不能釋懷

Charlotte_mom

係LOR, 唔好鬧佢啦, 個女得11,12歲, 你想佢點? 我有時都好炆憎我個女做野無我要求咁完美(做大人既, 成日用"我知佢可以去到呢個水準"而EXPECT小朋友事事順心, 我有時鬧完佢都覺得自己過份左!
學樓上話齋, 大人見工都有見得唔好既時候架, 我都試過, 有樣野好耐之前已經識, 以為自己識, 點知衰到貼地, 我自己都覺得好無面啊! 拿拿聲返去自修補底, 下次就OK喇, 見學校唔同搵工, 搵工一份唔得等下次機會, 搵學校係得果幾次機會, 其實小朋友都好大壓力架!
(有時都同自己講, 如果個女係真係對自己一絲不苟咁叻, 就入女拔啦, 佢又唔係, 性格既野或多或少天生的, 我都要放鬆D, 學你話齋: 釋懷!)

htts

I have to be relaxed and look forward.

phoebepanpan

唯有提佢多d ，我仔in了四間直資，三間reject ，一間未知，連自行的一間也被reject , 但我地收埋信，只話比仔聽未有消息

jimami

完全同意"坐埋一條船.  加油!"。
舊年由頭到尾全程陪亞仔經歷晒!面試時我哋做咗幾十年人嘅家長喺出面都會頭暈、手心出汗、腳軟、心跳加速、真係差啲驚到腦中風。何況係喺裏面嗰個十一、二歲嘅人仔。
加油!我哋係孩子的後盾!

htts

jimami 發表於 12-3-13 13:13
完全同意"坐埋一條船.  加油!"。
舊年由頭到尾全程陪亞仔經歷晒!面試時我哋做咗幾十年人嘅家長喺出面都會頭 ...

你形用晒我的心情呀!  好似受靶咁!

2BMa

唔好意思，我想講咁細個人仔去interview已經承受好大壓力，就算大人去見工都會緊張喇，小朋友邊有時間接收亞校長大人即時既糾正呀?
至於grammatical error，我以前係間美國公司做，幾個鬼佬叫我打既野，大把grammatical error又成日串錯字。

karen2323

其實那位校長不用立刻指正你個女，仲要中斷佢發揮，換轉係大人，表現都會大打折扣，唔好唔開心啦，可能阿女都好唔開心，好想媽咪安慰下架！

sakura65

karen2323 發表於 12-3-13 13:44
其實那位校長不用立刻指正你個女，仲要中斷佢發揮，換轉係大人，表現都會大打折扣，唔好唔開心啦，可能阿女 ...

我也贊同樓上的說法。校長/老師不應馬上抖正小朋友的錯處，這會影響小朋友餘下來的表現。而家並不是上堂麻，上堂時學生有錯當然要馬上更正。但面試時個小朋友已經夠驚駕啦，仲要比你話多兩句，咩自信心都無曬啦。咩學校來的 ???? 開名啦。

baekdoosan

其實老師肯糾正你的錯誤, 應該多謝他/她才對. 希望阿囡好好記住, 不要再犯相同錯誤.

每個人的成長步伐都不相同, 有時未開竅就是未開竅, 做父母的只有耐心等待小朋友成長. 整個小學階段都已在催谷鞭策, 已算對得住小朋友了, 小朋友日後的成長道路便要看她自己了. 不要不開心, 做父母只要盡了力就好.

htts

baekdoosan 發表於 12-3-13 14:13
其實老師肯糾正你的錯誤, 應該多謝他/她才對. 希望阿囡好好記住, 不要再犯相同錯誤.

每個人的成長步伐都不 ...

我女係第2次錯俾糾正, 都有話Thanks for reminding me......但錯就係錯.

masterunion

htts 發表於 12-3-13 14:28
我女係第2次錯俾糾正, 都有話Thanks for reminding me......但錯就係錯.

叻女答得好好

jimami

你個女仲識講“Thanks for reminding me”,已經表現得唔錯,如果俾我一定會dead air。

黃巴士

你所說的: "錯"當然是"錯".  
但在另一層面上, 樓主學曉"放低",  放低之餘, 都要去"接受", 才是真正的寬恕.   不要太著眼眼前得失吧!!
忘記過去, 努力現在.  成功永遠在望. ADD OIL!!

hhy2007

Yes, I also think your daughter was doing great by saying 'thanks" to the teacher who corrected her error. Her reply shows she has high EQ, and made people think she should be a very positive girl.  It gives me an impression that you are the one who can’t let this go.  I guess you may be too nervous these days.  In fact, I believe that your daughter's reply should add some points to her overall performance in the interview.  There may be some other reasons for her hearing nothing from the school so far.  Don't worry.  Even if your daughter was not able to get an offer from that school, I'm sure she will become more careful and mature in her next interview.  You, as a parent, should cheer her and yourself up and move on with her altogether.     

nc2000

樓主，我都好明白你心情，雖然一方面好明白不可打擊小朋友自尊心，年紀小小要面試想佢地點呢？但另一方面又的而且確好憂心好痛心點解個女不如人，眼見四週圍同年齡都好掂，點解自己個女會唔掂？當然人比人比死人，各有各天份，人人皆知之道理，又有幾多人可以在香港咁競爭嘅社會上釋懷到？！我唔單止憂心今年升中嘅大仔，仲有出年升小嘅細仔，真係人人清醒獨我瘋癲

masterunion

nc2000 發表於 12-3-13 15:24
樓主，我都好明白你心情，雖然一方面好明白不可打擊小朋友自尊心，年紀小小要面試想佢地點呢？但另一方面又 ...

NC2000

我同你一樣丫, 仲有個細既2013/14....小一
我已經暈暈地了....

crystalmami

hhy2007 發表於 12-3-13 15:08
Yes, I also think your daughter was doing great by saying 'thanks" to the teacher who corrected her  ...

Agreed.  We as parents should say something like good job or something positive in front of our children regardless they have done well or bad at the interviews.  Be relaxed la!!

kykyma2000

如果要我細個時要面試，那我肯定gramma錯哂，read aloud不中聽，应該無學校收law!

TCKTCK

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其实,小朋友英文文法说错又有什么大不了?
我不知道那位校长,老师是想考验一下她的反应还是真的想纠正她.如是前者,可以理解.
如是后者,我就觉得这学校不以为然.
我家仔仔在参加Trinity&PET/KET口试时,虽然文法有错,但因说得流利自然,那些外籍考官都给予distinction.
他在参加DSS的面试时,也试过让老师问到口哑哑(英文),还好不是每一间学校.
有时我也想,中国人为何不能像外国人多点鼓励,少点指责呢?

OfficeMgr

htts 發表於 12-3-13 08:47
早一排, 我女去左一間直資中學interview, 係傾一個topic時, 俾個老師/校長當面話佢有English grammatical e ...

唔好咁啦!  我都係過來人，又真係好唔開心，不過都要接受啦，小朋友都唔想，常常想:  塞翁失馬．焉知非福!

大家加油~