re: how to handle school violence ?

iamjoy

My son got beaten in his primary school. That guy hit my son's head, face with fist and thighs with kicks. What should I do to stop that?

annie40

My son got beaten in his primary school. That guy hit my son's head, face with fist and thighs with kicks. What should I do to stop that?
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原来看留了, 你的孩子是被毒打, 请快快去报警!

annie40

回復 pandean 的帖子

……看到尼度，真系幾驚～～
希望阿仔唔會遇到了，我真系完全唔識處理尼種問題。
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可否当呢次是大好良机, 来检视孩子的性格. 如果是针对性的bully, 更要想想, 何必偏偏選中我的孩子? 是好虾D 吗?

1) 家庭教育太良善, 非常基督徒的, religion 教唔可以show unlike , 性格非常温顺. (是爸妈的错).
2) 身材较细小, 学习或是比较缓的,
3) 好朋友不算多, 或是刚好孩子的朋友受欢迎, 有人希望来独占.
4) 或是其他.........................

可否温婉的把情况转告学校, 请他们多加留意子女的情况. 如果是:
问题1)
-  这类孩子十分善良, 却极富正义感, 去告诉他做人必需温柔时温柔, 恶死时恶死, (喜欢出手也可以),千其唔好扮没事发生, 维护世界和平不是为自己, 而是为其他可能也被bully 的朋友, 今天bully 是你, 明天是别的孩子.
- 要如何开堂讲课和training, 父母想想吧........................
问题2)
- 尽快强健孩子的体魄, 帮助孩子的学习进度, (世界上没有小矮人敢于挑战巨人啊)
问题3)
- 如果是小学, 留意班中的心肠好, 又番番掂的孩子, 鼓励他们交朋友(放学一起playdate), 或是跟他的妈妈打个招呼, 交代情况, 好让身边有位保护神, 埋左好堆, 保证没人够胆bully令郎的.  交朋结友很重要, 父母倒要帮点忙. .

其他问题便用其他方法应付吧!  喜欢bully 别人的孩子, 原因不外乎, 身份被威胁, 妒嫉, 自卑,或自大, 可怜又可恨!

pandean

……看到尼度，真系幾驚～～
希望阿仔唔會遇到了，我真系完全唔識處理尼種問題。

Jane1983

有d小朋友被縱壞，一吾鍾意就打人，~4歲人仔，但手腳好重。

在playroom，試過善意規勸、對家長表達意見、同兩個小朋友解釋，以致嚴詞指責等等，都無用。唯獨還手，佢知痛知有consequence，先有所顧忌。

lillymarie

我細囝過去兩年亦間唔中被同學無故推撞跌倒，很多瘀傷。老實說，老師很難捉到同學。我唯有教阿囝自保，起碼不要讓人打自己。

ANChan59

JustAParent 發表於 13-2-2 09:58
練武、「還拖」、「笠頭」，這𥚃的回應還真重口味。

我以為她們講笑！

Jane1983

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先say ＂No，吾好＂，跟住走開，再黎就還手。
好多小朋友縱得太勁，父母見女打人扮懵，要教小朋友保護自己！

JustAParent

練武、「還拖」、「笠頭」，這𥚃的回應還真重口味。

Yanamami

Jane1983 發表於 13-1-18 14:21
小朋友要成日昅實的。

我女以前係playroom爭玩具打人，教極吾聽，我同佢講再打人，返屋企罰佢。

You teach her to還手???? Unbelievable.....Is this the right thing to do? Is there a better way to protect herself?

fishchow

學柔道／抬拳道自強

Jane1983

laorenjia 發表於 13-1-18 13:43
bksummer

我仲以为我係另類，我教阿女，还拖再讲，唔夠打就更加要打，(被)打到對方第日見到自己都要運路走 ...

小朋友要成日昅實的。

我女以前係playroom爭玩具打人，教極吾聽，我同佢講再打人，返屋企罰佢。


最近發覺佢係playroom，被人打吾還手，我問佢點解吾保護自己，佢話打人我地會嬲，講極都任人打，唯有話佢吾還手，返屋企罰佢。好無奈！

阿Yan

另外長遠方面要令小朋友自強，了解成被欺者原因，對症下藥，減低再成為欺凌對象的機會。

laorenjia

bksummer

我仲以为我係另類，我教阿女，还拖再讲，唔夠打就更加要打，(被)打到對方第日見到自己都要運路走，千奇咪睇眼前得失避開，除非對方有心打瓜自己(細路仔好少有咁嘅深度)，拳頭交，万事有阿爸撐。阿女小學嘗有一同學成日蝦佢，如今係佢最friend嗰個，先排我舉例佢最要好嘅同學UE考A乃此姝。小學蝦蝦霸霸嘅，多數有啲料到。

阿Yan

趕快為傷勢拍照留紀錄，將事情經過丶日期紀錄。如校方沒有妥善處理，可考慮報警，讓欺負人的知嚴重性，被欺者知道有出路。

bksummer

笠住死仔包個頭and do the same to him,tic for tat. 20次甘多wor!擺明係個惡霸喇！不教訓佢佢真以為呢個世界冇公義！好激氣！

cherubic

回復 iamjoy 的帖子

The school may not have handled it properly.  I think the main issue is to avoid it happens again.  My son was bullied by a kid of another class (not violent acts).  I told my sold to handle it himself - report it to teacher and find out the reason why.  I also told him there must be a bigger bully behind every bully.  So my son went to find out who was behind and luckily he found that person (which is in fact my son's friend).  They sorted it out themseleves.

I suggest you to find the reason for the bullying acts.

iamjoy

thanks for your advice. he is just p.2. but the kid was really violent. he banged my son's head with the door. i found my son has bruises on his thighs, buttock, and on the side of the belly in the past weeks. He told me they are sport injuries but I persuaded him to tell me the truth. This bully has been hitting my son for over 20 times and is very violent. I told the school and the counselor met that boy and said that he was remorseful and cried. but nothing is really done. What should I do?