 90% time reading english, no push... caused it is a part of her life, she enjoy it...

do you think she is a gifted girl?

Kristy

venuslly

my girl is now 32 months and started full sentence since 18 months and start 2 sentences together when 24 months with difficult vocabs (eg. war/ peace such abstract terms). She know many songs, poems etc.  

Very stubborn and always has her own ideas (since 18 months). started "argue with me"/ "negotiate with me" when 26 months and started asking why, what, who, where, how etc for things, matters etc.
She can use conjuction words like although...but, then, of course, it's a fact that.. etc.

Has to know all the schedules in advance, very sensitive to any changes or change of routines, or others' comment on her.

She likes reading veryyyyyy much. Now like to read signs, maps, signals, crazy about puzzles etc.

she doesn't like to sleep, (she went to sleep at 9:30pm when it's a baby up to 18 months) then always want to play until 11:00-12:30pm go to bed now and says it's a waste of time to sleep.  She gets up early at around 7am.

sometimes, she even insist reading in midnight (eg. 4.30am until 5.30am) when suddenly awaked from sleep.

She is in N1 now happily (still with all above mentioned continuing happen) and very outstanding, no problem to get along with other children.

People around me always says she might be a gifted child and urged me to take her to do the IQ test. But I don't think it's necessary.  I asked some professionals before, they recommend IQ test is only more be accurate when the child is over age 3!

My opinion to your worry is: You are a bit over-reacted to your child's development and behaviour. And you seems addict to a 'gifted child' hope.  Just be relaxed enjoyed her childhood.

littlemak

dear palmchristy:
pls check PM. sth for you.  

lkyma

你

littlemak

dear lkyma,
me too! 阿佗行路 - 中中地。
每人情況不同，無須比較

benho

我也覺得 EQ 比 IQ 重要。 另外 AQ （Adversity Quotient：逆境商數）也比 IQ 重要。

還有一方面我會教孩子的是理財，用富爸爸的一套。參考書 Robert Kiyosaki 的 “Rich Kid Smart Kid”。