2005年學之園PN班

LydiaWong

Doris,
Preston likes to hold hands of the teachers, maybe he does not feel secure enough and like to get close to the adults. He participated the am ex. more b4 the cNY but after that he missed school quite a bit and now he just likes to watch other kids.
I'm feel so happy and thrilled that when Preston saw me outside the school, he told his friends that I'm his mama. Coz when they're older, maybe 8 or 9 yrs old, they don't like their mom visit them at school anymore and esp. boys will feel shameful with their mom when they are old enough.

meowmeow

DorisTSL,

I haven't make up my mind yet..  But the most important thing is kid can study happily.

I'll take a look there later!

thanks vm.

ljsze

Doris, the kids performed singing last time during the Open Day.  It was interesting to see kids performing as a group.

Meowmeow, I do suggest you to pay a visit to the school during Open Day.

Lydia, my son also likes to hold the hands of teachers (especially native Eng-speaking teachers).  I guess kids feel more secured.  Yet, he does have some good friends in the class.  In fact, my son & two classmates take the same minibus everyday after school.  It's also interesting to see them interacting with other kids & make friends with each other at their age.

DorisTSL

Lydia and ljsze,

It turns out that kids don't need to perform in the Open Day this time.  Yet, the school has prepared many activities for kids.  It worths paying a visit.

Unfortunately, I have to work on Saturday morning.  I guess my Mom will bring Brian to school on that day.

XYZ媽咪

本人想為囡囡報讀學之園pn班, 現在1516, 不知報今年5月的插班(得下午班) 還是8月(上/下, depend on result), 想問下讀緊學之園的BB, 今年的暑假由幾時放到幾時, 如果太長的話, 我好大機會會選擇8月入讀(C 拉嗎), 請比D意見啦     

LydiaWong

XYZ媽咪 ,
Summer vaction usually starts in mid or end of July and only lasts about 3 weeks and school starts agin in ~10-11 Aug. That's why they charge 12 months school fee.

LydiaWong

Doris,
It's good to hear that they don't need to perform this time coz Preston was so shy last few times and just want to hold me. He rather just play freely than perform in front of so many people. He needs to train up to overcome his shyness.
Preston has quite bad temper recently (worse). Sometimes he has his own mind and so stubborn nothing can change his mind. Like today we planned to take him out but he just ddin't want to change clothes and just want to stay home without reason. We struggled for 30 min. just to get him changed and kept crying and even wanted to lie on the ground when we went out. However, when we took the bus he was perfectly fine and no problem when we had lunch in the resturatnt. Sometimes he just turns out to be so stubborn and won;t listen to any instructions.One minute he's so sweet kissing you and the next minute he may drive you crazy. I try not to scold him but explain to him or ask him but just doesn't really work.

ljsze

Doris,  the Open Day starts from 10am till 4pm.  If you don't have to work overtime, I think it's better than you bring your son there in the afternoon.

Lydia, Doris, kids at this age are really quite stubborn, and it's normal.  Mine is also the same.  He wanted to play the water in the bathroom rather than in the balcony gardening.  He struggled for some 10 minutes by crying out very loudly.  We did not give in & finally he watered the flower.

This kind of behaviour sometimes drives me crazy but I still hold my anger.

Lydia, Doris, just want to know if you've got a lot less social gathering during weeknight.  As a mother, we somehow sacrifice a lot more than the father.

DorisTSL

Lydia and ljsze,

Brian has the same problem.  He is so stubborn that it's difficult to get along with.

I had to join some talks and seminars at night recently.  When Brian knew that I would be late for home, he asked my parents to bring him out.  When they said no, Brian would cry out and struggle.  He was always the winner.  When he realized that this method worked, he tried to use it frequently.  I felt so tired to stop him.  Anyway, I understand that it's normal.

ljsze,
I seldom join social gathering recently.  I am busy at work, so I would rather go home earlier to take a rest and spend the time with Brian in weekday nights.  For weekends, my parents will go out and I have to take care of Brian.  It is a luxurious thing to go out alone in weekend nights.

ljsze

Doris & Lydia

The school is beautifully decorated again for the Open Day.

