有冇智能評為borderline的初中/高小家長, 一齊傾吓d 難處

cfma

兒子今年中一, 好不容易讀完六年小學, 但小學都算很有愛心, 如今中一, 就發覺支援實在太小了.

worrymama

crt1234

Hello, read your post, then how's your life now, are you a student or you are working now, can you tell us more about your experience, i think other parents here are very eager to know,

crt1234

睇見樓主既回應
我都想分享
小時候被評為邊緣智能(IQ75-80左右)既我成長過程,日常生活既感受

因為當時對我依種人來講幾乎無任何支援
結果被列為「同普通人一般既看待,但没有普通人既能力」
學習同溝通能力較差,在學時成日成為被欺負既對象
加上無人理解我既狀況,搞到成日都唔開心甚至開始出現精神問題

cfma

還有, 想問問大家, 我地呢d 細路, 到底第時可以做d mud?始終依家巳經係中學生了, 好快就讀完書.
其實我一路都諗緊展能就業, 同埋弱能技能訓練中心, 起碼呢d 方向僱主知道佢係有問題的, 但係有冇人知道borderline青少年是否入呢d 範疇, 佢地會會收?
諗得咁多, 都唔知我係咪過早担心.

cfma

Worrymama 及Noemie,

Thank you very much for your sharing and suggestions.
我現階段只是作一些心理準備, 因佢現在成績當然唔好, 但又未至於極差, 佢又話好開心, 好鍾意間學校, 因佢運動都有少少成果, 游泳可代表學校出賽, 最近老師又叫佢玩聯校跑步接力, 不過我最担心的是社交, 怕難在校有朋友, 我始終覺得年青人, 應該是三三两两的, 煲吓電話粥, 去吓街, 我個仔就冇呢啲份.我又知道他其實是很渴望交朋友的.

原帖由 worrymama 於 10-2-6 00:15 發表
cfma

I explained to my son when I chose this school for him. My son understands that he is not as good as the peer group and he also notices that he is different from his peer as well. Same as Noemie ...

worrymama

cfma

I explained to my son when I chose this school for him. My son understands that he is not as good as the peer group and he also notices that he is different from his peer as well. Same as Noemie, I just want my son can enjoy his school life............

Noemie

As I have mentioned before, my daughter is much much behind, she is not just in the borderline. She seldom ask even she changed the school in Primary 3. Of course, I will explain to her what had happened and I have brought her to visit the school before we decide to select FHMS. We visited two schools at that time.
I think you have to explain the full picture to him because I think your son will understand and keen to know more than my daughter. You also need to select few schools for him to visit and select.
On the other hand, you have to ask yourself what do you want your son to be? BUT, you should not give any pressure to him. For me, I just want my daugther to be happy.

原帖由 cfma 於 10-2-5 13:54 發表
Worrymama 及 Noemie,

想問問你地, 你地小朋友讀炮循, 佢知唔知間學校係有d 唔同嘅, 你又點同佢解釋點解安排佢讀呢間學校?佢又覺得點呢?
唔好意思, 咁多嘢問? 因我都諗緊第時點處理呢d 問題.



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cfma

Worrymama 及 Noemie,

想問問你地, 你地小朋友讀炮循, 佢知唔知間學校係有d 唔同嘅, 你又點同佢解釋點解安排佢讀呢間學校?佢又覺得點呢?
唔好意思, 咁多嘢問? 因我都諗緊第時點處理呢d 問題.

原帖由 Noemie 於 10-2-4 09:37 發表
可能今年特別些、因為上学期、通告remarks話for Form 2 開始。不要緊、明年可以la!

大家一起加油、努カ。希望毎一位家長也是。

Noemie

可能今年特別些、因為上学期、通告remarks話for Form 2 開始。不要緊、明年可以la!

大家一起加油、努カ。希望毎一位家長也是。

原帖由 worrymama 於 10-2-3 20:45 發表
Noemie

My son was able to join sensory integration in F.1, every Tuesday after school, I also arranged OT and special group for him outside, every Friday after school.

Let's add oil together...... ...

worrymama

Noemie

My son was able to join sensory integration in F.1, every Tuesday after school, I also arranged OT and special group for him outside, every Friday after school.

Let's add oil together......

worrymama

cfma

my son can speak fluently, but he has poor co-ordination and his fine motor skills is also bad. He cannot write properly. His understanding ability is not good, he cannot understand the in-depth meaning of the peer group so he was always the target of being laughed at or bullied in primary school.

Since most of the teachers in this school possess special education qualification so they know the technique of how to divide the syllabus into small learning process, they also know how to handle the types of students skillfully so my son is enjoying his school life a lot.

cfma

honeybeeMA,

What I think is similar to you.  That's why I still place him in mainstream as far as possible.  Still want to have more stimulation and more demands for him.

