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No, definitely it's not your fault....
keep a "wall" from those whose "forces" make you feel that you are not a good mom because you have not done well by not doing extra efforts or "interview classes" or "intensive trainings"... keep your own family values of how to raise good kids......believe in yourself, listen to more diverse voices on what are "good parenting".....good parenting can be very diverse, not a "standard" ones....
I had met a mom yesterday who shared the same feelings as you. I had such feelings in the past when I was the first time mom: when my first child went through the process, I had tried one session of these "training classes" by one of the most famous training educational centre, and I stopped after 1 session even though I had paid over 2xxx for the course.
The reasons:
1) the qualification of these trainers are in doubt, without training in child development, but only teachers from "famous schools" with a mind to earn money from me (the dumb parent) - they are "preaching" a small kid to be a machine, mechanically responding to certain kind of questions...I thought at that time, was rather creating possible "harmful" effects", so I stopped immediately without doubt.
2) looking at my kid at that time - such a smart affectionate and clever one, yet socially not yet developed well, but with a very good "observations" and "curiority" in the environment, I worried on if the child can fit into the "P1" application process...we just keep on the habit of readings and keep our language in Chinese at home
Result:
1) the child could not get an official offers from any school, but waitlisted in several ones that kind of defined as "famous"DSS and abandoned the "lucky draw" on some very famous schools (dislike the traditional model of spoon feeding). We chose one waitlist successful schools.
2) the kid's development has been observed with gradual change in both social and academic development as well as other developments in these years and got scholarships every year..
3) I am still not satisfied with the school as it is not practising what it has preached in its mission statements
4) But, life is never perfect, I learn to embrace the unperfectness of life .
I hate those "hyprocratic" policies and practises that damaging parents' self-esteem and our kid's values throught their so call "grand educational mission statements", yet in practise, they are spoon feeding and discriminating kids or excluding kids with differences.......and doing "cruel things" to kids in P1 application process!!
原帖由 nataliepsc 於 10-11-3 02:02 發表 
This question had been lingering around my head for the whole day (since we did not get the call from SPC and also got rejected by 2 other schools).. What did we do wrong? Is this my problem or whos ...
[ 本帖最後由 motherotk 於 10-11-3 06:50 編輯 ] |
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發表於 10-10-29 12:07
.. BTW had anybody heard the traditional "famous" primary schools admit students from international schools? Wonder if that affected the results...
