要上班的爸爸媽媽.....

hkparents

請問要上班的爸爸媽媽們, 你們會怎樣善用下班後的時間去教導你們的仔仔囡囡呢? 一般我每晚約8時至9時30分會幫我囡囡看功課和默書等, 沒有多餘時間同她溫習和備課, 因她早上要6時20分起床返學,所以我要她晚上10時便要上床睡覺, 如各位有時間的話,請在此分享下吧

readers

pattymon, don't be upset. I had the same experience before. When kids grow up a little bit more, they will 'stick' to their moms (and dads) again. Of course, you need to spend time to play and talk with them everyday even they did not prefer u much now. I always comfort my friends who complained about kids sticking to maids in this way: Your kids like the maid, that means your maid treats your kids well. At least you do not need to worry about your maid hitting or starving your kids. Thinking in this way will make you feel more peaceful.

Asian

完全同意你的看法和意見。

pattymom

有了BB後, 我和丈夫先計劃搬近婆婆爺爺到, 因為有照應, 將來由菲傭主力照顧, 婆婆爺爺定時"巡查", 以確保仔仔能夠得到妥善照顧, 但當小朋友一歲時, 慢慢每天放工返到家中, 見到他一味只懂親親菲傭, 對父母較"生保", 心裡真是滿不是味兒。

我想這就是雙職父母要付出的代價吧? 朋友說, 等孩子長大"懂性"後, 這種情況便會改善, 希望吧! 現在除了假日一定湊仔仔行假外, 每日我和丈夫都會致電家中, 和小朋友問候幾句, 希望他能感受我們父母對他的關懷。未能在兒子成長時時刻陪伴在側, 將會是我終身遺憾, 要上班的爸爸媽媽, 萬般無奈呀!

NormalGuy

爸爸媽媽要上班, 孩子要上學, 各有各的職責, 我們無需因為要上班而不能替孩子温習而難過啊!

我很早已預計到沒有太多的時間陪太子讀書, 而且覺得學習是人生長跑, 不爭朝夕, 只爭長遠, 所以我選擇了一條龍的學校, 不用為升中而過早催谷, 而且學校功課不多, 因為多不等於好.

校長和老師都是太忙人, 校長傳授他的教子之道是讓孩子在小學開始時已自己靠自己, 弄得一塌糊塗就讓老師來教訓他, 今天校長的一雙子女都入讀英國的頂級大學了.

成長過程是很漫長的, 培養自學能力也如是. 大家放開懷抱, 讓生活過得簡單些, (包括孩子的學習生活也要簡單), 多休息, 保持腦活神通, 只在必要時才施予援手, 將來入大學也不難, 因為大學學額正在增加.

readers

I normally go back home at about 8pm. Then have dinner (kids' dinner time is earlier) and check their homework. My son is K2, so I only need to spend a few mins on his homework. My daughter is at P1 but she finishes most of her homework in school (there is a homework session in school in the afternoon). I usually spend about 15-30min on her homework. Not much difference even when there is dictation. The dictations are frequent but usually a few words or sentences for Eng. The longer Chi dictations are always held on Mon so that u can do revision in weekend. So I can play for about 1 hr with her and her brother (play, read books, eat ice cream/snacks, to to playground....) before she goes to sleep at 9:30-10. My husband comes back around the same time and has trips from time to time. He also focuses on playing with them. In addition, my daugher can play for at least 1-2 hrs with her brother before I/my husband come home.

I ask her to do revision by herself when there is assessment or examinations. When I go home, I will ask her if she wants me to go through the materials with her. If she wants, I will go through those main points with her. If she does not want, I will leave it. Afterall she is only P1 and I can afford any low scores she may have. She should learn to be independent and be responsible for her own study. So far it works. She is a bit lazy in the first exam though her marks are above average. In the second exam, she works a bit harder as she knows this is the only way she can get higher marks. And she really did and she feels very proud of herself. I did not take any annual leave to do revision with her.

Both my kids had 1 piano class and 1 Eng class on weekdays. On Sat, they have arts and crafts and drama activities which they enjoy most. Sunday - we go to church only.

I want to enjoy the time with my kids and do not want to scold at them because of homework. Afterall, we only got a very little time with them everyday and very soon they will grow up and have their own social circle. To me, it is more important to build up a good relationship than to chase for academic results. I guess only in this way they will enjoy learning and have time to explore the world in their own way. Don't forget: kids can learn through playing an d 'playing' is every child's human right.

