好擔心...醫生話BB發展遲緩~~

JOANNA722

mamee
多謝你開解.

幸好有這裡給我們吐一吐苦水, 互相支持一下, 不竟大家都是同道中人, 同其他人說仲是唔夠入題.   

gigi2

Hi kmwun,

My girl is now studying AM session and the class size is 22 –23 with 2 teachers.  Both of them are certified in nursery education and they will take turn in charge of class alternately with am & pm session.  The am & pm session will be the same group of teacher, which is, teachers need to work from 9 pm to 4:30pm.  

I also like the atmosphere of this school as the first week almost 3-4 teachers in her class everyday.  The adaptation period for K1 nearly 1 month which consider and concern about the toddler’s emotions and adaptability at K1 level.

Besides Shek Chung Shan, what about the Chai Wan Kok Catholic primary school (am) which will move to a new millennium designed campus at Sham Tseng in 2007.  There is a link between Chai Wan Kok & Annunciation!  Also, this school got 47% band 1 student for year of 2004.  Will you consider it?

mickeyma

Dear Gigi, Helen, Hinhinmummy,

Can you share with me how to adjust the time to our two kids? I feel my elder daughter is not understanding too much the situation of the little brother. Even I explained to her the reason why I need to take care her brother more at the moment, she is still jealous and had some problems in her home performance recently.

After I explained to her over the phone again last Friday after she claimed that I did not love her as much as her brother. My maid told me she cried at home after putting down the phone...

I have tried to involve her to play with her brother with me, but not too effective as sometimes she did not like to play the simple games and so on...

Mickey ma

陸美爸

各位mama,

睇見你哋嘅小朋友返學後, 都不斷有進步, "鄧"你哋開心之餘亦令我非常羨慕 :-| ......

囝囝返學差不多一個月, 已適應學校生活, 起碼肯食、肯瞓、肯玩及肯坐定定，暫時都有啲啲小進步：
1. 肯食爛飯仔 (以前只肯食糊仔咋)
2. 返屋企除鞋後將鞋擺番入鞋柜
3. 拖住手可用左右腳上樓梯 (但技巧仍未純熟)
4. 少咗亂掉嘢落地
5. 坐車車識用腳"young"前"young"後 (以前只識向後"young")
6. 老師話佢懂得輕輕拍同學仔，然後對人微笑 (但平時對我哋都係大大力打落嚟喎)
7. 肯聽老師教佢玩玩具

但佢吮手指及咬手臂情況仍然嚴重, 經常都見到佢手臂仔咬滿牙齒印 (既心痛又肉痛 :cry: ), 及講嘢方面則完全未有任何進展, 呢兩個問題令我非常頭痛呢

另外, 每日放學後佢都已經超級疲倦, 返到屋企沖完涼, 食完晚飯都已經想瞓, 都無咩時間再特別訓練喇......你哋小朋友係咪咁呢？

陸美媽

gigi2

Hi mickeyma,

We need fully support and cooperation from whole family and should not leave you alone to handle the situation.  Perhaps I share with my own case, actually I still take care my elder daughter i.e. reading books, doing homework and playing but got some adjustments from previous practice.

No more extra-activities to be arranged for my elder on Sunday so that I can have full day with my 2 children!  I also will not be the ONLY RESPONSIBLE ONE to take my elder to the activities venues on Saturday and left my younger at home with my maid anymore.    Every night when I monitor my elder to do homework (she is required to do first by herself since K3) and this will speed up the time for me to check her homework at night.  While I am handling with my elder, my husband MUST handle my little one – that is our responsibility to care about our children.  My husband will do training to our younger whilst I revise homework with my elder.  No TV but only news at night long time ago!  Our principle is if one handles the elder or younger, another one must take care the elder or younger at the same time.  We do not allow any ‘rubbish’time given to our small girl anymore i.e. we can be free to do our jobs and let her watch TV alone!!!!!

Playtime is playing together but sometimes will let them play without disturbs as children still need own time to play alone.

Through family daily conversations, sorrows on my face; bring my elder girl together to attend training with ST & OT and very importantly, all along I still keep conversation with my elder and asked her what about her feelings with her sister's problem, so far my elder got understood about the case and the reasons of why I worry so much about it.  

Nevertheless, children is still the children and will forget all reasons behind.  The cooperation from whole family to share responsibility is very important.  Do not adjust all time to your younger suddenly and your big girl must feel very upset about this as there is too big difference to be treated while compare with previously.

hinhinmummy

mickeyma

其實我同你的情況一樣, 阿女成日話我不錫佢, 加上奶奶'煽風點火' 話媽咪只錫弟弟, 不錫你, 有一排, 佢真係妒忌得好緊要.

