幸福不是必然的---千金難買少年窮

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千金難買少年窮

19/04/2016

【晴報專欄】大女兒在英國唸書，住過兩個寄住家庭，先苦後甜，算是走運。
第一個家庭，有一位老婦和一頭狗。初來甫到，孩子過的是真實的英國低下階層生活。老婦是退休人士，離了婚，獨居，典型英國大胖子，因為太肥，加上一把年紀，故不太願動，家中髒亂，還有點儲物癖，有個客房用來堆放雜物，物事疊到天花板，擠到開不了門。
我送女兒進屋那天，看到廚房洗碗盆浸滿幾天未洗的杯碟，心想，潔癖女兒這回「大鑊」了，因為這個女兒向來是家中管家，非常愛整潔，如今要在「亂葬崗」中生存，實在難受。惟有跟孩子說，住在別人家庭，不能事事如己意，如果你看不過眼她幾天不洗碗，就動手替她洗吧。
於是，女兒從此當了老婦的洗碗機，放學回來，總有大堆杯碟浸在洗碗盆，她在電話那頭一直呻：「人家英國家庭個個都有洗碗碟機，偏偏我就要做她的人肉洗碗器……」幫忙洗大餅，有時還要被駡：「這裏不是香港，我們水費很貴，沖沖水好了，你洗這麼久幹嗎？」我只能安慰：「婆婆孤身一人，當然要死慳死抵，體諒點吧！」
老婦習慣節衣縮食，晚餐都是在超市買快過期的特價預煮食物，回家放在焗爐熱一下就食得。女兒午餐帶回學校的三文治，通常塗點醬，沒甚麼餡料，總不夠飽。孩子在香港活在中產家庭，來到她嚮往的英倫，竟過着低下階層生活，理想與現實的落差，讓她體會到一個簡單卻深刻的道理——幸福果真不是必然的。
作為母親，我的角色就是每天聆聽。感謝今日科技，讓隔萬里的我們不花錢就可以通電話，女兒每日都會打電話回來聊天，我就樂於聆聽她每晚訴說的「千金難買少年窮」故事。

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原帖由 skIII 於 16-05-05 發表
冇留意佢好耐，記得以前建華時代，佢頭條新聞成日諷刺老董，而家差過以前N倍，但竟佢可以做梁粉，呢樣都算 ...

兩公婆都係

skIII

亮燈 發表於 16-5-4 19:49
林超榮，係梁粉！所以並不是南轅北轍。

冇留意佢好耐，記得以前建華時代，佢頭條新聞成日諷刺老董，而家差過以前N倍，但竟佢可以做梁粉，呢樣都算南轅北轍。

nintendo

Mighty 發表於 16-5-4 18:48
她的丈夫是否以前[頭条新聞]個位？　政見応該南轅北轍喎！　

Why do you think they need to have any stance at all?
Isn't it obvious that with 3 young daughters to feed, and the intention to get them all to boarding schools, there are other things that are more important?

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Mighty 發表於 16-5-4 18:48
她的丈夫是否以前[頭条新聞]個位？　政見応該南轅北轍喎！　

林超榮，係梁粉！所以並不是南轅北轍。

Mighty

她的丈夫是否以前[頭条新聞]個位？　政見応該南轅北轍喎！　

reneew

原帖由 Mighty 於 16-05-02 發表
就係吾明点解GUM多人睇仾嘅文章！！

係睇佢點樣亂噙，講埋的違心的說話。

skIII

YauMum 發表於 16-5-2 13:08
...3. years ago, water bills included in that kind of land rate, not like HK.  Unless, they change the policy.  Hot water may cost a lot

Water bills might be included for some flats. But for most houses, they are not included. The fee is around £2 (HK$23) per  cubic metre of water. Some houses are not equipped with water meters. They are charged according to the number of bedrooms. The water bill for a 3-bedroom house is around  £350 per year. It is very expensive indeed compared with HK.

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nintendo 發表於 16-5-2 14:13
百貨應百客嘛

nintendo

Mighty 發表於 16-5-2 14:30
雖然YAUMUM講嘅、我不是全部明解、但係我係第一個弾出来話作者篇文章有問題的。　後来先知原来係屈某人写嘅 ...

香港 D 公主好巴閉，又唔係甚麼大戶人家千金，都不做家務。

Mighty

就係吾明点解GUM多人睇仾嘅文章！！

nintendo

YauMum 發表於 16-5-2 13:08
I recall years ago, my life in UK, nevertheless, a few points I don't agree:-
1. not every UK family ...

其實呢個家庭乜料咁巴閉？
甚麼叫 "買少年窮"？
佢地大戶人家？
洗幾隻碗咋，都咁多事，真麻煩。

Mighty

雖然YAUMUM講嘅、我不是全部明解、但係我係第一個弾出来話作者篇文章有問題的。　後来先知原来係屈某人写嘅、吾怪知得啦。　這類文章、只用来欺騙未去過英国嘅人看的、対英国知少少嘅人、都会知道作者嘅愚眛。　又或者掉番転、亜屈以為大部分都好似她一様愚眛、去相信這様離地嘅[現実].

nintendo

亮燈 發表於 16-4-25 14:13
佢冇本事當娼，惟有做文妓！

百貨應百客嘛

YauMum

dsedse 發表於 16-4-19 09:56
千金難買少年窮

19/04/2016

I recall years ago, my life in UK, nevertheless, a few points I don't agree:-
1. not every UK family has dishwashing machine
2. once you offer to the washing up, they will presume you like to make the offer from then
3. years ago, water bills included in that kind of land rate, not like HK.  Unless, they change the policy.  Hot water may cost a lot
4. the landlady has been living there for years, of course, she found nothing wrong of her home, a new comer may be.
5. do not expect all westerners are rich, most of them just have sufficient money for daily living
6. also, sale items in uk is not rare at supermarket, the on shelf rules are very strict, so, sale does not mean bad, nothing wrong to buy the sale items but you need to use up by the best due date, that is.

Well, the girl does not need to work, it is pity?

I remember, I did cut the discount tokens for shopping and also bought sale items etc.

From my point of view, the 16 years old daughter or HK kids have been spoiled for years.  This is real and normal UK life, not that kind of '窮'.

I am very sorry to say that it is not a fair comment.

winnie_bbb

亮燈 發表於 16-4-25 14:13
佢冇本事當娼，惟有做文妓！

Exactly!!!

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原帖由 nintendo 於 16-04-25 發表
好聽的，就話為經濟為生意為份工，個個唔敢出聲。
結果？
笑貧不笑 X。

佢冇本事當娼，惟有做文妓！

nintendo

好聽的，就話為經濟為生意為份工，個個唔敢出聲。
結果？
笑貧不笑 X。
三個女，唔細負擔。
仲話要去英國讀書喎。

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原帖由 merci2046 於 16-04-25 發表
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讓領導先走, 哈哈!

所以制度先係重要，人是永可信的，但可惜中國人永遠就是等待明君，奴性太重！