Doris, I know lots of moms prefer staying home at night.  Taking care of the child seems to be a mother's job.  I've got the same view point.  It's just that I'm thinking that the relationship with friends will be loosening.  This is a bit undesirable.

LydiaWong

ljsze and Doris,
I totally agree with you. I think I cut more than 80% of social gathering with my friends. Sometimes I want to go out for dinner, but end up Preston is sick or something else and cancelled. Even going out with my husband has cut down a lot too. We feel bad to leave him with the maid at home so we don't often go out for dinner much. We still haven't had out Valentine dinner (maybe this weekend). As a working mom, I really want to spend time with Preston at night and he likes to play with me and wants me to read him story b4 going to bed. However, I enjoy this period coz when they get older, we 'll be the one who left alone at home.

sylviawu

ljsze,
when is the open day?  is it over already?

DorisTSL

Lydia and ljsze,

Similar situation.
I always felt guilty to leave Brian home with my parents at night.  Even if my husband and I went out for dinner or gathering, we would choose places close to home and we would try our best to go home before Brian went to bed.  But as Lydia said, we should enjoy this valuable period of together-time.  After all, I feel no problem with my present situation and I enjoy it.

Lydia,
Brian cried a few times in school recently.  He still didn't know how to share and he didn't know how to react when someone took the toys from his hands, except crying.  Hope he can come to the next stage soon.

ljsze

sylviawu, open day of LV campus will be this Sat.

ljsze

Doris, Lydia

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.  We do have to meet friends from time to time.  So, I choose to have lunch gathering (my job is flexible & I can have lunch anytime anywhere).  As for gathering at night, I do try to go home before my sons sleeps.

Just learnt from a friend that she's pregnant & expecting a 2nd baby.

How about you, how many kid do you have ?

I do know that two kids are better than one but it's seems that I cannot afford to do so.  What's your point of view ?

LydiaWong

ljsze,
I have a lot of friends who have the 2nd baby already. I want to have another girl coz girl is less active and when you are old, they will be the one who take care of you. Not like boys, they will take care of their wife and in-laws usually. However, Imy husband doesn't really want another kid due to financailly and physically. I'll decide next year otherwise I'm too old to take care of them. It's a difficult decision, can't understand why people can have 10 kids in the old days.

DorisTSL

ljsze and Lydia,

Both my husband and I want to have two babies coz we think it is beneficial to kids development.  

However, we are facing some problem:  
1.  My parents are getting older and they are not as healthy as they were before
2.  My husband works in USA and he will only spend around 5 mos of a year in the office in Hong Kong.  I am the only one to take care of my kid in weekends.
Hard to decide.

ljsze

Lydia, don't expect your kids to pay you back. Yet, I do agree that girls will take care of the parents more when they grow up.  I guess my husband is one of the exceptions.  I have to live with them.

Doris,  so sad that you cannot stay with your husband all the time.  Why don't you just quit your job, taking care of your kid & enjoy life ?

LydiaWong

Doris,
My husband needs to go on trip all the time too. But usually twice a month and a few days only. I know it's difficult to take care by yourself. Hiring a maid is one solution and can take some load off your parents. For us, both of our parents are not available to take care of my son, so we have a maid to take care of Preston. However, if we have another kid, one maid is probably not capable of taking care of 2 kids, so it's a problem too. What a hard decision.
ljsze,
I don't expect any payback from my son, however, I think girls will be closer to mom and can talk more with mom than boys. As I mentioned b4, there are still a lot of unsolved problems, so not yet decide whether we will have another kid or not.
Will you go to the Open day tomorrow? What time? We will go around 11:30am, see if I can meet you.