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原文章由 matthew_mama 於 07-10-26 08:39 硐表 
Anthea
多謝你的分享！我也覺得大囝日漸長大了！自從上了小一後！我哋都有加獨立訓練但我老公話做咗皇子甘多年無可能立即做平民架！school report暫時未有太care始終just start
但我哋生左細囝後己盡力show love and care ，無奈哥哥仍feel有時無人理佢！唉！可息我哋己經人仰馬翻了 好彩細佬而家亂發的言中第一個叫"哥"細佬只係2個月多Ｄ
係呢我想問吓青衣近盈翠有無兒童崇拜！我們一家也dry了很久！
Your case is different. Having a new born baby at home is not a right moment to train the first born independency, especially a P1 boy. Do you remember the words, " When I was born, my parents spend all their time to train me walk and talk; when I am in school, my teachers spend all their time to tell me stop and quiet."
Being a P1 boy, he is facing a great pressure: New school, new teachers, no friends, lots of "don'ts", he is wrong if he talks in the classroom, he is wrong if he can’t hold 35 minutes attention, he is wrong if he doesn’t tightly follow his classmates when he walks, he is wrong if he cannot eat fast enough in lunch time, he is wrong if he cannot copy the homework list into the student manual fast enough, he is wrong if he finally copy it fast enough but the writing is not clear and neat, he is wrong if he forgets something…. Even in home, he is wrong if he complains the baby cries, he is wrong if he cries, he is wrong if he keeps on asking why, no one wants to hear his stories anymore, no one interested in his grieves, even parents tell him that you love him, but your behaviors do not say so. He just cannot understand your tiredness and your limitations.
I don’t know if you have tried the following 3 ways:
1. Play with him. You are ill, so weak that you cannot do anything but lay down.
Dr. Matthew please come to give me diagnosis and some treatments. After he had done some examinations of your body when you lay down, he will give you a diagnosis and prescriptions. Ify ou are too tired to get up to take the prescriptions, then he has to give you injected prescriptions. Other than medicine, the prescription should include enough rest and massage. Then you can sleep peacefully under his prescription and even enjoy the massage he provides to you.
2. Sleep with him.
In your embrace he really feels that you love him and he is safe.
You may worry that he will not be independent anymore, but I think that he can be independent only if he really has faith in your love. He will fly away in suitable time. Even now, when I embrace the younger son to sleep, one of my hands will always touch the body of the elder one.
3. Let him understand the helplessness of a baby.
Being an elder brother he has the freedom to sing, to dance, to walk, to run, he can wash himself, he can poo poo himself, but a baby cannot talk, cannot eat, cannot walk, cannot play with friends, he is very poor so we have to help him.
Sometimes I asked my younger son when he was small if he wanted to be a baby anymore.
If he did, then we could feed him, but he could only drink milk, he had to lay on bed, he had to wear diapers.
When he heard the many limitations of being a baby, he wouldn’t want to be a baby anymore.
About church, I have to ask my friend, she is in a Bible study class now, so have to answer you later.
Meanwhile, get some comfortable music first:
http://bizfcg.vox.com/library/audio/6a00cd97092fc34cd500cdf3ac5e48cb8f.html
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M7_vCBmhAfU&mode=related&search
[ 本文章最後由 Anthea 於 07-10-26 11:54 編輯 ] |
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發表於 07-10-26 09:46
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所以本野, 都存放得好好, 未至於溶溶爛爛
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ops:" /> ...我今個weekend真係耍
