諗左好耐都決定唔到...

kufubaby

原帖由 spmok1999 於 11-11-18 03:53 發表
講開又講, 大約一兩年前舊同學結婚派帖, 有個舊同學話dbs都識人有興趣可以問下, 但當時都冇咩人有反應(包括我在內), 因為我個係女o黎....
不過之後有冇人搵佢幫手就唔知呢? ...

哎呀, 這類"不定期"聚會見到的人, 我通常都係聽左就算, (除非此人經常見及同佢好熟好了解佢為人) 因為聽得太多都係各人講下自己"近況", 又中意問下其他人"近排點", 然後就會給你一連串的"意見", 我通常只聽不說的:p

spmok1999

原帖由 kufubaby 於 11-11-18 14:40 發表


哎呀, 這類"不定期"聚會見到的人, 我通常都係聽左就算, (除非此人經常見及同佢好熟好了解佢為人) 因為聽得太多都係各人講下自己"近況", 又中意問下其他人"近排點", 然後就會給你一連串的"意見", 我通常只聽不說的: ...

最實際都係靠自已, 比你咁容易得到o既o野就會唔太珍惜, 唔係自已行出o黎o既路就會唔知道有幾艱辛, 自已播下o既種子等到有收成時會格外開心同滿足...

dolphinmama

睇清楚,樓主個女係好叻架(起碼樓主係咁睇),佢對於SC/KV都係100%有信心會收佢個女,所以我先話好想樓主一定要update近況，哈哈！

bbroy

同意。
從來唔鍾意欏朋友/親戚人情，因為人情是還極都還唔請o既奇怪東西。
總不能夠一句為阿女好就把利用人事或走捷徑說成這是為人父母應該要為子女做的偉大事業。
父母身教很重要，我知阿女將來都唔會想知道自己是因為人事關係才入到學校。同時樓主也埋沒了女兒的真正實力，當然運氣都要有。
不要再說有信心阿女可以考到邊d邊d學校了，若有信心不是這樣猶豫不決的。
告訴或和你分享一件事，能靠自己實力獲得的任何東西，那種興奮和高興的感覺真係形容唔到。樓主不想和家人/女女分享此喜悅嗎？
這些全心全意為子女做任何事的媽媽有很多很多，是錯是對外人不應批評，如果唔喜歡聽，我先說聲sorry，學人踩post。樓主女女如果能力是上游分子，不如留d人情機會比其他人吧！

ps：我是0912細女媽媽，我對自己女兒的能力有信心，暫時turn out出來的結果，有挫敗，有欣慰，但心裡永遠都唔會有條人情刺，因為這些都是憑一家的努力獲得的。

少一點藉口，給阿女多一點信心吧！

原帖由 cwymama 於 11-11-16 22:03 發表

其實你個女咁叻，你又駛咩問人攞人情，自己考咪得囉？我個女當年考K1時，都有朋友話可以幫我入一間我心儀嘅一條龍，不過我都婉拒咗，因為我唔想我個女連讀幼稚園都要靠人事，最後我個女都靠自己考入咗。其實你不如考慮吓你個女係 ...

bluigugub

very interesting post.

perhaps 樓主 has been too high-profile thus attracting so much attack.  it may be wiser to remain under the radar if i were her ...   

yet, frankly i doubt if the opportunity really comes that you can make use of some "personal connection" to get your kids into a very good school with fiece competition, how many people could really resist and say "no" simply because they want to rely on the "real ability" of their kids.    Realistically, i doubt how many parents can do it.  honestly, if I had such rare opportunity, I probably won't say no as i wish to give my kids a smoother and easier start.  

as to those suggestion if the kids have no such ability, it won't do them any good to force them into such prestigious schools, I really can't agree.  We are talking about kids of 2 or 3 years old.  the fact that he or she can or cannot perform well at an itnerview does not really reflect the kids' abilities.  the fact that he couldn't pass thru the interview doesn't mean he is not capable, and vice versa.  so it goes to the same conclusion, if there is such a wonderful connection available, how many people could and would say no...

just want to be realistic ... sorry if any of you feel offended by this ...

sheffield

算啦，其實樓主都已有決定，大家放過佢啦…佢見到大家的回應應知衰架啦，如果唔知，大家就更不用side氣…再繼續的話可能會令幫樓主的人有麻煩…

Rickylama

同意。有文采。(世說新語)

siden

原帖由 bluigugub 於 11-11-18 16:38 發表
very interesting post.

perhaps 樓主 has been too high-profile thus attracting so much attack.  it may be wiser to remain under the radar if i were her ...   

yet, frankly i doubt if the opportunity ...

I agree with you.

The temptation is true and real.

