忍耐能力有限

numberfour

我的忍耐能力真係有限..我就快癲..

我個仔快4歲，自閉症傾向。
每天他說的話題都是與車有關的事。很煩..
每天一定要我聽他說，我嘗試轉移話題..
但他也會轉回說有關車的事..
這個也不算..最慘係佢屋企有好多玩具車..(我老爺奶奶買)
超過300幾架..
每日都會找不同的車，又對我說車爛左..又話要維修.
跟本爛成咁冇得整..我掉左去..

佢又會搵另一架車同我講同一番說話..
但在我看來那些玩具車很多都沒有爛..但佢又話有爛..
又話架車D輪有問題..
我話D玩具個設計係咁..佢又好似唔明..
只係每天無時無刻都係咁講D車有事要我地整番佢..
滿足唔到佢又在發癲..
一係就要我將D玩具車放在天花板到行..
根本冇可能會做到..
佢又發癲.

唉..有時佢睇圖書..見到圖書上的圖片 - 係講一架車被撞爛左..
佢又發癩咁話叫我維修好圖書入面駕車..

有時佢睇新聞..見到交通意外..佢又嘈一餐..又話D車爛晒..要我整番去.唉..

又有一次佢又係睇圖書..見到一隻白兔將D雞旦掉爛晒在地上..我個仔又要我將圖書入面掉在地上的爛雞旦執番去..
唉...同佢解釋好多次..佢又唔明..在大哭大叫..幾個鐘好煩..

仲有好多無謂野..我都唔想講咁多..

而佢由細到大..每晚又睡不好..晚晚在大叫..
一係就訓著左都會大叫不停對住我又打又踢..
而佢自己又唔知.
令我每晚只訓兩至三個鐘..
我好想死..
好想打佢一餐..
但又唔可以打佢.
因為試過打佢..情況一發不可收拾..

我同老爺奶奶一齊住..佢地都好縱佢.
但我仔D衰野實在好黑人憎..連我老爺奶奶對住佢都覺好忟..

點算好..

[ 本帖最後由 numberfour 於 08-11-4 11:56 編輯 ]

numberfour

原帖由 kadragon 於 08-11-6 15:28 發表
唔知你有冇聽過 "社交故事" 訓練。
既然你仔仔語言能力ok，我估對佢會有用。
以下係bk媽咪sjmama嘅網頁，我睇過覺得學到嘢:


http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/mama-tears/article?mid=211

希望幫到你 ...

謝謝..呢個網頁我都有去睇..係無意中search到..

numberfour

多謝各位回覆
好耐無黎..沒有回覆你地..sorry..


我仔講野的情況大有好轉..除左佢上言語治療外...佢每日自行上網youtube睇蠟筆小生..
果套卡通真係教壞人..佢係呢套卡通裏面學左好多衰野..但係有d野我教佢唔到..教極佢都唔明..佢竟然在蠟筆小新呢套戲裏學到..例如：　人物關係..我教極都教佢唔到..但佢睇小新就學到爺爺同孫仔ga關係，仲學到奶奶同新袍的關係..佢睇左呢套咁ga衰卡通片，竟然學野仲快過言語治療..佢識係小新套戲度運用在現實生活度.而佢又無運用錯...連「粗枝大叶」佢都知點解...

其實呢套卡通係佢無意中search到...之後就著左迷咁睇...而其他卡通佢一律無興趣...佢依家生活只有車同小新..小新好似係佢偶像咁..以前佢唔會自己食飯..佢見到小新自己食..佢就自己食..唔駛人餵..

我現在只有他看呢套卡通時..話佢知邊d係唔岩..如果阻止佢又唔得....

覺得佢表達能力ok左..起碼也能表達自己..但有關答問的事..佢只係最多可以答兩三句，再問佢..就出事..佢九唔答八..

最慘係我家老爺太縱佢...喜歡講粗口..佢有樣學樣..
令我唔知點好...亦改變唔到老爺...

喜歡講重覆說話...亦成日要我同佢講車..講小新..一係就捉住我係咁玩車..唔玩又發狂..

但有d野明顯唔同左..係佢明白左d野..沖涼亦無以前咁扭計..亦無講數..知道每個人都要沖涼..做功課亦無扭計..佢明白到只要能做好功課就有獎勵..

d玩具車爛左，佢都開始明白點都整唔番...開始接受

亦會講番比我聽..車係無可能在天花板度行...

開始慢慢嘗試分享食物..(呢個我好欣慰..

有d野佢已經無咁固執..

所以我想大家都要比多d時間..希望佢地能夠明白一件事..就會有所改善..

[ 本帖最後由 numberfour 於 09-5-29 12:37 編輯 ]

kadragon

唔知你有冇聽過 "社交故事" 訓練。
既然你仔仔語言能力ok，我估對佢會有用。
以下係bk媽咪sjmama嘅網頁，我睇過覺得學到嘢:


http://hk.myblog.yahoo.com/mama-tears/article?mid=211

希望幫到你

hellokitty1101

Yesterday I rushed to respond because I was busy.

I now have free time to supplement.  I attended a seminar spoken by a clinical psychologist in Feb 2008.  ASD-kids have narrow interest.  If the kid is obsessed with something, try to divert him to other interests.  But do it gradually, not expect to change his likes overnight.  The speaker give an example.  if he likes trains, introduce other transport like airplanes and later remove trains and introduce more various kinds of toys.

In my opinion, kids are still young and their exposure is still limited.  This may be one of the reasons the topic he talks of is so narrow.  You may think in this way, even some adults you meet always keep on talking about mahjong, stock market... so boring.

The suggestion is to broaden his interests and hobbies.

By the way, 300 cars are really too many !

ASd kids are visual learners.  You may consider demonstrating to him the impossibility of 將圖書入面掉在地上的爛雞旦執番去..  Perhaps you break a real egg in front of him la

Regarding 一係就訓著左都會大叫不停對住我又打又踢..而佢自己又唔知. - I suggest you to video tape what he behaves at night.  And take him to see a doctor.

承承媽媽

numberfour,

我睇完你的分享之後,我都感受到你的痛苦......
要管教一個自閉症的小朋友實在不容易,而如果同埋老爺奶奶一齊住就更加係難過登天,你仔仔現在所讀的,是融合位的幼兒園還是普通幼稚園?以你所講,你仔仔的語言發展應該問題不大,但情緒處理和固執卻是很難攪......(令我想起阿仔另一個同學仔)如果你仔仔是讀融合位的幼兒園,可以嘗試跟 i 位老師溝通一下,約一次每一個有份湊你仔仔的人(包括老爺奶奶工人你和你老公)都要出席,叫老師講一次想教好你個仔的話,在家中每一個人都要做到的某些原則.當然,唔好俾人覺得你同老師夾定係最好啦!

另一方面,對於d車,有一個方法,你可以試試,
(預先同屋企人講好咗,禁買車仔)
今日先收起他100架車仔,過多一個星期又收起多100架
第三個week又收起50架
第四個week又收起30架
這段時期(3及4週)多帶他去公園玩,又或者跟他玩一些有趣的互動遊戲,
到第六週就收起晒所有車仔.
要做到這個方法,一定要全家人合作才能成功的.

hellokitty1101

Buy him some 模型, let him resemble, on one hand, practise fine motor, on the other hand, let him understand some cars can be repaired and some can't.

We have to keep patient to A仔