教小朋友時會否很容易動氣

csbaik

你地好！

我同你地一樣,一教個女就會動氣！

有時會聽支笛,有時唔聽支笛,唔專心,走來走去，打完佢又好後悔！我同佢關係越來越差！我想:我比咁多資源佢, 第時我老左唔養我就大鑊啦！

不過的成績都○Ｋ！未算最差！  

希望將來大個女識冧，唔想佢當我係惡媽媽,我不知幾錫佢，放左工仲同佢一齊温書ｏ  

gordon7e

csbaik,
Same as you, I also spend a lot of money to his educational as well as the extracurriculum activities. Before my son was born, I had some friends telling me that they had totally no money left each month due to their kids. I didn't believe it at that time, but  I got what they said now because it really happens to me.
I want to ask you mom all, as my son is going to P.1, and some of my friends said that if they have a lot of homework, then even small revision of every's school teaching is not possible. If they can finish their homework before we are off from work, then you are very lucky. Most of them can only accomplish their task before sleep. They can only manage to revise before the dictation or test once or twice within weekdays. Weekends are for learning sports, music and so on. You can have only a few hours in the weekend to revise with them. This makes me very worry.:-|
Is it true? Can anyone share me her experience?

MMMi

我也是在職母親, 囝囝公今升p.2, 舊年係第一年上小學. 學校已經唔多功課, 但當我要佢做功課or溫習時佢都唔高興, 成日唔留心, 一係同你討價還價讀小D, 做小D. 令到你EQ降到低點, 最後大 收場.
自己放工返到屋企已經7時多, 佢仲慢條斯理食飯, 真係比佢激到你火到嚟. 佢唔會自己做功課, 仲要你成日提佢叫佢. 有時自己都覺得好累. 自問唔係一個要求高的人, 只係唔想佢落後. 老公成日話淨係聽到我把聲, 好煩!  做Mummy真係吃力不討好...
  

Papa2000

Hi Clementmammmy,

由 Clementmammy 於 2006-08-23 14:37:01
... I am a working mother, I don't have time to look at them, therefore I call them in every 2 hours, make sure they are doing homework, praticing piano and do some studying...

I think it is not good to call every 2 hours as they wouldn't be able to get independent and motivated by themselves.  

Why don't you discuss with them and agree on a time schedule?  Give them award or praise them if they achieve what they have planned or show improvement.  It may not work in one go but at least you are giving them the opportunity to be self-motivated.  

Papa2000

Hi Clementmammmy,

由 Clementmammy 於 2006-08-23 14:37:01
... I am a working mother, I don't have time to look at them, therefore I call them in every 2 hours, make sure they are doing homework, praticing piano and do some studying...

I think it is not good to call every 2 hours as they wouldn't be able to get independent and motivated by themselves.  

Why don't you discuss with them and agree on a time schedule?  Give them award or praise them if they achieve what they have planned or show improvement.  It may not work in one go but at least you are giving them the opportunity to be self-motivated.  

S.S.

我老公都叫我唔好咁勞氣,慢慢來,但當佢自己教時咪又係咁...同並他小朋友一樣,最鐘意就問咁做完功課又可以做咩呀??不過,最主要係掛住講野....所以的一日都要問佢可唔可以關埋個口先,
您話死味?我放工後仲要煮飯..所以,都已決定放補習社,起碼勞小d 家課,keep住大家的關係喇...好在,這點老公都讚同囉!

MMMi 寫道:
我也是在職母親, 囝囝公今升p.2, 舊年係第一年上小學. 學校已經唔多功課, 但當我要佢做功課or溫習時佢都唔高興, 成日唔留心, 一係同你討價還價讀小D, 做小D. 令到你EQ降到低點, 最後大 收場.
自己放工返到屋企已經7時多, 佢仲慢條斯理食飯, 真係比佢激到你火到嚟. 佢唔會自己做功課, 仲要你成日提佢叫佢. 有時自己都覺得好累. 自問唔係一個要求高的人, 只係唔想佢落後. 老公成日話淨係聽到我把聲, 好煩!  做Mummy真係吃力不討好...
  

    

Yingmom

以前每次跟亞囡功課前都會同自己講"RELAX"，但真係好唔明白點解而家d小朋友可以咁悠然自得，佢可以寫一個字又休息下，食塊餅，飲啖水，然後拿起枝筆看呀看，妳地話我仲點忍到。最後我決定由工人姐姐睇佢做功課，晚上我才檢查。老師又話小朋友的自專心好重要，所以不是太差的我又唔可以刷左佢，妳地話而家d媽咪幾難做。

leeleelumlum

S.S. 你簡直係superwoman!!!  
我放工後唔洗煮飯.... 都做到癲癲地啦!
仲要煮埋飯 ?咁我寧願食快餐店

唉, 我做媽咪前, 冇唸過會係咁.
我都唔係EQ高嘅人嚟, 有時大聲仲加埋打.
其實大家都好傷........
既然係自己製造佢出嚟, 唯有頂硬上啦  

你哋睇吓下面條短句(即簽名), 有警惕作用架.....

望與大家bk mom共勉之   

[quote]
S.S. 寫道:
我放工後仲要煮飯..!
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JIA

s.s

請問小朋友在補習社做完功課, 每晚還需要幾多時間溫書?

xmanman

有時都會 到失控,  

pamcheung

xmanman, 咁睇得開, 好勁呀 !     

S.S.

其實佢九月先上小一咋...補習社老師話佢間小學D 功課都唔算太緊張,同埋都係小一,該可於2小時內完成,如有時間,會同佢地溫習/DICTATIONS/備課...因回家後所剩時間根本唔足夠..不過,所有都在試驗當中,希望O.K. 喇 !

