Please help me!

eric1988

我家住黄埔 (自己物業), 自行分配 學位、選紅磡馬頭涌唔收Benjamin (my elder son).
禮賢小學 收 Benjamin 並已交留位費.
但我太太想立即搬去41網 抽 LA SA 小學. 因為如果大兒子 抽到LA SA 小學, 小兒子都可以入到LA SA 小學.
租屋要20多萬一年. 買層舊樓又要100萬. 唔知值唔值得這做.
真頭痛, please help me, give me suggestion!

阿西

原帖由 monkeydad 於 08-12-5 09:35 發表
If you find your son is fit for studying in La Salle and you and your wife are ready to take the life style required by La Salle, then go ahead with your plan - at least you do your best and NO REGRET.

同意...樓主，其實外人好難比意見，因為值唔值，係好睇

a) 你既財力 - 如果搬去41住對你黎講負擔係綽綽有餘既，你咪當比屋企人住好d lor。留意既係，影響唔單止樓價，其實車費，買餸錢，日用品，附近餐廳....所有開支都會唔同左。

b) 太太既情意結 - 佢點解鍾意LS，係咪非讀不可既程度，定佢有其它choice，如果有機會都唔試，佢會唔會個心有條刺，覺得自己對仔唔住先。

c) 兩個仔既實力 - 好似monkeydad 咁講，入一間學校唔係入到就等如可以光榮畢業，自己係咪果種人，願意果種生活，受唔受得黎，呢d都好重要。

如果以上三方面你都好有信心既話，去la，大不了只係搬左屋啫，就當搬左一次屋lor。如果1&3你有hesitation，你要好好諗清楚，opportunity cost有幾大。否則，好似其他人咁講，仲有好多好學校，比如已經等緊你既禮賢都唔錯，而且，可以p2插LS，插到先搬，會唔會實際d﹖祝你仔仔可以搵到一間好學校。

[ 本帖最後由 阿西 於 08-12-5 10:22 編輯 ]

monkeydad

Eric1988,

I have read through your chain of messages.  Here are my views -

1.  You and your wife should have known you son's strengths and weakness better than anyone else and you can assess whether La Salle would fit him.  You have a lot of info / feedback from parents of La Salle for reference.  Besides, please also take into consideration of resources, i.e. your available time for coaching / guiding if you want you sons to study in La Salle type of school.  My friend's son studies in La Salle (P4).  He is a very very smart kid since we knew him at 2 years of age.  His father rushes back home sharp at 6pm to guide his homework and do the revision until 10pm everyday.  I heard there is another boy in the same grade finds it far too hard to catch up and have been trying his very best for years.  The case has worsened and the whole family is now under pyschological consultation.   DO YOUR OWN ASSESSMENT.

2.  If you find your son is fit for studying in La Salle and you and your wife are ready to take the life style required by La Salle, then go ahead with your plan - at least you do your best and NO REGRET.

eric1988

silvia_ng

你老婆咁想個仔入la sa, 咁點解佢唔一早去la sa搵返工呀? 校工都做住先啦, 咁你個仔咪入硬囉

唔該叫佢醒啦! 唔好成日唸埋d不切實際既野!

xdi

Dear Eric,

Don't let these things get between you and your wife, it is not worth it.
Now your wife wants to put your sons into LS, it is understandable. Just make an plan to fall back on if things do not work out.
Most important, your son(s) should not be the victim. Whichever school he gets into, he should be given all the credits of trying.

Best of Luck !!

mike0carman

就算賣哂樓搬入41net, 唔等如一定抽到LS喎, 有無計埋如果抽唔到條路點行呀?

BBR

其實由頭到尾個問題係值唔值得博law,兩間都好架啦，只係博同唔博咁簡單，你要問邊間好，咁最好就搵兩間都讀過的父母至話到比你聽，如果唔係個個都係覺得自己間學校係最好架啦，況且你問個兩間又真係唔係差喎，所以由頭到尾個問題都响你兩公婆到，博定唔博

Geni

如果你真係想問問其他人o既意見o既, 我提議你list out 兩間學校o既 pros and cons, by point form. 一來可以叫自己認真咁分析o下, 二來其他人先知你o既觀點~~

baekdoosan

you wife is right. if i were you i would choose la salle. wait until the younger son gets in. then you can transfer the elder son to other private schools if you think la salle is too tough.

it is always easier to transfer out of la salle than to get in.

eric1988

Dear mcat

My wife and I should know my sons best. But who can predict the future accurately? How can I predict my sons potential?
What I already know is that they are phsically fit and at least mentally normal.

Eric1988

mcat

"we don't know our sons are smart or not"

Both of you should be the best person who know your son till his birth.  'La Salle' is you wife's choice, not you son's, ask yourself if your son could worked very very hard or not.

May I confirm that  'La Salle'  will ask the boys leave if they can't reach the school's standard, is it true?

[ 本帖最後由 mcat 於 08-12-4 10:48 編輯 ]

eric1988

Dear xdi
Actually, I prefer my son go into 禮賢. It is because, 禮賢 has less work load in studies. In addition, we are not rich family, we are just general mid-class family. I affraid that my son will compare with other schoolmates about material items.
My wife prefer LA SA, becasue if my elder son go into LA SA, my younger son can go into LA SA also. In my wife view, we don't know our sons are smart or not. She think that our sons may be smart enough and suitable to study in LA SA. My wife want to give our son opportunity to try.
So the views between my wife and I are different.
Eric1988

xdi

Dear eric1988,
So many parents give you suggestions. I see they are all very reasonable.
However, I feel that you have your own decision already, i.e. La Salle. Perhaps you are only waiting for somebody to support your plan to move to Kln Tong.
Think about what is best for your son instead of what satisfies you and your wife.

All the best.

原帖由 eric1988 於 08-12-1 17:33 發表
我家住黄埔 (自己物業), 自行分配 學位、選紅磡馬頭涌唔收Benjamin (my elder son).
禮賢小學 收 Benjamin 並已交留位費.
但我太太想立即搬去41網 抽 LA SA 小學. 因為如果大兒子 抽到LA SA 小學, 小兒子都可以入到L ...

LS+MCS

原帖由 eric1988 於 08-12-2 11:17 發表
我想個仔有良好的品德, LA Sa or 禮賢 is better?

Other parents may give suggestions per their experience or knowledge but it's real hard to push for a definite answer. All schools target students to have good conducts.

eric1988

OH
How good is LA SA?
How good is 禮賢?

catcatmom

朋友2個仔, 一個九龍塘宣小, 一個讀喇小, 都讀好幾年, 佢話九龍塘宣小各方面,如老師教書方法, 等.... 好過喇小, 不過喇小有中學,又唔冼$,係好吸引.佢兩個仔成績很好.對兩間學校都有正面評價.如果要冼幾十萬,不如搵間優質d私小,宣小,九龍塘小學, 禮賢, sfa..........

[ 本帖最後由 catcatmom 於 08-12-2 14:07 編輯 ]

HIN2003

原帖由 eric1988 於 08-12-2 11:17 發表
我想個仔有良好的品德, LA Sa or 禮賢 is better?

禮賢!

BBR

你不如去小學一覽到睇啦