如果小朋友考到你最想佢入嗰間學校... - 小一選校

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你會点樣同佢慶祝或獎勵佢?

大家係時候預備啦!祝各小朋友都成功!

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many good sharing and suggestions here! I will for sure have a trip during Christmas as I need to relax a bit! For the kid, I will take him out for a day trip to award his effort of doing his best during the last 2 months.

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totally agree!!

So, every time after he had finished his interview, I gave him a letter written by myself and one piece of sticker. I usually praised him for his effort he has paid and his respect to the interviews/interviewers. I hope he can learn that "process" is more important than "result".

原帖由 Tinko 於 09-10-9 00:57 發表
對小朋友真的應該時常有讚有賞。不過，有一個很重要的原則：永遠只讚賞正面行為，不要讚賞結果。

行為是由自已控制的，譬如對人有禮貌，努力嘗試回答問題等；而結果則往往受制於非已力所能控制的客觀因素，譬如對手的表現，運氣等。 ...

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非常贊同傳媒問呢位媽媽的回應, 派了一所心儀的小學, 並不代表小朋友有什麼優越之勢, 只係真是好彩而已. 得失也要感謝造天地萬物的主.

原帖由 nicolemummy 於 09-10-8 23:50 發表
這好比派位當天, 有傳媒問一些得到第一志願的媽媽, 有甚麼獎勵給小朋友一樣.

我們當時想, 只是派位, 幸運得第一志願, 為甚麼要獎勵小朋友? 小朋友會以為是自己功努? 就算是直資私小是小朋友考入去的, 難道考不到的 ...

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如果小朋友考到為佢報的其中一間直資，會一家人去旅行，唔係乜嘢獎勵，係自己都好想放鬆吓！因為咗佢考小學，自己好緊張，好煩腦…

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發表於 09-10-9 10:36 |只看該作者

Totally agree. Yes, why do we need to reward the results. The effort is much more important.

原帖由 googoo 於 09-10-9 10:27 發表

Thanks for this great insight!
Absolutely agree with you, maybe I should implement my boy right after the interview for his effort~

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原帖由 Tinko 於 09-10-9 00:57 發表
對小朋友真的應該時常有讚有賞。不過，有一個很重要的原則：永遠只讚賞正面行為，不要讚賞結果。

行為是由自已控制的，譬如對人有禮貌，努力嘗試回答問題等；而結果則往往受制於非已力所能控制的客觀因素，譬如對手的表現，運氣等。 ...

Thanks for this great insight!
Absolutely agree with you, maybe I should implement my boy right after the interview for his effort~

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發表於 09-10-9 08:49 |只看該作者

會去旅行獎賞自己, 因今年暑假掛住去簡介會, 無去到。
去遠近都無所謂, 志在鬆一鬆。
有次去播道, 自己辛苦到差d中暑。

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對小朋友真的應該時常有讚有賞。不過，有一個很重要的原則：永遠只讚賞正面行為，不要讚賞結果。

行為是由自已控制的，譬如對人有禮貌，努力嘗試回答問題等；而結果則往往受制於非已力所能控制的客觀因素，譬如對手的表現，運氣等。

只要小朋友曾經努力，不論結果如何，都應對他為達目標而努力表現的行為與以肯定和讚賞。這樣，小朋友才學懂努力原來有用，過程原來重要，自已原來有價值。他因而會樂觀、積極、正面。

相反，只讚賞結果，小朋友會認為世事難以掌握，成敗足以論英雄，甚至以為可以為求結果而不擇手段。他因而缺乏自信、懶散、負面。

我以前都吾識呢個道理。識之後發覺非常有用。

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這好比派位當天, 有傳媒問一些得到第一志願的媽媽, 有甚麼獎勵給小朋友一樣.

我們當時想, 只是派位, 幸運得第一志願, 為甚麼要獎勵小朋友? 小朋友會以為是自己功努? 就算是直資私小是小朋友考入去的, 難道考不到的就是"不夠班".

所以一直沒有想要獎勵甚麼. 就是真的派位那天, 真的得第一志願, 就像某媽媽說, 感謝天主聽小朋友的禱告. 就是派得不好, 也要感謝祂. 祂是安排給小朋友是最適合他們的.

原帖由 dordormom 於 09-10-8 23:37 發表
Very good and interesting topic.

Mummm... I will bring her to Disneyland and give her $50/$100 as a gift for her to choose a present for her to use in primary school.

If she cannot spend them all, ...

Virginialum

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Don't think I'll tell him if I'm going to give him anything. I don't want him to think that there must be something in return for doing something good. Maybe we'll just take him to Macdonald's or the Peak as a kind of relaxation (for both him and us) at the weekend.

原帖由 dordormom 於 09-10-8 23:37 發表
Very good and interesting topic.

Mummm... I will bring her to Disneyland and give her $50/$100 as a gift for her to choose a present for her to use in primary school.

If she cannot spend them all, ...

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Very good and interesting topic.

Mummm... I will bring her to Disneyland and give her $50/$100 as a gift for her to choose a present for her to use in primary school.

If she cannot spend them all, then I will ask her to put into the bank for saving.

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Totally agreed!
Today one of my son's (P1) homeworks is to write 5 sentences about Helen Keller.

原帖由 avbee 於 09-10-8 13:17 發表
no need to give anything...
just be normal

once you start the school life (P1), it will be totally different! Parents and child has to face the pressure from the HW, tests, exams.... especially you ...

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agreed,平常心,以后条路仲好長, 有排考啦

原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-8 09:55 發表
讚下佢 & 間學校咋 ~
佢自己都好開心 ~
反而從來無唸過要送咩比佢,
此例一開, 費事佢以後咩都同我討價還價

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no need to give anything...
just be normal

once you start the school life (P1), it will be totally different! Parents and child has to face the pressure from the HW, tests, exams.... especially you got into those famous school

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我又冇諗wor 我唔會同佢講去int 我同佢講去玩咋

原帖由 G-Ma 於 09-10-8 12:56 發表
同佢去左次冒險樂園等佢盡情咁玩.

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同佢去左次冒險樂園等佢盡情咁玩.

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I will buy one thing that my kid particularly likes (we agreed to buy what already). However, even though he will not be accepted by any DSS/private schools, I will still buy anyway as I do not want to deliver any negative message to my kid.....I know my kid has already tried his best...

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