[ 本文章最後由 readers 於 08-3-21 01:15 編輯 ]

cameo

其實每人都係每日24小時,夠唔夠用都係咁過,我個女迫唔嚟,我迫過唔work,決定唔會再迫...
我時間唔會比其他人好得去邊,我工作時間剛同小女相反,我3:00前返工(個女都未放學,見唔到面),我12點幾放工返到屋企(阿女已經瞓左覺,只見到熟睡o既佢....
我女已小三,功課量亦多,每日功課佢自己做,唔識就打電話問同學,or打電話問我,到夜晚收工我會睇佢功課,喺有問題的地方我用stickers點上題示教佢,佢朝早起身返學時,就喺校車上面改好功課,若我夜晚發現佢功課上有大問題(多數是新教課程),我會頂住唔瞓等到阿女天光起身,親身講解(當然呢種情況唔多,否則我日日唔夠瞓都遲早死得)
平時默書佢自己溫習,大多成績都唔錯,只係間中亦會有失手(但若要我每次默書都坐喺佢隔離溫習係為左次次100分,當然可以,但我唔會,佢自己亦有能力及責任了)
測考我會幫佢,但唔會全部,英文要串字就留俾佢自己串,中文生字亦佢自己溫習,寫作佢會自己睇完notes就作一篇俾我睇(我水評未可以去到批改作文,佢小女係話希望我可以俾d意見佢,我絕對樂意),數學我會精華佢平時d工作紙,選出佢錯的類別,自己出d同類題目比佢試做,唔明再解再教,就當係溫數學科!
我女亦一樣有課外活動,但全部都無壓力的活動,佢參加左有6個,fri籃球,sat體操+柔道,sun中作+英作+書法,全部都無需特別做功課or練習,書法係要練字,但由第一日上堂我已主動每次入課室一同參與,亦已同導師傾好,小女練字只可以做到重質不能重量,而每星期我與小女的假期亦有好豐富的親子活動,我地一齊練字(我同時預備書法文具一齊練字,大家互相睇大家的"功課"),一齊去圖書館睇書一小時,一齊玩NDS,佢過唔到版就由我幫佢"打大佬".....
唔好再為左時間上夠唔夠用而煩嘞,時間每日都真係有限,我只可以選擇"重質",好好運用同小朋友相處的小小时間,我而家係要返工,但我亦知做全職家庭主婦都唔代表小朋友成績可以有乜大改進,當你試諗一屋大小事交到自己手上,真係可以有更多時間同小朋友溫習嗎?當你24小時唔洗出外工作,可以保證自己日日對住小朋友EQ一樣嗎??我做過全職家庭主婦幾年,發覺只係各有好壞吧了....
反正覺得時間唔夠用,不如再plan好時間表

羊咩咩太太

我兩公婆也要返工,老公信唔過,叫佢睇下亞囡,佢可以去左睇報紙或叫埋亞囡去整野食,都係留番d優差比佢,同亞囡排毒算吧(玩和食).

另外講,我非常好彩有個好99每天幫我接囡囡放學和就我地好早食晚飯,我放工就立刻回到家7:00食飯,然後幫囡囡check功課,要默書和quiz的話就要在星期六或日預早溫左先,咁平日會輕鬆d,有些小朋友還要琴棋書畫呢,好彩我得琴ja.;有時間既話就問番囡囡當日學左d乜,佢講得出我就放佢一馬,講唔出的,就有時間再follow一下.

我做過實驗了,原來迫同唔迫(我指溫習),分數唔差得太遠;迫囡囡-我同囡囡都唔開心,相反開開心心咁溫習-大家都開心;過得去就算吧!

jaja

touch wood我個女成績唔錯...小一小二都有參加托補班, 係幫倒睇佢做功課同默書, 一路都keep住全級前十名, 但學費一加再加成1,500元一個月, 所以今年小三唔補啦, 變左我要做呢份兼職, 真係無哂時間, 結果佢D成績跌左去全級十九名....唯有依家6時幾返去唔睇電視一路睇佢做功課, 食完飯又要默書, 温習同練琴, 真係好累呀.....希望佢D成績好返D啦

馬媽媽

Although some children may be very willing to learn things. as a parent, I have to adjust for them and still want to let them having some spare time (even very little bit) to dream and do something "not so serious" e.g. drawing/writing something silly, playing dolls, etc. so that the childhood will be very memorable for their whole life.