Be realistic, maybe only 1 out of 10 persons can resist the temptation.

If a true good friend can bring your son or girl into DGS/DBS/SPCC (and you are sure your child is of at least average ability and won't come last in the class), will you refuse?

I think the theme owner is really struggling, she is not posting the post just to show off. But she does not know saying these in the forum would make many mama feeling sad and helpless, because the majority of us do not have any connection.

IRK

純粹路過，也是有感要發（畢竟在這兒這麼高調自己靠人事入兒稚園的家長真的很少見）。

數年前，我剛懷孕，有某朋友與我談及，她有某些關係，可以進入一些她心儀的幼稚園，當時的我初聽，很羨慕，亦知道只要我開口問，她一定會幫我。不過可能由於自己有信仰背景的關係，多多少少知道靠人事是不公平的方法，而且，我想做一個問心無槐的母親。於是我祈禱，希望將來自己不需要用人事也可以考進適合自己小孩的學校，此事也漸漸淡忘了。

最後這朋友，因為孩子的問題，進入不了正規學校，那關係，也用不著。

數年後，我們幸運地考入了心儀的幼兒園，和朋友說起，才知道當年她想利用關係考入的幼稚園，其中一間就是我們考入了的那間。

樓主的做法，雖然我個人不認同不過也不會批評，畢竟，誰不想為自己的孩子籌謀最好。分享這個小故事的目的，只是想為沒有關係的家長打氣，其實，這個世界，還是可以選擇走公平的路。

[ 本帖最後由 IRK 於 11-11-18 20:03 編輯 ]

All_is_well

各人睇法各有不同感受,樓主無須太介懷, 我想你都係同好多父母一樣,想為自己小朋友安排最好選擇才上來詢問大家意見姐~
我冇乜意見可以比到你, 只有一樣係當兩公婆一致選擇過了, 之後就不要後悔當初的選擇及重提指摘,影響雙方的關係... !

叮噹媽媽

其實我都覺得樓主有呢嗰connection實在是很難抗拒，但講真如果自己仔女有實力或你有信心我會靠自己，等第時有人問到都唔會唔好意思唔知點答。
我之前有aunti話可以幫我問入海怡V記但我都冇接受到因1）唔想成世見到呢位aunti都有些不好意思的感覺，2）唔可以比囝囝成績差因覺得對aunti唔住咁。
衣家囝囝憑自己入到一間都好多人爭的k，心裡總是有一些安慰同唔須要向誰人交侍。
這只是自己個人意見想同大家分享而已。

meloeskie2

原帖由 Rickylama 於 11-11-18 18:10 發表
同意。有文采。(世說新語)

Thank you!

傻太

原帖由 Lachesis 於 11-11-19 00:38 發表


其實我一早都知用關係唔係咁好
開post原因唔係show off or 搵交嗌
見到大家咁大反應我講多次sorry先

樓主, 我相信你是真的煩惱, 但真的太高調了, 幫你的人&果間kg有點無辜...

縱然知道/相信/以為囝囡好醒, 但為安全計, 都想多一份保險...老c幾日in咁多個小朋友, 真係咁好眼, 俾分咁準??  真係幾分鐘就秤到幾個小朋友既斤兩??  又或者怕小朋就係果幾分鐘發神經, 世事難料...所以好多時做父母既, 寧欠一份人情, 都希望為子女買多份保險...

我無認同or唔認同樓主借關係入學, 但只覺得唔應咁高調...一來會抹黑了間學校, 二黎會令其他無關係既家長更提心吊膽...

spmok1999

冇信心就接受
有信心就拒絕

crystalpui

其實識人都係煩
我都識人係某間學校老師
個老師成日問我女係唔係入佢間學校讀
但其實, 我既dream school唔係佢個間學校
(係出名龍校)
雖然我報左, 但我冇寫佢名係個介紹人到
一來, 我唔想佢專登幫我
二來, 我必未真係會讀
三來, 佢幫左我而我又唔讀好似唔太好意思
所以, 如果冇心去讀
真係唔好搵人幫手
欠人地人情係好煩的

不過, 如果係龍校, 我多數會俾佢讀左龍校kinder先, 到小學先再大抽獎
起碼有個backup
(我target係國際, 所以龍校都唔讀)

j-mum

我都有朋友個囡靠人事入左SC PN..so good....no need to go through those tiring interviews....

原帖由 pandabonita 於 11-11-18 09:14 發表
都5一定,有位朋友靠人事入左...

[ 本帖最後由 j-mum 於 11-12-2 01:41 編輯 ]

lnp

入咗龍校先
之後睇吓小朋友材料
再轉

2Fats

人地已經揀咗KV嘞！