朋友個女放棄DGS, 是否很傻? - 升中派位

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有人追逐名校，但有人入了名校又捨她而去。有個朋友個小朋友前年大抽獎入咗皇仁，讀咗一年，成績中上，去年F.2開學無耐，佢突然間同父母講想去英國讀書，佢父母都好surprised，同亞仔商量咗一大輪，亞仔心意堅決，問佢唔覺得可惜咩!亞仔話唔覺得，仲話只想揀一條自己喜歡嘅路，上年12月便去了英國。所以名不名校對小朋友來說都並不是最重要，應着眼於什麼是最適合他們才是最重要呢!

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wymwym 真係有錢，話想去就去。發表於 12-4-21 16:24

One-Mama 對呀! 何'傻'之有呢? 外人實在難以評論, 每個人生/教育路途是個人的決定, 並無固定形態或必經點. 發表於 12-4-20 22:04

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Agree.
Insiders  >>>>>>>  School  <<<<<<<<  Outsiders

            Challenge          Pressure
            Free hand          Pushy
            Not much work    Heavy workload

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God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

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When your kids in there, you may know the true picture. If not, why bother and comment.

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cellon Cannot agree more ! 發表於 12-4-20 20:14

yukico 講得好! 發表於 12-4-20 20:12

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I think of a Chinese poem,

別人笑我太瘋癲　我笑他人看不穿

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Netbrowser 發表於 12-4-20 16:30
Frankly speaking for top #1 #2 colleges in HK, if you tell me that they put no pressure on the stude ...

I also tend to believe more pressure comes from parents. The schools simply don't have to add any more coz kids already have unlimited pressure from parents.

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Frankly speaking for top #1 #2 colleges in HK, if you tell me that they put no pressure on the students, I don't believe it.

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Netbrowser 發表於 12-4-20 13:00
選擇頂級名校, 唔止小朋友, 就連父母都有極大壓力.

Not necessary, I scale down my expectation, no problem at all.

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courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

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oscarmama 發表於 12-4-18 21:52
如果小朋友有能力，而又可遇強越強，讀間高水準學校咁就吾會sign咗個小朋友，但人各有意，响佢自已熟識讀得 ...

Absolutely. Child's abiliy comes first. If he is not good enough to get in top school, then it is never a question. Second is child's attitude and personality. If the child looks for challenge and enjoying being ahead of his/her peer, top school makes a prefect choice. I know a girl who likes to compete for everything. Even during the training session running, swimming, she never gives up to compete. Third, how the child gets along with others is also important. If a child like to meet new friends and never afraid of being in new environment, this is no harm for him/her to start a challlege in a top school. After all, it is the child who should make the decision. As parents, we play the facilitating role only!!

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選擇頂級名校, 唔止小朋友, 就連父母都有極大壓力.

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引用：+本帖最後由+ohnono+於+12-4-19+20:40+編輯

原帖由 ohnono 於 12-04-19 發表
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說到底還是學校為本與學生為本的問題。

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JustAParent 發表於 12-4-19 20:14
唔同小朋友性格不同，不是個個願意跑願意爭，現實上，就有不少孩子升中後出現各種問題而要輔導。選校絕對不 ...

小朋友願唔願意跑，睇下有沒有誘因啦。band 1跟band 3學校都可能有不同的誘因，亦有不同的方向。Band 1學校可能在學習上而band 3學校可能在技能上。所以我係強調要有相同方向才可一窩蜂向著終點跑，揀方向便拼命去跑就可以了。

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想當年自己都有這樣的煩惱。煩條小朋友會否適應係有壓力下讀書，惱係小朋友唔捨得那些同學，又要面對 ...

唔同小朋友性格不同，不是個個願意跑願意爭，現實上，就有不少孩子升中後出現各種問題而要輔導。選校絕對不可能由一張似是而非的排名可解決，那間合適，只有父母和小朋友自己最清楚。選錯校，和嫁錯老公差不多，死得很慘的。不要為面子，為別人而活，人生是自己的。

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pchui2046 Agree. 發表於 12-4-19 20:20

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yumommom 發表於 12-4-19 17:57
I also got this happy problem.

I am still struggling whether go to DGS or stay at the existing附屬 ...

想當年自己都有這樣的煩惱。煩條小朋友會否適應係有壓力下讀書，惱係小朋友唔捨得那些同學，又要面對一班新的面孔。原來小朋友的適應能力真的得強，開學不到第二天已有同學一起外出午飯。學習的問題更只是庸人自擾，遇強愈強就係現在年青人佢地本領，一窩蜂向著相同的方向走，沒有同學會甘願落後於他人的。

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Is「放棄參加自行及統一派位的承諾書」the document that parents signed during DSS registration?

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yumommom 發表於 12-4-19 17:57
I also got this happy problem.

I am still struggling whether go to DGS or stay at the existing附屬中學。From the bottom of my heart I think that the existing school is good for my daughter, but DGS seems irrisistible, out of 虛榮感。 ...

"still struggling" ?　

今天不是已經決定了嗎？若交了「放棄參加自行及統一派位的承諾書」你已放棄了自行及統一派位，若仍未交，你應該已放棄了DGS。

其實你是否已放到DGS 的offer 呢？還是仍是Reserved List/Waiting List?

若真的仍未決定，最好問問女兒，畢竟要讀六年的是她。

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I also got this happy problem.

I am still struggling whether go to DGS or stay at the existing附屬中學。From the bottom of my heart I think that the existing school is good for my daughter, but DGS seems irrisistible, out of 虛榮感。

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就算全港第一, 都係間學校而唔係個學生. 如果個學生留在原校直升, 免左重新適應新學校,新同學, Form 1 已經 ready 好, 對個學生咪仲好. 名校又唔係得一間.

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本帖最後由 Netbrowser 於 12-4-19 11:24 編輯

Frankly speaking, I was graduated from so called "famous" college in 80s'. The schools were not so special, but most of them admitted high quality students and so their students could attain outstanding academic results.

Their teaching staff were just so so...

In fact, I prefer schools from 2nd layer of Band 1A, cos they are still striving to boost their standard to the first layer.

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Yanamami Fair comment that reflect the reality! 發表於 12-4-19 13:27

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本帖最後由孺子牛於 12-4-18 23:07 編輯

我相信主角的直上學校本身已是不錯, 而學生本身一定是地頭蟲, 十分熟路, 去到中學, 又是個堆同學, 換句話說, 又是自己地頭. 基本上無適應環的問題.

DGS 一來要錢 (假設直上舊個間唔使),

二來人家的中學生又多是小學上來, 你是少數民族, 適應期當然長很多.

而且去到DGS, 人哋分分鐘唔少叻人, 你可能只是其中之一, 在舊校可是尖子來的.  當然估計平均成績是DGS 好, 但在咁激的環境下讀書可能幾辛苦...

三來, 入大學是中學完姞的目標, 但個問題是, 入大學未必一定要DGS, 如果囡囡讀得開心, 分分鐘到最後的表現不比在超名校來得差.  中學六年是人生的黃金歲月, 如果仔囡覺得上舊校開心而間學校本身唔錯, 我想我一定會尊重她的.