原文章由 晴晴的媽媽 於 08-3-12 11:12 發表


Hi Karinachu,

有些情況不是朋友願意而是父母的意願的話，小朋友在迫的情況下學，當然會覺得痛苦 ；相反，若好像你的囡囡是自己主動要求學的話，那就另一回事 ，這便不是苦事，不是滿足父母而是滿意自己，這才是學 ...

晴晴的媽媽

原文章由 Karinachu 於 08-3-11 19:55 發表
hkparents,

你估錯了, 我囡囡從來無上任何學前班的, 三歲時見到表哥學鋼琴, 佢跟住想學, 因太細我沒有給她學, 到4歲才學. 小提琴是今個暑假才學, (佢見小朋友背住個琴好有型, 佢話要學), 游泳本來是暑假學的暑期班, ...

Hi Karinachu,

有些情況不是朋友願意而是父母的意願的話，小朋友在迫的情況下學，當然會覺得痛苦 ；相反，若好像你的囡囡是自己主動要求學的話，那就另一回事 ，這便不是苦事，不是滿足父母而是滿意自己，這才是學習的動力，好像我的囡囡一樣，叫他學少一樣都說不可 ！她三歲生日要求生日禮物是學跳芭蕾舞，四歲要求加學鋼琴，五歲要求加學珠心算，仲未計年中時考小學，她覺得自己英文不好，跟著加學英文，音樂劇團；魔術...現在我身邊的家人及朋友都勸我不要給囡囡學太多，太辛苦啦! 我都解釋了很多次 ，是囡囡的要求，她很用心去學，覺得學到野，很充實，很滿足 !我實在找不到什麼理由不准她繼續， ，其實最緊要是時間的安排，讓子女了解，他們也會懂得合作及自動自覺。

晴晴的媽媽

Karinachu

hkparents,

你估錯了, 我囡囡從來無上任何學前班的, 三歲時見到表哥學鋼琴, 佢跟住想學, 因太細我沒有給她學, 到4歲才學. 小提琴是今個暑假才學, (佢見小朋友背住個琴好有型, 佢話要學), 游泳本來是暑假學的暑期班, 學學下現在仍學緊. 佢重話要學4式呢. 我其實有問佢減少一兩樣活動的, 但她一樣都不想減, 她不願意下只減了畫畫. 可能佢似我老公, 有毅力掛.所以我放工都要快手快腳, 要快d回家.

原文章由 hkparents 於 08-3-11 11:53 發表
請不要怪我直言,我覺得 Karinachu的囡囡太辛苦了,一個小朋友每天腦海只有學習,練習和溫習,除了應付學校上的學科外,還要學習小提琴,鋼琴和英文班. 我相信Karinachu囡囡自小已上不同的學前班,否則今天不會有那麼聽話及 ...

evergreenj

原文章由 鳳梨 於 08-3-11 12:22 發表
我成日都同有d家長講: 人哋考第一係背後要付出好多: 無左小朋友享樂既時間, 唔可以好free做自己想做既嘢, 如果我哋d小朋友可以做佢哋1/2 exercises, 相信都可以考第一or好前, 但係你想唔想小朋友咁細就精力耗盡? 只 ...

我都覺得小朋友好忙,我平時係要佢抽多時間玩同睇課外書籍,無比校外習作佢做,我覺得佢一日係學校已好辛苦,好似自己放工仲要學
野都頂唔順,比大家放鬆下唔好咩!

鳳梨

我成日都同有d家長講: 人哋考第一係背後要付出好多: 無左小朋友享樂既時間, 唔可以好free做自己想做既嘢, 如果我哋d小朋友可以做佢哋1/2 exercises, 相信都可以考第一or好前, 但係你想唔想小朋友咁細就精力耗盡? 只要成績中上我就滿意, 因佢真係比別人操練得少, 當然有d小朋友係好受呢一套.