依家我會叫佢get involve一齊玩, 雖然好simple的遊戲, 但就叫佢做小老師, 一齊教軒軒玩, 軒軒做得叻, 就讚埋家姐, 話家姐教得叻.  如果有時軒軒表現叻, 講多左一個音, 我會讚家姐, 話佢平時日子有功.

雖然依家家姐都會妒忌, 但就比幾個月前小左, 但好左d, 我相信日後都會好轉卦.

試過星期六, 軒軒要返學, 阿女長短週, 短週的時侯, 我會同佢一早起身, 去麥當當食早餐, shopping, 玩下, 再接軒軒放學, 佢會話, 原來無左軒軒, 係甘輕鬆, 我話甘不如不好要軒軒, 放佢去保良局, 送比人啦.  佢又會好緊張話不得, 佢好錫軒軒.

陸美媽

軒軒到依家都係返緊半日, 所以佢肯訓晏覺果一日, 我就會食完飯之後, 同佢係房都玩一個鐘, 先飲奶訓覺.

遇著佢不肯訓晏覺的日子, 我只可以係'陪'訓的時侯, 係佢側邊, 依依哦哦甘講野, 唱下歌仔, 希望佢收得幾多得幾多.

尋晚軒軒指住一隻不似貓的貓, 叫鴨鴨(鴨鴨叫的音), 我話不係, 係'喵wo'(即係貓), 跟住佢再指返一隻似貓的貓, '喵wo'.

不知係不係想話, 呢隻先係貓呢?

mickeyma

Hi, Gigi,
Thank you for your sharing! I think I must take too many responsibilities on my own! I think that the other members in the family can not do as good as I am.  And most of the time, I will take care of all things by myself. Actually, my mother in law and my husband are willing to do that as well.

Your valuable sharing is very good to me, I think I need to talk to my husband and other family members and leave some jobs to them.

Dear Hinhinmummy,

I also tried your way to suggest to give her little brother away, and her reaction was the same as your daughter, and even explained that she could be taken care by my father in law in homework and Go playing, and I should take care of her little brother as
we are whole family, can not be seperated. My elder daughter sometimes is quite mature in the mind and emotional. But.. however, I think my change has been too big to her, from giving most of my time to her before to giving most of my time to my son. She, though 7 years old, is still a kid, needs my time and care as well.

Thank you for all your good sharing. I will try your way to let her play the teacher role in playing.

Mickey ma

gigi2

Mickeyma,

You are so lucky to have many family members who are willing to devote their times to your children.  Yes, you better talk with them and surely they will pay efforts on their grandchildren.  In my family only including I, my husband and my maid to cooperate with each other and no more helping hands la!

Hinhinmummy,
This is quite headache if your mother in law sometimes will speak in this way to your girl. Don't worry and I think that your girl will understand your concerns and difficulties finally!

kmwun

gigi2

近來因為揀小學真係頭都大晒！我見到柴灣角天主教小學每年四次全科測驗加兩次考試已經有d驚，另外考慮到仔仔需要時間適應新環境，如果05年升小學有一次大改變，07年又搬學校真係有d擔心，而且深井又好似遠左d．

上星期六去幼稚園的課程簡介後都有同校長提到仔仔報小學嘅情況，講定可能要勞煩校長幫忙，石鍾山都係天主教小學．

hinhinmummy

gigi2

早幾日, 軒軒係自動電梯到, 整損左小腿, 本來好小事, 但係佢又不肯比我們擦紅藥水, 一擦就抓, 抓完又損, 損完又擦, 擦完又抓, 貼膠布又撕, 我話要貼紗布再包'賓'帶, 老公又話無空氣, 會阻住傷口埋口.

點知第2日放工, 見到佢個傷口已經發炎.  諗住沖完涼再幫佢攪啦, 點知流'濃'tim, 咪即刻帶佢去萬寧搵藥劑師, 搵藥膏擦.

返到屋企, 一個捉手, 一個捉腳, 再幫佢擦, 跟住貼紗布, 包賓帶.

去奶奶度食飯, 姑奶見到, 就話, 點解不一早幫佢貼膠布, 比佢抮到甘大鑊.

我即刻駁佢, 點解? 問你個細佬law(我老公), 又不比我貼紗布, 你估我想咩? 我先係佢媽媽, 佢隻腳甘, 你估我不心痛?

有時別人看來, 看似我無做野, 不關心佢地, 但我們自己的事, 佢地又知得幾多?

自從我鬧過奶奶之後, 我再無聽過阿女話麻麻話媽咪不錫我呢d說話.

