怎樣跟遲緩兒相處

jasper888

Dear Viviancwk,

I agree totally with sjmama.  It is normal for you to feel tired and want to hide away from the problems.  When that happens, give yourself a break.  I remembered I had tried to give myself a break by taking 1 day off work (without telling any of my family members) and just spent the time alone wandering in Central.  I was supposed to see my son's class when I was on leave, but I did not.  I did feel a little bit guilty afterwards but that night I wanted my son more.

My son does not like to communicate with other and at times I felt really frustrated that he would not communicate with me.  I now use Ah Q spirit.  I will try to enjoy the silent periods that I spend with him.  Last Sunday afternoon, I was so tired and really wanted an afternoon nap.  He asked me to sleep in his bed and actually helped me to get my pillow to put onto his bed.  So instead of forcing him to communicate with me, I rested in his bed while his played with his computer games beside me for a total of 2 hours.  I did fell into sleep for short episodes.  He enjoyed his life while I enjoyed mine.

My son got his diagnosis 3 years ago.  My experience and all parents' experiences are our kids get better with time.  So your kid will improve with time too.  You will enjoy every step of improvement she have.

I got one encouraging quotation from a friend. The quote goes like this:

All children are gifted.  Only that some open their gifts later than the others.

My son can now play many songs on the piano.  He was witty the other day and worn 2 different slippers and showed me that with a big smile.  He could now draw mommy, although Ernie of Sesame Street looks just like mommy in his drawings...... and there are a lot of happy things to tell...........

3 years ago, he wandered in the house with no aim; he spinned everything he could get hold of.....

Never give up hope!

IwanBB

各位, 大家好!

見到你地互相幫助, 我覺得好感動, 作為父母不容易, 大家要努力呀, 我和很多人都會支持你們的!!   

愛和被愛是最幸福的.

TAKE CARE....

angelmamamia

Dear friends,
Nice to share with you in this column,
I have two special kids as well. One is now 6 years old with hearing problem (required to operate at 2 years old), the other younger son is now 3 years old with developmental delay.
Even though we are "great parents", we also have frustration times because we are only human beings!
My strategy is "never compare your child with other same aged children; try to appreciate their own improvement in their own pace"! Then, you will feel that live is much more easy and have more wonderful moments with your kid!

mrsphcheung

照顧遲緩兒是很苦的事，滋味不是局外人可以體會的。相對其他的父母，我為我兒掙扎所付出的一切已經算是小兒科了。我兒現在算是大致上接近一般正常的小孩，於普通幼稚園讀書，不熟悉他的情況的親戚朋友可能會以為他頑皮和幼稚。雖然我兒的能力可以讀小一，但我打算給他重讀高班，旨在使他長得更成熟，準備得更好來應付小學課程。我抱著平常心來教育他，給他學習一般普通小朋友的東西。只盼望他天天都有進步，和自己比較，不和別人比較，希望他可以獨立生活，不負累別人。

cwy1218

mrsphcheung ,

係仔仔遲緩哪樣 ?