原文章由 hkparents 於 08-3-11 11:53 發表
請不要怪我直言,我覺得 Karinachu的囡囡太辛苦了,一個小朋友每天腦海只有學習,練習和溫習,除了應付學校上的學科外,還要學習小提琴,鋼琴和英文班. 我相信Karinachu囡囡自小已上不同的學前班,否則今天不會有那麼聽話及 ...

hkparents

請不要怪我直言,我覺得 Karinachu的囡囡太辛苦了,一個小朋友每天腦海只有學習,練習和溫習,除了應付學校上的學科外,還要學習小提琴,鋼琴和英文班. 我相信Karinachu囡囡自小已上不同的學前班,否則今天不會有那麼聽話及好成績. 但請不要忽視教導小朋友要怎樣正面對錯敗.因為叻的孩子往往不能容易接受自己的失敗.  在此亦可看到Karinachu怎樣將全副精神和心機放在她的寶貝女兒身上. 這是典型香港一孩家庭的寫照.

Karinachu

各位,

我囡囡現在一年班, 每天我和她的時間根本不夠用, 她放學後, tea time及休息30分鐘, then take shower, 16:30開始做功課, 如在學校無時間做功課, 分分鐘要做到18:30, 18:30-19:15晚飯時間, 這時我放工回到家(如不要OT), 我開始一面食飯, 一面check功課及Kumon Maths, 她開始做每日一篇(其實是每日4篇, 因是2篇中, 2篇英), 如果好彩她的功課無問題, 便要準備一下每星期的中文背黙及英文黙書, then,開始小提琴及鋼琴練習(我想她每天可練習各30分鐘. 但不是日日咁順利-小提琴我和她一同練, 鋼琴如好似音樂節, 我會跟她一同練), 課外圖書、reading kids及學校訂的報紙要在第二天上學前才有時間看10分鐘. 我老公不在香港工作的, 星期五晚返, 她從沒時間理會阿囡的任何事, 除了NDS(放長假時, 我會給阿囡relax一下。)我其實都覺得我和囡囡都幾辛苦, 但阿囡好有耐力, 佢話唔會放棄學習任何一樣興趣班(還有游泳及英文班). 阿囡好盡責任, 她上學期全班考第一. (其實我同我老公只想她考10名內)

MARS

原文章由 fungying 於 08-3-10 13:54 發表
各位要上班的爸爸媽媽,

見到這主題好想和大家分享我經驗,我小女已經中一啦.

好多家長要很晚放工,我會要小朋友先午睡大約1-1.5小時,睡醒後洗澡,做家課,我放工後會睇家課和溫習,因已經午睡所以做家課,溫習和練琴都 ...

夜晚11:00瞓,第二朝6:30起身,總要維持咗咁多年,你女真係勁勁勁.

MARS

原文章由 YanYan0116 於 08-3-10 13:12 發表


我仲學緊, 不過唔係好夠時間練, 好時都有歌要彈2堂, 不過學費唔貴就算啦.

起碼你係電話吩咐亞女佢都聽呀, 我個個面對面叫佢都唔願做.

無論學琴定教女都係一樣...慢慢嚟啦,總有成功的一天

MARS

原文章由 evergreenj 於 08-3-10 12:39 發表

其實亞媽話同佢沖,但佢就鍾意玩水,激死!係就係好忙,見到個女&同佢多D傾計就好開心!其實個女可以坐校車,但自己接佢返學好D,見到佢入學校,就好放心喇! 佢依家仲係同我訓潻!晚晚攬到實一實! ...

係咪女特別痴身D呢~ 我個都係成日同我瞓架

achow

Dear All,

I am a working mother and I need to go for business trip in every single month. Therefore kids's homework and review really gave me pressure.

If I am in HK, I will arrive home at around 6:45. Chat with them for 15min and dinner at 7:00. 7:30-9:00 start to study/ checking homework/review time. If no homework that day, I will ask them to read story book, pratice Piano. (Luckily not many homework in my son's school).
9:00-9:30, we will watch TV together-discovery channel or play cards or do some drawings. Must sleep at 9:30.

I also hire a private teacher at home, 2 times a week. If I am not in HK, I will ask her to come 3 times a week. Before me or teacher arrive, they must need to finish homeworks by themselves (That's important). Teacher and me are the one to check and assist them when they don't know how to do.

Lucky me, my youngest girl is very independent, therefore what I need to do is only forcus on my eldest son.

According they do not have many homeworks (May be some already finish in class), therefore they can still attend one hour activities per day.