繼唔繼續學?

qoo_pooh

亞仔3歲幾,
我幫佢參加左一個課外活動(做運動) - 已上約3個月,
由於亞仔專注力很差,
上堂會遊魂, 發白日夢等
時常都唔知老師要佢地做什麼動作,
老師初時會提佢要留心聽講,
若佢再唔專心, 就會罰佢做一些頗難的動作
由於亞仔時常受罰,
所以經常以淚洗臉,
我都覺得好心痛

我其實都同老師傾過,
她的教學理念是不會變,
要變就是小朋友要適應她的教法

其實亞仔參加後,
身體協調或專心情況是有進步,
但佢現在一聽到要去上堂就已經喊定先話唔去上
(可以喊足1個鐘)
老公話這個世界唔係個個好人,
早D俾亞仔適應惡人,
等佢第時唔好一遇挫折就退縮都是一件好事

你地覺得我應唔應該繼續叫佢上?
我好驚亞仔因這個活動心靈受創,
我是否太保護亞仔?

ytpeople

做得好！

三歲小朋友唔專心係正常不過！

而你先生講o既道理係o岩，不過唔使咁早適應o既！起碼等你個仔8、9歲先諗啦！

原帖由 qoo_pooh 於 09-5-13 14:07 發表
我終於都幫亞仔放棄了那個運動班 ~~
其實同其他課外活動的導師傾過,
亞仔雖然都唔係專心,
但沒有如運動班那樣遊魂,
若再上都係事倍功半,
都係遲d再睇下情況再算 ...

fkclai

Do youthink a 3 years ago child happy and healthy
are more important then everything?
How is your childhood? If your mother alsoforces you to do something you don’t like, will you happy and willing to do it.

kambima

得3歲就唔好咁快迫佢啦！
講真，要學做運動都唔駛靠上堂啦！得閒帶多d佢落公園玩下，跑下咁仲好！
除非好似瑜伽果d咁啦！

BBHim

老公話這個世界唔係個個好人,
早D俾亞仔適應惡人,
等佢第時唔好一遇挫折就退縮都是一件好事

3歲就要去適應........唔係呀

chakclam

原帖由 wendy614 於 09-5-16 05:57 發表
你有無問下你仔仔有咩想學,
可能有興趣學既會改善到專注力~

Guess that I am one of the minorities here.  A 3-yr old kid is just starting exploring his world.  Let him grow.  Be careful, he can't tell whether he's interested or not.  He has no idea what it is.  

1.  Importanct: develop his dexterity at this stage.  If they are good at young age, they can do well in all sports.  
2.  Nothing fancy needed at such young age.  Give him a ball; he runs, exhausted, rests, and plays again.
3.  If he is a normal child, it is the adult's responsibility to make him happy and stay interested.  If an adult can't, ask the adult why, not the child.
4.  Give them enough time to explore the world themselves.  They need learning, not promptings and instructions.

qoo_pooh

我終於都幫亞仔放棄了那個運動班 ~~
其實同其他課外活動的導師傾過,
亞仔雖然都唔係專心,
但沒有如運動班那樣遊魂,
若再上都係事倍功半,
都係遲d再睇下情況再算

greedycat116

Hi qoo_pooh,

I just want to remind you that your son is only 3 years old.  Lot of the boys at that age can't concentrate to learn or follow teachers' instructions. They feel frustrated when they can't follow teachers. If teachers are not realized it  and punish them, then I think kids will be suffered. Your husband is right. Kids should be taught. But remember your kid is only 3 years old. He will learn it or face it when he goes to school. I think four or four and a half is ok. They will become more mature and more patient. (my son is an example) He cried bitterly when i sent him to learn swimming at 3. I stopped and let he did it at 4 and a half. He was better and now he enjoys it very mush. I think timing is very important. :  Don't push him too early to do the things that beyond his ability. Trust me he will enjoy when he grows older.

qoo_pooh

亞仔係無興趣的活動都會出現專注力差這個問題,
e.g. 叫佢做功課
所以我先想試下逼佢接受這個現實

原帖由 ryan-mama 於 09-3-26 02:51 發表
請問亞仔係所有學習都會出現專注力差這個問題, 還是做運動時才會專注力差? 如果係前者, 我贊同你先生的睇法, 早點適應好。但如果只係做這個課外活動才會不專注, 咁就可能係教法不適合亞仔, 你可考慮轉活動或老師。 ...

ryan-mama

請問亞仔係所有學習都會出現專注力差這個問題, 還是做運動時才會專注力差? 如果係前者, 我贊同你先生的睇法, 早點適應好。但如果只係做這個課外活動才會不專注, 咁就可能係教法不適合亞仔, 你可考慮轉活動或老師。

lottos1234

我又認同你husband，咁你就一定心痛，但係你比佢出去學野，都係想佢學到野，咁佢比人罰，都係其中一個學習過程，講真，老師罰佢好過你罰佢，破壞感情，但另一方面，唔專心係要比佢知道唔岩。
我諗每一次佢被罰，你都可以再同佢傾，輔導下佢，當個老師係第三者lor，比如佢今日比人罰，你可以同佢講: BB你咁慘呀?比老師罰，點解呀，如果你唔想比人罰，下次要專心D，咁咪唔比人罰lor，如果係下次好專心，老師都仲係罰你，媽媽一定幫你話番個老師。不過你要自己專心D，媽媽先可以幫你話老師，如果唔係，媽媽都會比老師話架。
呢個我諗係其中一個方法。如果你因為心痛唔比個仔上，咁保護佢，咁就變成縱佢。
我阿仔有時上堂都比人罰，我會心痛，但我覺得都係其中一樣我想比佢學既。