深深不忿because of the 精英班 system?
我的兒子工作很勤力,但仍然沒有很大的改善 - not necessarily because of his talent, but the learning method. This applies to everything including taking exams. We should learn from others, and then make improvement. There is no need to be 深深不忿 unless those "outstanding" students are arrogant and trying to look down on your son.
EQ is more important than IQ. IQ could only enable you have an easy start, but most of the great person successful factors are hardworking and not easy to give up.
Though I let my kid to learn piano, I never ask my kid to practise it and this is up to her. I want her to enjoy learning piano and find interests in it . My nephew had acheived grade 8 at his age of 10; however, he never played piano afterwards. In this connection, I will not put pressure on my kid on any ECAs she are learning. I deeply believe life-long learning is more important.