我想:
4:00-6:00 做家課......
6:30-9:00 玩一陣/吃飯/洗碗/洗白白...
9:15-9:45 同佢溫習/講故事....10:00 sleeping
第朝6:30 要起身....7:00 上校車.

jjt

My son will be P1 next year. He has the same issue not concentrate on homework. I try not to scold him and just sit next to him reading my book (because you keep an eye on him, he feel nervous) to make sure his mind is on the writing. Cannot go away (except wee wee) until finish.

I found his focus is good in playing. So I play some games with him such as Scramble, word card and addition casually, (not everyday, maybe once a week), eg see who get more word card if read them correctly (of course, he always win, so he like to play). He does not like writing, so we do some exercise with matching, stickers, story telling. I just want him to learn with fun and get the good foundation, so when the time he is in P1, hope he can catch up some subject easily.

Like the song "Saving all my love for you" - Teach them well and let them lead the way, show them all the beauty they posses inside. Let the children laughter and remind us how we used to be...   

emiluihk

jjt ,

    我都完全認同& 都係用緊同一方法,even 學校d 生字
我都係自己設計d 字咭呀,遊戲咁同佢溫習,我暫時都唔想
比佢覺得溫習一件苦事,溫習會使媽媽變得可怖,溫習會有
壓力 ...

    但我最怕的是, 現階段 they still k3,我地仲可以好輕
鬆同有時間用咁既方法, 只怕上了p.1 時間方面 就 ...
唉~~~ 所以而家不斷咁請敎其他過來人多些溫習方式,
希望做足準備,囡囡& i 都可以輕鬆渡過

wong3284

最慘是老公不明白太太為何要「迫」囝囝溫習，認為太太過份緊張，那一臉事不關己的模樣，才叫太太氣餒。

CD

Totally agree.
所以一切關於學業, 課外活動, 揀小學.....我都吾同老公商量, 全權由我決定, 我亦同老公協議左教仔做功課/

thomasfans

I'm so scared after reading all these feedbacks from parents on this topic.  My child is studying in a kindergarten adopting active learning approach where there's only very little homework.  He's getting to K3 and will be in P1 next year.  I'm also a working mom, but I always can't control my temper either at work or at home already.  My son has copied my poor EQ completely and the situation is getting worse.  Whenever I scold him, he would just ignore me and repeats my words and defend with me!   He's only five and a half.  I tried to beat him, but he wins me every time.  He would start beating me before I could beat him.  His legs are so strong!  Sometimes I just can't stop him kicking me.  I find I loose my "power" in front of my kid.  He's not afraid of me, even I say I would punish him.  He would treat it as a game.  Please advise how to deal with such situations?   How could I regain my power?  I have been saying to myself that I would not bother about his homework when he's in primary school, is it possible?

cheungbb

我是一個不太有耐性, EQ不高的媽咪, 有時早幾日替他串完字, 過幾日就忘記了, 真係..   但每次當我想食人的時候, 就深呼吸, 跟住大家休息一陣, 咁樣會比較好d, 跟住睡前會向他解釋為何媽咪咁嬲, 大家檢討一下作日後改善, 另外, 我個小朋友在k3的時候, 每次回家我都不會問佢做完功課未, 我只會問佢今天在校分組玩什麼遊戲, 因若他已做完, 就有得分組, 不過, 9月他便p.1 了, 我都好緊張...

wong3284

其實夫婦分工教導子女(分科目教導)成效會否更高？我覺得那才叫夫婦彼此支持，對教養工作的承擔。可惜傳統觀念把這責任推給媽媽身上，當日女性多是家庭主婦，子女一般升學競爭性不強，故或許可以應付；但現今婦女多是雙業女性：一方面要應付上司的工作，甚至要帶工作回家趕死線；另一方面又要管家中的工人、管囝囝的學業，帶囝囝參加課外活動等，那等如要返兩至三份工。EQ不高的我，自覺工作表現下降，既想工作表現回復過來，但又因要照顧家中一切，時間的角力令我在教導囝囝時沒耐性，有時甚至在指導/溫習功課時因囝囝不專心而發脾氣，傷害與囝囝的感情。說到底，「夫婦欠分工」和「時間不足」，這才是令我心情難受，情緒失控的主因。

holokmom

thomasfans,

I watched a TV programme in pearl about the relationship between parents and children. One of the case was the child who was not afraid his mother. He never listen to his mother....the situation was as same as you. Her boy totally ignorned her advice and warning and make the mother very upset.
The trainer went to her home and guided her how to cope with it.
The trainer asked the mother showing her how to play with her son. When her son played the toy cars, she only sat by him and watched him to play. She would sy something if her son spoke with her but it only "yes, Oh,..ah..."The trainer asked the mother to play with him like a "child", that means she need to pretended a child and should 投入去玩. Play like a child in a little "crazy" way, e.g. laughing loudly and like her son lying on the floor........, play with him such as a real playmate.
The trainer guided the mother to give a little instrcution to her son after every playtime. The son certainly obeyed  his mother as he felt very satisfy  the playing. The trainer also instrcuted the mother always to kiss her son and told him that she praised him a good boy, or she really loved him very much (always do it, not only follow the specific order)

The situation was then imporved greatly. Thomasfan, it may not be worked when you applied it to order your son to do the homework well. But at least to try........

From my experience,mum 緊張小朋友是本身性恪屬緊張的, 是會加劇落去, 所以要正視   :