有冇人讓小朋友自己選擇?

alienova

發現很難解決這問題……
替阿女選校，都是從自己"為佢好"出發… 再加埋屋企人意見……
最多我會參考下阿女見完間學校後，問下佢喜歡程度，給學校多給個評分。
今天自行申行學位也公佈了，上網對號碼，阿女抽中！不過不太考慮，因為我較鐘意直/私的多一些…… 但剛才奶奶說看到小學門口貼的結果，連名字也有，阿女有好幾個成日玩的同學仔亦榜上有名。
我現在有點煩惱…究道應怎跟阿女說有邊間學校收了她，邊間備取── 因為她說喜歡的，一間我不打算去註冊，一間則備取…。我又在想應否告訴她自行申報的收了她，就是不告訴她，她回校跟其他小朋友 "8"時候一樣可以知悉……小朋友還是喜歡跟同學仔一同做相同的事~
難開口     
同時，可讓她揀嗎??

chriskoo

原帖由 MavisNg 於 08-11-25 14:12 發表
我同佢報SFA衰咗唔收, 反而抽資助就入咗心儀, 還要係正選入到添, 所以做咁多嘢反而唔入, 自行選校, 咩都唔做就反而入到, 真係幾諷刺

me too, fail for SFA and Good Hope, but my daughter very lucky and thx GOD, "反而抽資助就入咗心儀, 還要係正選入到添", in 1st round, Maryknoll accepted her. May be GOD don't want us to waste register fee.

AgnesHimMa

我就係interview 之前, 就同阿仔講, 今日我哋去xx面試, 呢間係好好的學校, 你要比心機呀. in完, 我帶你去食mcdxxxxx.
佢in 完ying wah之後, 同我講, 佢好like ying wah.
但嗰日, 佢入唔到2nd in, 我同佢講, 仔仔, 雖然你好比心機, 但入唔到呀. 佢話:唔緊要,我下次會比心機.我話:好呀
跟住, 之後佢去考啲學校都ok 咗.
其實, 小朋友所領略的知識都非常受 父母/家人影響.
如果我哋成日係佢面前講,xxx好好, 咁佢都會已為係. 比小朋友選擇之前, 家長一定先要有自己的preference.
再同小朋友傾.

bbkiki1991

幼稚園時我就比阿囡選,但今次我無比阿囡自己選,因為幼稚園我想佢童年過得開心d ,但小學係直接影響佢將來的前途,所以我比較強硬d.

alienova

選擇小學過程然是先依大人的想法為出發點。我願遞表，都是一定程度喜歡啦~所以已做了不少決定。不過講到底，主角還是小朋友，讓她有點選擇權是ok, 或者至少我想知她直覺，聽她感受。至少如知她政見不同，可再施點軟功讓她同意~~

女兒有個同學選首輪時，是全家人一人一票投票決定，結果DADDY 跟小朋友一陣2:1，否決了媽媽最喜歡的學校~ 他們的做法比我的OPEN MIND！

junior_pam

" Hey! Sweetie, which primary schools do you like most? asked Father.
Daddy, Whatever you choose that is my loved one? replied Sweetie.
I deeply moved by her mature and filial choice. I really knew that she was very great because she fulfilled whatever parents expected on her, including school interview and repeated practice of interview.
I sweared that being a father of my sweetie was wonderful in my whole life. I was proud of my daughter.
Just a kind sharing

原帖由 alienova 於 08-11-24 17:52 發表
發現很難解決這問題……
替阿女選校，都是從自己"為佢好"出發… 再加埋屋企人意見……
最多我會參考下阿女見完間學校後，問下佢喜歡程度，給學校多給個評分。
今天自行申行學位也公佈了，上網對號碼，阿女抽中！不過不太考慮，因為 ...

avbee

better no let the child made decision....even though they are mature. (mostly learn from us)

parents just like a mirror...what is parent behave, then what will child behave alike.......

For a 5 yrs old child, their decision were affected by their parents. (actually their decision are not mature)

So I will choose the best for my child depends on school environment, my child's personality, teachers,  and other things which child will never consider these things.

Even though, I brought my child to few school interviews, even though i told her that she failed, but she never felt disspointed.

