如果小朋友考到你最想佢入嗰間學校...

chunheimama

會去旅行獎賞自己, 因今年暑假掛住去簡介會, 無去到。
去遠近都無所謂, 志在鬆一鬆。
有次去播道, 自己辛苦到差d中暑。

googoo

原帖由 Tinko 於 09-10-9 00:57 發表
對小朋友真的應該時常有讚有賞。不過，有一個很重要的原則：永遠只讚賞正面行為，不要讚賞結果。

行為是由自已控制的，譬如對人有禮貌，努力嘗試回答問題等；而結果則往往受制於非已力所能控制的客觀因素，譬如對手的表現，運氣等。 ...

Thanks for this great insight!  
Absolutely agree with you, maybe I should implement my boy right after the interview for his effort~

Virginialum

Totally agree. Yes, why do we need to reward the results. The effort is much more important.

原帖由 googoo 於 09-10-9 10:27 發表


Thanks for this great insight!  
Absolutely agree with you, maybe I should implement my boy right after the interview for his effort~

工廠妹

如果小朋友考到為佢報的其中一間直資，會一家人去旅行，唔係乜嘢獎勵，係自己都好想放鬆吓！因為咗佢考小學，自己好緊張，好煩腦…

paltiBB

非常贊同傳媒問呢位媽媽的回應, 派了一所心儀的小學, 並不代表小朋友有什麼優越之勢, 只係真是好彩而已. 得失也要感謝造天地萬物的主.

原帖由 nicolemummy 於 09-10-8 23:50 發表
這好比派位當天, 有傳媒問一些得到第一志願的媽媽, 有甚麼獎勵給小朋友一樣.

我們當時想, 只是派位, 幸運得第一志願, 為甚麼要獎勵小朋友? 小朋友會以為是自己功努? 就算是直資私小是小朋友考入去的, 難道考不到的 ...

[ 本帖最後由 paltiBB 於 09-10-10 14:54 編輯 ]

im_cyt

totally agree!!

So, every time after he had finished his interview, I gave him a letter written by myself and one piece of sticker.  I usually praised him for his effort he has paid and his respect to the interviews/interviewers.  I hope he can learn that "process" is more important than "result".

原帖由 Tinko 於 09-10-9 00:57 發表
對小朋友真的應該時常有讚有賞。不過，有一個很重要的原則：永遠只讚賞正面行為，不要讚賞結果。

行為是由自已控制的，譬如對人有禮貌，努力嘗試回答問題等；而結果則往往受制於非已力所能控制的客觀因素，譬如對手的表現，運氣等。 ...

childrenfirst

many good sharing and suggestions here! I will for sure have a trip during Christmas as I need to relax a bit! For the kid, I will take him out for a day trip to award his effort of doing his best during the last 2 months.