喊是討厭的行為嗎?

Piglety

我的女兒在學校喊了兩次,一次跌倒, 一次唔舒服發燒. 老師說她喊是討厭的行為??真的嗎?

Sindy

喊係表達情既其中一個方法, 並唔係全部, 要教佢可以有其他方法, 但痛/唔舒服/傷心, 細路仔, 點會唔喊丫.. 大人咩.... 老師咁講好唔積極同唔專業囉, 為人師表, 教導小朋友佢都有責任呀, 佢應該教個大人係屋企點可以幫到個小朋友唔係咩事都喊, 咁先係解決件事架麻, 話討厭可以幫到咩?

daisy17772

I can't agree with "喊真係幾討厭的行為".  Obviously, teachers in HK don't want to see their students crying because they just don't want to handle the problems, so they take this behaviour as 煩.  On the other hand, I could understand teachers are busy, but I can't accept that teachers described it as 討厭.  So many things in our life are much 討厭 or 麻煩 , those who can handle more 麻煩 things are always having higher EQ and hence could handle their own life in much better ways, and win in the career field.  

As parents, we have to guide our kids through their ups and downs, and learn to discern what are just noises and what are truly important to us.  Imagine when our kids become teenagers, would you still want to see them not willing to express themselves and keep all the "secrets" in their mind, or you rather want to see them telling us their stories.  Personally I won't teach the young kids that they need to be 堅強 all the time without acknowledge that sometimes crying is acceptable, 堅強 is a character that one needs to develop, it's not something we can tell them to do.  Rather, I acknowledge their feelings, teach them how to handle the issue and problems, discovering with them what are the options available to them. Then with more experiences, they know 喊不能解決問題, gradually they would become 堅強.

But I'm not describing those people who deliberately like to "cry" to make people feel mercy on them.  

lillymarie

老師說“討厭”其實只反映他自己的情緒狀況，是老師自己覺得煩。小朋友哭的情況很多，很難一刀切說應該不應該。

我若是樓主，只會同囡囡講既然老師不喜歡見到小朋友喊，就盡量不讓他見到，回到家再讓媽媽錫返夠。

do-re-me

即使個學生令老師好煩，身為老師，唔應該覺得學生＂討厭＂，更加唔應該向家長和學生講這兩個字，這兩個字會對學生和家長心靈上造成很大傷害，老師應該和家長商討怎樣改善，而不是單方面怪責他們

Piglety

小女現在小二, 學習里程還很長,多謝大家的意見.

do-re-me

我相信你女兒是忍不住才喊，個老師好無愛心，個老師先係最討厭！

Parisienne

用〝討厭〞好似唔恰當。
應該解釋〝喊〞係懦弱嘅表現，我哋唔好喊，喊都無用，要堅强d。好多同學仔跌咗都無喊，好少事啫....如果再喊唔停就好醜怪，咁噪無人幫到你喇...

如果老師剩係話喊是討厭行為，嘩！好抽象啫！
點解討厭？討邊個厭？我喊緊時你走過嚟話我討厭，咁老師你都好討我厭啫！咁我覺得老師你好討厭又得唔得？點解唔得？係咪因為我係學生你係老師？
當一個人厭惡某人的行為時而又感到無法控制，佢就會覺得某人好討厭 (例如車廂內食麵，隨地便溺、逼爆醫院......之後仲要鬧你係狗....)。
但當一個老師對住學生話佢討厭時，除咗令個小朋友好confused外，無乜大幫助。
話一個人討厭，會令佢自我形象受損。
喊有好多種，家長同老師都應該做d嘢。

anna59

依家d學校已經好似公司，老師系老細，學生系夥計

anna59

老師咁多嘢做一定唔鍾意人喊啦

lojo11

過份用喊去表達/爭取, 會幾討厭... 但唔舒服, 痛, 感動, 傷心, 點解唔可以喊?

Piglety

其實她不是時常喊的,可能好唔舒服才喊,所以我叫她以後在學校不要喊,要堅強D, 喊不能解決問題,會令人討厭的.

LouBB

原帖由 Piglety 於 12-01-21 發表
我的女兒在學校喊了兩次,一次跌倒, 一次唔舒服發燒. 老師說她喊是討厭的行為??真的嗎? ...

我個人都好憎啲小朋友小小事就喊。

係、呢個係舒發情感的其中一個方法，但坦白講要小朋友用呢個方法先可以得到基本関愛或注意，我認為大人做得唔夠咯。

重有，大人應鼓勵小朋友做事要堅強啲

ANNAFRIEND

我兩個女都好少在學校喊, 細女有次趺得好傷都係忍住放學, 見到我先喊. 佢都唔鐘意在學校喊. 我都睇情況, 好似細女趺得甘緊要, 喊好正常, 但佢都可以忍到放學, 我比個讚佢. 不過我覺得情有可原之下喊係好正常, 唔討厭羅.

fanwong29

"喊''都要看是在什麼情況之下發生/原因,以你上述因由可理解(痛/唔舒服),但有d小明友真係好識用"喊"來.....:當作表達方式!

VKwan

在我個人來講，唔代表其他人or應該持有既立場，我誠實答你，喊真係幾討厭的行為，所以我個仔甚少喊，無論咩原因，喊只會比我鬧多幾錢重！