亦發覺阿女無甘妒忌.  起碼係我面前, 會同軒軒玩, 好似我們甘教軒軒野, 我覺得, 佢做得比個工人好好多.

gigi2

Kmwun,

Oh I see!  4 tests + 2 exams for a year?!!!  My elder is currently studying in a traditional famous school with only 2 tests + 2 exams per year!  By chance, I want to discuss with Father Law later who is the in charge of Chai Wai Kok primary school (am) and we are the Catholics at Annunciation Church.  I need to think further then…

Hinhinmummy,

Don’t be angry or your husband will be in dilemma being a middleman of you  and his mother which will affect your own family harmony and your son will feel the tensions between parents that will also affect his emotions.  

kmwun

hinhinmummy

我仔仔都試過整親又係唔俾我地擦紅藥水，又唔俾貼膠布，卒之每次佢整親，係我先貼膠布，之後先幫佢貼，俾佢知媽咪都一樣，無玩佢．下次試下啦！

gigi2

我怕程度高嘅學校壓力會太大，雖然未必可以做到愉快學習，但最緊要小朋友學識點樣學習．

HelenMrs.Lau

gigi2 寫道:
Kmwun,

Oh I see!  4 tests + 2 exams for a year?!!!  My elder is currently studying in a traditional famous school with only 2 tests + 2 exams per year!  By chance, I want to discuss with Father Law later who is the in charge of Chai Wai Kok primary school (am) and we are the Catholics at Annunciation Church.  I need to think further then…

I am a Tsuen Wan Mom too!

hinhinmummy

kmwun

軒軒係第一次掙札, 之後可能見傷口無甘痛, 第二次同佢換紗布的時侯, 佢已經不再掙札啦, 還幫我掉左塊舊紗布去垃圾桶,  依家有一次塊紗布的醫生膠有甩甩地, 佢自己貼返上去tim.

st

Mickey ma,

Let me share some experience with u although I got only one child at home.

My fd's experience: U need to spend time with your elder daughter  weekly. it takes around 1-1.5hrs/week. It is very special time for u  and your daughter. Do something she love. e.g. going to the library. do something just for her every week.
After 2 appt, ask her what she feel about the relationshop between u and her. Tell her your worries........

St

kmwun

hinhinmummy

真係要讚下軒軒咁叻仔！

    

gigi2

HelenMrsLau,

Hi neighborhood!     

mickeyma

Dear All Mummy here,

Want to share my hapiness with you after experiencing some low tide:
1) last night, I found my son can ride the bicycle now.
    before, he liked to sit on the bicycle and walk on
    feet. If we put his feet on the bicycle, he would sit
    there and wait somebody to push him. Now he
    started to ride it by himself. (looks so simple for
    2.5 years old, but still makes me very happy)
2) last night, when I went home and checked the
    手册of my daughter, he came to me happily and
    pointed to the 手册and said: 媽媽睇書書. I was so
    happy...  But sometimes, he confused the
    situation. eg. last sunday, he followed me to say:
    姐姐去游水 while seeing his sister going out. He
    said that on monday morning when he saw sister
    going out for school: 姐姐去游水. I immediately
    said: 姐姐去番學...
3) I made dictation review to my daughter and at the same time, explaining the pictures in my daughter's book to my son. He loved that so much.
    Sometimes, I feel he can pick up English more than Cantonese (pronounciation and so on) He can recognize the word: YES & No even in the book and speak it out. (from VCD, he learned that, I guess).

Most important, I want to say thank you for all the encouragement from mummy here.

I spent last night to talk to my daughter about her school life after my son fell sleep. (normally, I am so tired recently and I will fall asleep with my son together) She was happy, I could see.
We did that before so often, but recently, only via phone in the afternoon.

Let's work hard and never give up!

Mickey ma

Dr.T

Dear YY13:

A few questions (to see whether your kid's is likely to be an autistic child, or not):
1. Is it easy to have your child follow your direction? For example, when you point to the door and say 睇下邊個黎左? Will he do that?

2. Will you boy interact with other members of the family besides yourself? How?

3. Has he ever played with other kids and how?

Certainly we need to know more before one can make a proper diagnosis.

It seems that your child hasn't been assessed yet. Get a doctor ASAP (any medical practitioner will do, or qualified psychologist) and ask him/her to write a referral letter (for the service of the Child Assessment Centre) for you. Yes the actual appointment takes months but better starts as soon as you can.

hinhinmummy

yy13

單應你講的幾點, 外人好難分辨佢是否有自閉症/語言遲緩, 最後叫私家醫生寫紙比你個仔去做評估.  不好再拖啦, 因為越早有適當的training, (如果真係有問題的話), 對個小朋友會好d.

但係, 個人意見:

1. 將d車拆晒車輪, 放係床肉底 - 佢有佢的一套玩玩具的方式, 最好制止佢, 不好比佢甘做, 改變佢玩車的方法.

6. 可以連續睇同一隻碟several times, sometimes仲要係movie添 (of course he自己揀嘅).

重覆性行為, 收起晒d vcd, 不好比佢看電視.  我個仔以前都係甘, 後尾收起晒所有vcd.