But in secondary school, it's rather different from primary school.  The children have to be very independent, teachers won't do much daily caring.  The curriculum is more demanding,
範圍多, 教得快, 科目多. and the support from school is minimal as 融合 or other things are not established in secondary.  In this half year, I have been adjusting to these.

原帖由 honeybeeMA 於 10-2-3 12:42 發表
我的女兒也是今年升中, very much worried, she is only bordline (w/average 75), she also has problem in making friends in her class, although , in her class,most of them has problem in some way.  Up to  ...

cfma

worrymama,

share with you about son's social situation.

I think if they can make friends in school, it's very good already.  Maybe they still don't have the ability to think about how to deepen their friendship, e.g. telephone contacts or go out.

As for the experience in primary school, my son is a bit luckier because his school admits lots of
融合生 and 加輔生, so there are many children rather `strange'.  My son has got one or two friends at school.  There is telephone looking for him very very occasionally.  However, sometimes I ask him to return calls, and he seldom and too timid to do so.

Now in secondary 1, half year already, only one call for him last week.  Yesterday he told me that last week he 嗌交with one classmate, because that boy ask him to pick up the things that the boy drop on the floor, and my son said he replied 你自己執啦. You know I'm so happy that he could 嗌交, because if he's too easy going, he'd be bullied.

How's your son's speech?  My son's speech is really limited.  He just talk in simple sentences.  I don't know whether it's because of his motivation to talk to me or his ability.  I find that he's more willing to talk to children or peers, but of course his speech is still limited, but I find he try harder to express himself with peers.

原帖由 worrymama 於 10-2-1 23:34 發表
cfma

My son is able to make friends in school as they are in the same peer, but they seldom have telephone conversation after school or go out together on weekends, my son just stays at home and watc ...

honeybeeMA

我的女兒也是今年升中, very much worried, she is only bordline (w/average 75), she also has problem in making friends in her class, although , in her class,most of them has problem in some way.  Up to now, I only noted that she is only slow in learning,  & problem in language understanding, I reject she enter into Chi Lin cos I believe that  everyday is new hope.  I only worry w/her social contact, I am also wondering what kind of the secondary school is most suitable for her...

Noemie

Dear worrymama,
My daughter also the global developmental delay + poor coordination + many many others things. I think she is not in the borderline, she is much much behind. She did not join te sensory integration at school because the activity give to the student from FORM 2. But she takes the sensory integration outside. She only take the table tennis course at school.

worrymama

Noemie,

My son is global developmental delay+small motor skills problem, he joined the sensory integration exercise in school, does your duaghter join any extra curricular activity in school?

worrymama

cfma

My son is able to make friends in school as they are in the same peer, but they seldom have telephone conversation after school or go out together on weekends, my son just stays at home and watch TV and play computer.

My son studied in mainstream primary schools by he could not make friends because other classmates felt that he was very STRANGE and always teased on him, he was not happy in that school.

Noemie

Dear all moms,
My daughter now studied in Fortress Hill Methodist Secondary School af Form 1. Same as worrymama, there is not much homework, only one or two, even they have, our kid can manage to complete it.
The Principal and the teachers are nice to the kids, if they do not have heart to do, they cannot work/teach in this school.

原帖由 cfma 於 10-2-1 14:10 發表
jena2468,

我之前都有考慮過中聖, 不過因太遠, 最後沒有選.
其實我都鍾意天主教學校, 不過天主教學校多是勁的, 實在諗唔到邊間啱, 所以又冇得選.
好似呢輪要選校了, 祝你亞仔好運, 入到啱嘅學校.

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cfma

jena2468,

我之前都有考慮過中聖, 不過因太遠, 最後沒有選.
其實我都鍾意天主教學校, 不過天主教學校多是勁的, 實在諗唔到邊間啱, 所以又冇得選.
好似呢輪要選校了, 祝你亞仔好運, 入到啱嘅學校.

原帖由 jena2468 於 10-2-1 10:24 發表
我去睇過深水埗嘅中聖書院覺得幾好, 另外因為個仔想讀天主教學校所以都會諗下一兩間 !

cfma

worrymama,

No problem, English is ok for me.

So far, my son has no big problem in relating with others.  Actually, this is the biggest worry that I have, as I'm afraid he'll be bullied, have no friends, etc.  But my son tell me that he talks with classmates and has some friends.  I think that what he means `friends' may not be rather close, but anyway I think that at least he is not isolated.

How about your son?  At Methodist, can he make friends with others well.  Actually, I think about Chi Lin sometimes because I think that if he goes there, he might have a lot of friends---but my husband tell me that it's just my assumption.

原帖由 worrymama 於 10-1-30 21:33 發表
cfma,

my son is in F2 now, by the way, can your son get along well with other schoolmates ??