揀學校 - 我要孤軍作戰

Huisys

Aries媽咪 寫道:
我好同意fatty講, 孤軍作戰係好事, 唔使大家都有自己主見,

但係係選校方面, 我情願佢唔幫手好過

AGREE!!!我自己其實係第一輪收生果陣我唸住用奶奶個地址揀間中中亭亭GE小學就算,咩都準備好哂果陣唸住填表果陣我老公先突然問我揀果間小學有咩好??又唔係好出名,點解唔揀la salle???其實我都冇話特別心儀邊間學校,只不過冇唸過揀名校!!因為覺得除左細路會辛苦之外,你估同佢搵書果個唔辛苦咩(即係我)....但我老公話人一世物一世,你唔比佢試

Keithmama

不過話時話，由阿仔出世到依家都係我話事，如果佢現在突然比意見，我仲驚？！

ton

nothing unusual about husband's non-involvement in children's matters. Mine sent his kid to the wrong school, not once but twice in a year and we didnt even change school!

marinayiu

我地做亞媽既, 真係樣樣都操心過D亞爸, 有時真係好想好似D男人咁樣, 可以放開D, 但就係做唔到.  :-|  :cry:

DoReMi媽媽

我又見過朋友個老公搞晒小朋友讀書啲嘢, 揀學校, 去學校揾校長求學位, 唔係去一次兩次, 係成日去, 搞到校長都認得佢, 終於攞到個學位. 不過我個老公就乜都唔理o既!  

julietta

係咁架！幾時都係做男人好過做女人架啦！仲要做在職既女人添。至於同d仔女既野，我問你地有邊個d仔女會"痴"阿爸多過"痴"阿媽架？就算爸媽坐哂喺度，個仔都實會"痴"埋阿媽度，明明阿爸陪緊佢地，攪攪下都黎咗阿媽度。d阿爸真係唔掂！

WYmom

My husband will only "say", but will not "act", so I do everything re the kids' study and schooling, and he just says this is not good, this is dadada ....

Anyway, I just do my best for my kids, and I will have a peaceful mind.  No need to bother so much.

G-Ma

睇怕呢個例子都係萬中無一.  我自己都係所有野攪好晒再請亞大少陪我地去學校interview做完場戲. 攪完真係白頭髮都多咗幾條.

DoReMi媽媽 寫道:
我又見過朋友個老公搞晒小朋友讀書啲嘢, 揀學校, 去學校揾校長求學位, 唔係去一次兩次, 係成日去, 搞到校長都認得佢, 終於攞到個學位. 不過我個老公就乜都唔理o既!  

hhma

我都係自己攪掂晒兩個仔關於功課, 學業上既野..
我又唔覺得係孤軍作戰
反而係分工合作lor.  佢就負責陪佢地玩, 捉棋,etc...
總之做完功課, 溫完書就係我free time..
我覺得ok woo...

ansontong

hhma
我覺得你可以分工合作已經好好
陪仔仔做功課係我, 陪仔仔玩(包括去公園跑)都係我.
甚至仔仔今年K2是每日都有功課做的佢都唔知   

DOUGLASMAMA

Hi,

我老公好小小，都幫下手，但一有事要相量，總是說吾好問他，您自己決定，吾好拉他落水，他不決定，未得將來有事話他．   

julietta

我好覺得佢地係怕負上責任囉！所以先至唔做決定甚至乎唔想理咁多，其實如果真係有d野做錯咗決定，咪一齊去解決囉，唔駛咁蛇"kwea"。其實d仔女有見及此，都唔rely on佢，事事都問我，就算爸爸話係，都睇睇我面口先，皆因佢知道爸爸未必完全明白佢既situation。

DOUGLASMAMA

我同意您說法，一面說您吾獨立，什麼事都找他，有事吾問自己決定，又話吾講他知，所以連囝囝都話他吾講道理．

al6336

我算是爸爸中的異類。自今年4月開始，由上網參考資料、部署要報的小學、參加簡介會、搜羅申請表、填表、交表、寫自薦信、做簡歷及面試，都是我全權負責。有3個原因軀使我這樣做，其一，我和太太的理念不同；她只求孩子能愉快的學習，入不入名校不是她的考慮範圍，對甚

bighug

我都係自己攪掂,佢話讀邊間都唔係好大問題

connielam

al6336 寫道:
我算是爸爸中的異類。

同意. 好少爸爸好像你這樣全力為子女選學校, 又諒解太太工作的勞累, 令人敬佩.

我都是自己一手一腳包辨囡囡的學習, 老公只給我幾個方向就算了, 他覺得小朋友學習好不好, 不只是是否好學校, 仲有其他因素, 都是靠她自己的努力, 所以邊間都一樣. 我間中心煩時選那一間學校就問下他意見, 好過無, 不過好處就是不會為選擇學校分岐及爭辯.  

al6336

Hi Connielam,
謝謝您，這幾個月的選校工作相對孩子漫長的學習生活算是微不足道吧。不過，我認為小朋友學習好不好， 不單是靠她自己的努力，一間好學校是先

yoyo-mother

I also choose and apply schools by myself.
My husband doesn't have enough time and ability to do this.
I am on shift duty but have less working hours per week. So, I need to do all the things by myself. He only accompanied us for interviews. But I thought that is enough .

connielam

al6336,

同意選校當然是很重要的. 我希望子女能在活動教學的小學愉快學習, 這是我為囡囡選校的首要條件. 做父母的當然想給最好的子女, 好像在選校的事情上, 包括我自己都全心全意為子女選校打算. 若盡了自己能力, 就算子女不是入最心儀的學校, 都能心安理得, 好多東西都不是我們能控制到, 學我老公話齋"take it easy".

各位父母努力加油!

puzzledmama

Mu hubby will only criticise every choice I have made. When I chose an ordinary kinder, he said no comment so long as the kid was happy. But when he heard his colleagues' kids studying at famous schools with good academic standard, he challenged me. Then when I changed my kid to a famous kinder in Kln Tong with lots of school involvements, he still complained that  the school I chose is too demanding for parents. Now, he asked me to explore some easy-go kinders again to relieve the pressure of the kids. And suddenly, he expressed his great worries about the drop in Eng standard of the new so-called "happy school".
Despite of all these, I will still hold my decision rights firmly as he just talks and never acts. He will just bring more confusion in the whole confusing project of schooling.       :tongue: