失去對子女教導的耐性了

MayFair

除了功課問題, 小朋友跟同學相處問題, 老師問題,
還有校車, 真係路路夾擊!

502

To 所有EQ训练班同学

As a full-time mom, I use to "roar" to my boy, especially when he behave so laid-back.  Sometimes I think I have taken his acedamic level as the replacement of my career that it is difficult for me to keep my temper.  Help!

MayFair

  

Bambi

我奶奶以前在傳統教會學校教書, 佢話高官羅太當年佢想佢仔入某傳統教會學校, 但點知被reject, 所以佢好唔鐘意傳統教會學校, 成日同陳日君嗌交.

greatgirl 寫道:
Our education Dept 高官羅太曾被人questions she didn't understand our 苦况because her sons were studies in Int'l School...her explanation was.... because her sons came back with her from England or wherever when she was assigned to work oversea. That's why she needed to put them in Int'l School after return to HK. But if 她之前是派往大陸或落後國家工作，佢番HK會唔會俾個仔讀親中或程度差的學校吖？

cyfMaMa

相信大部份媽媽都是緊張子女，加上他們又不合作。我也和各位一樣，小公子和大公子約3:30放學回家，(平和的心情曾升至緊張及煩燥，)給他們吃點東西後便開始做功課。大公子喜歡在房裹發下呆，拿功課出來做都慢動作，做 功課期間又要喝喝水，去吓廁所，所以做功課要做三個鐘。試想在這麽短的時間內，又要教他們做功課，又要準備晚飯。加上每週的中英文默書，做媽媽心急不夠時間，他們就慢動作，真是＋分激氣！但是都要忍一時之氣，鬧幾句便算吧！否則温書不成又傷感情。所以做全職媽咪難，做全能咪更難！
   

greatgirl

Hello,
I just remember she said 怕個仔唔適應local school. 弊在人人都好易適應int'l school, 倒番轉就冇。Then this is the problem of our system. 哈！如果我地都轉讀I.S., 話唔定可以有時間打麻雀、去high tea....just kidding. Relax la all moms.
  :-|
Yes, May Fair.
Study in full day school is very very busy. Most of our schools are very "Cute"(都唔知係學校天真，定係我低低地？), they encourage students to read 課外書, attend sport activities and learn musical instruments; but do not reduce the homework/weekly dictation/test/exam. Besides kids have one more spoken language to learn - Mandarin.  :evil: 邊有咁多時間呀！

SYMAMA

greatgirl 寫道:
Hello,

  :-|
Yes, May Fair.
Study in full day school is very very busy. Most of our schools are very "Cute"(都唔知係學校天真，定係我低低地？), they encourage students to read 課外書, attend sport activities and learn musical instruments; but do not reduce the homework/weekly dictation/test/exam. Besides kids have one more spoken language to learn - Mandarin.  :evil: 邊有咁多時間呀！

講得好,還有網上功課和網上閱讀,做家長還辛苦過學生,唉

iloveu

嘩! 真係好, 你地簡直講晒我d心聲出黎. 原來有咁多同道中人. but 我要返工, 仲衰. 我女P.3, 算肯自動自覺做功課, 但就做得慢同唔小心. 寫錯都唔知, 錯完又錯. 最大問題係測驗同考試, d唔小心既錯(i.e. 抄都抄漏, 寫漏筆劃, etc.)左扣右扣都有10多分. 究竟有乜方法, 可以令佢地小心D, 等我地勞氣少d, 大家關係好D. 咁巳經all彌陀佛la. 請大家幫幫忙, 唔該!

ROSANNA

iloveu 寫道:
嘩! 真係好, 你地簡直講晒我d心聲出黎. 原來有咁多同道中人. but 我要返工, 仲衰. 我女P.3, 算肯自動自覺做功課, 但就做得慢同唔小心. 寫錯都唔知, 錯完又錯. 最大問題係測驗同考試, d唔小心既錯(i.e. 抄都抄漏, 寫漏筆劃, etc.)左扣右扣都有10多分. 究竟有乜方法, 可以令佢地小心D, 等我地勞氣少d, 大家關係好D. 咁巳經all彌陀佛la. 請大家幫幫忙, 唔該![/quote]


iloveu,

唉! 原來你個囡同我個女又係有同一個"大意"問題, 其實好多小朋友都係咁喎! 因為已經吾少家長咁投訴了, 想深一層其實係吾係我地有問題呢? 係吾係我地無當佢地係細路仔呢?

其實每次罵完佢地一餐後, 我去照照鏡.......嘩! 頭髮亂晒, 目露兇光, 真係好得人驚架!_______________________________________

各位"差d變癲婆"之家長們:

而家我囡囡正在做工課, 我睇完你地d心得後我試下今日吾罵佢, 又試下可以"頂"到幾耐??

BBee

Agree! Agree!!!
我個女的學校老師都話要我們家長同小朋友多看課外中英文圖書,又要學琴,又溫默書,平日唔明的又要幫佢溫,星期六邊有禁多時間?!我想比女女學拼音學文法,都唔知點安排?星期日想帶女女行下街都要想清楚!

greatgirl 寫道:
Yes, May Fair.
Study in full day school is very very busy. Most of our schools are very "Cute"(都唔知係學校天真，定係我低低地？), they encourage students to read 課外書, attend sport activities and learn musical instruments; but do not reduce the homework/weekly dictation/test/exam. Besides kids have one more spoken language to learn - Mandarin.  :evil: 邊有咁多時間呀！

BBee

Agree! Agree!!!
我個女的學校老師都話要我們家長同小朋友多看課外中英文圖書,又要學琴,又溫默書,平日唔明的又要幫佢溫,星期六邊有禁多時間?!我想比女女學拼音學文法,都唔知點安排?星期日想帶女女行下街都要想清楚!

greatgirl 寫道:
Yes, May Fair.
Study in full day school is very very busy. Most of our schools are very "Cute"(都唔知係學校天真，定係我低低地？), they encourage students to read 課外書, attend sport activities and learn musical instruments; but do not reduce the homework/weekly dictation/test/exam. Besides kids have one more spoken language to learn - Mandarin.  :evil: 邊有咁多時間呀！

mayc

各位家長:
小兒今年讀小二,記得去年我瘦了十幾磅(都是拜小兒升讀小一所賜),你地做的內疚事我全部都做過,我都曾經諗過睇人理醫生,有一次回來見他唔做功課仲玩緊玩具,我一怒之下,將他房間內所有玩得的玩具全部用兩個大垃圾膠袋掉晒入去,放在屋企門口,後來收埋在車尾箱成個月先比番佢,又有一次我話緊佢,佢仲做鬼臉,我叫他正經d,信唔信我會打你,他仲做,我便一把打他的面,他很驚訝,然後用好怨恨的眼光望住我,之後我找了個做社工的朋友,她來我家與小兒傾過,她說我們要用方法去引導他,不可當他大人,最後她說:『你個仔無mug問題,可能你兩個有問題.』我想我們大人要小朋友做野好有效率,一教就要識,做過的,學過的就唔可以唔記得,雖然大家的出發點都是為小朋友好,但係有時真係好心做壞事,現在我都會耐唔耐對他發脾氣,但係巳經唔再打他,我想大家互相勉勵下,呻下,心情會平伏d!

我看完都眼濕濕,雖然說我們未必有能力轉去國際學校,但愛孩子不愛面子是我們應該學習的態度! http://security.mingpao.com/books/dat/trialread/2885.pdf

evelyn317

[quote]be patient, you know there are diff. world to your child from Kindgerten to primary school, a lot of pressure to her, a lot of homeworks, activities, tests and dictation. My daughter is P2 now, when she was P1,每晚放工咪起勢檢查功課,考試或測驗唔好,我咪癲癲

Easy媽咪

我都係一個好高要求媽咪~~當睇到macys一句話之後(愛孩子不愛面子是我們應該學習的態度!)我有d反應呀~~
可能我比較睇重仔仔學業,在幼稚園時佢成績係好好....連老師都話佢對程度深學校都冇問題時,就咁樣..我仲對佢要求高左喇......仲要個仔每科要做到100分,    我EQ都唔好...仲好差呀....所以有時仲會話完佢之後頭痛到不得了...d血即頭上唔到個腦...有時同仔講"係咪唔想見媽咪多幾年..係咪要咁激我"果時佢好驚仲會哭架!!
其實我仔已經好乖架...佢做功課通常一個鐘之內已經做完(仲唔冼我同佢一齊)...溫習佢都好乖咁聽哂我話...而且默書仲可以自己背默...我仲咁樣話佢....唉...真係好內疚呀 :cry:  :cry:

jazzmama

Mayc,

真的很開心看到你 post 出來的文章,
看到我眼淚都出埋,
將自己套入文章,
十分相似
小兒今年 p2, 記得在 p1 時, 每次測試考試,
分分秒秒都同仔仔做習作,
出來的結果, 不如理想,
上學期 26/32
下學期 27/32

真係好唔開心,
今個星期測試周, 叫自己放鬆 d,
不再操練習,
相信個多月來仔仔上課學的,
要識都應該識,
不明的, 祇陪他再看看課文,
須未有結果, 但記得仔仔第一日放學後馬上打電話比我,
話 :媽咪, 我一定取不到 100分,
原來, 他對自己的期望咁高
我祇看到合格, 已滿足啦

都相信學問不一定要寫出來, 要用分數來看,
希望仔仔慢慢進步啦 :idea:

alicetong

我覺得呢個Topic真係好有共嗚..
自從仔仔升左小一後(現在是小二)(全日班),可以話無一日我係得閒過,放工後忙check功課,簽回條,每星期中英文默書,一年4次(兩測兩考),不同課外活動..同仔仔關係就只有我係惡,佢係做反抗我0個個,親子關係真係比以前差！整天忙著閱讀都5/6樣,自己都覺得辛苦！更何況只係六/七歲小朋友呢？
我諗多d站係小朋友角度去睇,放鬆自己..就好似Matt's
Mum話齋..將要求降低d.每次發脾氣鬧佢前心呼吸一口氣..
知道佢係真唔識定大意出錯！對症下藥...盡量保持溫和氣氛,
大家媽咪都要努力呀？有時諗..真係好似同個仔拍住上從小學一年級讀起咁！哈哈哈！遲d又輪到勞氣0個女啦！...   :

littlecat

我都好有同感, 這幾天我都不停責罵我兒, 自己都感到很不開心. 自從囝囝轉了新學校之後, (他是從傳統式教學轉為活動式教學), 他整個人都心散了很多, 以往他的功課都做得很好, 而默書測試和考試都算不錯, 但現時在新校裏, 每天都只顧著玩耍, 他還竟跟我說, 他上課時沒有留心老師講書, 只在發夢, 起初我都好言相勸, 而且想著我兒都需要一段適應期, 但久而久之, 我就發覺他越來越過份, 他在學校所做的功課都錯了很多, 而老師所教的都全遺忘, 我真是很嬲怒, 但我就唯有跟他溫習, 因下週便要應付測驗, 希望他有改善,  但他的學習態度很差, 溫習時又很不認真, 常常忘記,  我就開始發火了, 這幾天我要他好好檢討自己, 要他認真地上課, 雖然可能是自己的個人的想法, 但我想信他已長大, 他會懂得想, 希望他可以有所改變.  因為我真不想再責