Era

我唔會俾佢自己揀啦,因為咁細個,好多野都係好主觀咁揀,唔會全面咁來諗野.除非係佢去到,覺得有d野好唔鍾意啦.
佢地其實都好concern父母既諗法架,係想我地都開心.

我報直資果間同埋自行果間都係同日公佈結果,未出之前,一直都同佢傾計.我知佢想讀自行果間多d,我又唔敢講太多我想揀直資既,因為驚人地唔收.

最後係兩間都ok左,咁我果時先好開心咁同佢講直資果間有乜野好,講到好正.咁阿囝就覺得阿媽咁鍾意既,佢都會鍾意啦.
因為學校個個都報唔同既學校,阿囝都知有d有人入到2nd in,有d又入唔到,所以佢都冇諗過大家要同校.

hcheng

I asked my son to choose between the government aided school (in 1st round lucky draw) and TSL.  He chose the government aided school because he said there is no need to pay school fee.  
Kids nowaday are more mature than those in our days.

hidingdong

原帖由 MavisNg 於 08-11-25 14:12 發表
我同佢報SFA衰咗唔收, 反而抽資助就入咗心儀, 還要係正選入到添, 所以做咁多嘢反而唔入, 自行選校, 咩都唔做就反而入到, 真係幾諷刺

同意, 有時真係唔係你去選擇, 所以我都無同個女考任何學校, 就等佢派位. 你抽到邊間心儀學校呀, 恭喜哂

[ 本帖最後由 hidingdong 於 08-11-25 14:18 編輯 ]

MavisNg

我同佢報SFA衰咗唔收, 反而抽資助就入咗心儀, 還要係正選入到添, 所以做咁多嘢反而唔入, 自行選校, 咩都唔做就反而入到, 真係幾諷刺

loy211

我個仔鍾意英華,我都係.

咩咩豬

我小朋友現讀小一,間學校都是他自己選的,連統一派位時都是他自己排的,結果抽到第二志願,咁身為家長的我,當然會盡最後努力叩門,終於入到第一志願的小學 .

小朋友現在每天返學都非常開心 .

FungMm

Hi all,

<小事分享>
在未開始interview之前已把會有interview機會和囝囝一起閱讀.

媽: 問他那一間最好呀?  
囝: 高主教
媽: 問他why?
囝: 因為高主教一聽個名就知係最高呢...
大家: 哈哈大笑

點知interview全部on list小學之後... 高主教真係最高wor... 哈哈!

ftsang

i let my kid chose her own. for 5-6 years old, they already have their own minds and if it is something they dislike, they will reject.  

if you want to insist, you may want to give 2 choices for your child to choose, which will limit her choice, but still you can have your control.

原帖由 alienova 於 08-11-24 17:52 發表
發現很難解決這問題……
替阿女選校，都是從自己"為佢好"出發… 再加埋屋企人意見……
最多我會參考下阿女見完間學校後，問下佢喜歡程度，給學校多給個評分。
今天自行申行學位也公佈了，上網對號碼，阿女抽中！不過不太考慮，因為 ...

alienova

昨晚回到家，還在想如何跟小朋友說時…她的爺爺說早跟她說了！既如此，我照直跟她攤開來說。

女兒最心儀的沒取錄她，她卻沒什麼反應，大概已消化 (好似d呆巿咁)，正想問她去哪間讀的時候，但幾度都被打斷沒說下去。

我的女兒鐘意學校的標準是…那學校有沒有讓她發現有飲水機！  當然，如她知道有同學仔要去某學校讀，又大概是另一回事，因為自行表時已不停問"點解唔報xxx報果間","點解唔報yyy報果間"，重複又重複的問，又要我改變主意，問到我口啞。  

hidingdong

原帖由 BBR 於 08-11-24 19:00 發表
我問過個女,佢答我SFA,因為可以同我say himouth:" /> (因為面試個日佢排隊上去時一路同我say hi)

我無同個女考任何學校, 佢同我都係一心同表哥一間, 所以佢都算有份選擇啦. , 好彩有入到喎, 好開心

BBR

我問過個女,佢答我SFA,因為可以同我say hi (因為面試個日佢排隊上去時一路同我say hi)