反叛期少年講這些, 你接受到嗎??

bubbles114

小兒十三歲, 讀男女校, 成績算好, 和我都有溝通.
他亦有同我講佢like某女仔, (果個女仔由小学一齐升上去, 我都識佢) 昨天無意中看到他和男仔朋友的online chat , 說”I love xxx (果個女仔), I wanna fxxx her”.


OMG, 我有些不可相信13歲可以如此講, 此時覺得他好似同我認識的囝囝不同了, 雖然你知道這只是吹水of fxxx, 他亦冇同個女仔拍拖, 但我看完之後心裏很不舒服, 覺得佢很nasty and dirty, 鍾意咪鍾意, 點解要講”fxxx her”


我真是接受不到, 很shock, 亦覺得講這些說話很inappropriate.
我成晚睡不著, 未同hubby講, 如同hubby講真不知會演變什么不可收拾情況


在此情況, 你們会如何做?

bristolso

hello咁多位家長
本身我係想上黎睇下有無人想補習
點知見到呢個topic覺得好interest
因為你地所講既仔仔同女女真係幾似我
哈哈
反叛期係一定有嫁..
我都唔知點解
由於媽媽係全職家庭主婦
成日見到我都叫我溫書
講真..真係太長氣太煩喇
我知佢想為我好
但係呢就因為咁適得其反令我更唔想溫
反而有一排佢唔理我我就開始驚喇
得閒自己拎書黎讀..
另外
依家其實私隱對小朋友好重要
即係好似我媽咪成日望住我玩電腦
同埋睇我d野汁我間房等等
我都好唔中意...
因為我覺得呢d係我既野..
其實本身無咩野
所以成日比佢話我神神秘秘
另外話好似講fxxk her之類字眼
純粹因為依家既社會已經唔同
文化都開放左..
可能呢d字係錯..
但係可能都係新一輩溝通方法
因為我本身讀band 1都好多同學成日講
習以為常
佢同人傾可能都只係真係吹下水
其實最重要係佢係屋企無講粗口
即係依家我19歲都未係屋企講過粗口咁
因為我尊重我屋企人
呢d我覺得要欣然接受
其實流行曲同朋輩都好影響到愛情觀
即係以前d歌通常反映社會狀況好似許冠傑之類等等
但依家差唔多所有歌都係講愛情方面
加上我依家都做緊個研究報告
現代青年證明左係早熟左好多
所以政府其實都諗緊最低合法性交應唔應該下調由16去到14
家長可以做既唔係專登避開唔提同埋鬧佢地
其實係要同佢地好好傾下覺得性方面點
seriouly
如果家長想加強同子女溝通
可能都要學小小潮語
唔係會覺得你唔入流
加上8p.m之後先返
比著我會諗
嘩~正呀屋企無人可以叫朋友黎玩
所以家長可以試下每日set d 目標比佢地
e.g.做哂讀哂i.h第幾至第幾頁
就可以玩..
其實我都好中意朋友黎玩
但通常家長係屋企我就會出去
係因為覺得家長有限制
一陣講錯野又要黑面又唔中意
所以呢d係人之常情
最重要係睇住子女有無食煙呀反叛期
如果唔係真係恨錯難返
or得閒睇下佢地中意咩獎下佢地
小朋友通常中意開明既家長
尊重自己家長
可能因為真係年代有異所以想法有一定出入
希望呢篇野唔會激親你..
只係我小小意見
加油~如果學科成績真係唔好..
可以試下搵上門補習
不過唔係是但上網朋友介紹搵過
最好係你子女係學校既高年級好朋友
因為我d朋友都係咁
有d 低form我依家幫佢地補數
佢地話本身佢地出面其實都有補
但因為唔識加唔想聽佢地講野
其實根本無用又廢事話比家長知
所以識既人會增加佢地動力
同埋佢地真係會留心d
講得唔岩請多多指教
以上只係我既愚見..

hhma

如果bk有得比like as facebook, 我一定比個like你
我十分讚成你既睇法.
我覺得, fxxx對佢地黎講, 只係"吹水".
我地睇好多外語戲, 都係fxxx黎fxxx去架啦.

可能針唔"吉"到肉唔知痛, 不過樓主你唔好太唔開心啦.  男仔把口係甘架啦.

btw, 等我返去又問吓我大仔先

原帖由 delimama 於 11-5-11 14:44 發表
Hi bubbles114,

As my son is about the same age as yours, I asked his view after reading your story.

My son reckons that this is the way today the boys communicate. The one said so doesn't really me ...

delimama

Hi bubbles114,

As my son is about the same age as yours, I asked his view after reading your story.

My son reckons that this is the way today the boys communicate. The one said so doesn't really mean the actually doing. Rather, according to their language, the saying is only to express the boy's passion over the girl.

I was so surprise with his interpretation. I asked if they know what it really means. His reply made me laugh... He said the word fxxx is just a word to show their expression. It can represent 2 opposite meanings - in your case, showing likeness; more commonly use, is to show deep dislike. He remind me that when people scold people with "fxxx", they don't really mean the actual action, it's just an expression.

Well, I understand his saying. But as a mid aged mom, I do need to adjust my toleration for this new generation language.

Probably, what we need to do is to stand by them, understand them, guide them, and help them to overcome this trying age. Age 13-15 is a challenging stage for both the parents and the kids.

Bubble114, all I want to say is... Don't be disappointed with your kid. Just keep an open communication with him, then any iceberg will melt.

Good luck.

Radar

樓主,

你不用咁担心,依家d細路係咁架,由其是男仔同男仔講野,真係嚇死你,佢地實際上仲係細路,但又要扮大人,以為識講呢d野就係大人.

你要搵d適當時間講下香港既法例比你個仔知,係香港任何人'與未成年少女發生性行為'係犯法的,要坐監的,千其唔好搞d未成年少女,遲d佢大個d就一定要教佢避孕,仲要教佢做一個負責任既男人.

bubbles114

Thanks Yanamami for your advices.

由細到大都教佢positive野, passion in life. 但是否男仔的mind或佢地的focus都離唔開sex?? “fxxx” 是一個动詞, 覺得佢禁講真係好核突.
個心仍然有小小隱懚痛 (呻完)

其他家長有什麽意見或经驗?
可否share一吓

bb818

原帖由 bubbles114 於 11-5-2 11:19 發表
小兒十三歲, 讀男女校, 成績算好, 和我都有溝通.
他亦有同我講佢like某女仔, (果個女仔由小学一齐升上去, 我都識佢) 昨天無意中看到他和男仔朋友的online chat , 說”I love xxx (果個女仔), I wanna fxxx her” ...

好驚呀！我都唔知自己到時接唔接受到，雖然我個小朋友未到但我睇都要打多幾濟預防濟先。

Yanamami

完全明白.

但又唔可以直斥其非, 以免佢關上溝通之門.  唯有扮傾閒計再落重葯, 灌輸正確男女交往之道及所有人皆要對自己言行負責任...etc.  又要避重就輕, 不可太過說教.  對住班teenagers, 好似行地雷陣禁....

有時男仔間講野可能想逞英雄, 未必認真.  追女仔有時也是人有佢有, 唔衰得/ show off.  總之係時候打booster, 加重正確觀念.

原帖由 bubbles114 於 11-5-2 11:19 發表



小兒十三歲, 讀男女校, 成績算好, 和我都有溝通.
他亦有同我講佢like某女仔, (果個女仔由小学一齐升上去, 我都識佢) 昨天無意中看到他和男仔朋友的online chat , 說”I love xxx (果個女仔), I wanna fxxx her” ...