are we wrong?

lalasweetie

入到心水名校, 開始迫個仔‧但係 , 我今日 發現佢靜靜呢mine
crying .
are we wrong? we both try hard to squeeze out time for his study. I do understand it's tough but not sure if he had too much pressure from it.

may be , I should slow down a bit...................

lalasweetie

now,he is fine.
we had a little talk few days after.
he told me that the reason that he is not happy was
his father's speech not the course.
yes , indeed his father did mad and call him stupid tnhat night.
but , l will keep him in view for his work.
thanks.

[ 本文章最後由 lalasweetie 於 07-12-11 23:21 編輯 ]

MariaTsui

我個仔讀K3,剛剛報了唯一一間學校,學校也收了,很開心,但這所學校不是什麼名校,只是該區比較好的津校,我也沒有替他報私小及直資,只是為了選一所適合他的學校,我到處尋找,終於找到,學校理念不錯,跟現就讀活動教學的幼稚園課程接軌,我只希望他在這6年小學生活開心,隨了知識有所增進,也希望他有一個良好的品格,我只是想告訴大家一定要小心選擇,真的要從小朋友角度出發,雖然小朋友只有5歲,但他的能力是否真的可以應付,作為父母應該清楚知道,不要強求,繼續保持良好親子關係才最重要。

liyinfai

Yes, what you did is wrong to the child.
I'm a doctor. I had studied psychology in University.
I advise you not put pressure on your kid right now and if he cannot catch up, find a BETTER school which is more suitable to your son. Remember, it is NOT your kid's fault. It is your fault. Otherwise, you never know what your kid will turn up both in term of psychology and behaviour.
Finally, I am serious !

rohoy2k

Hopefully they can learn from this example and then trying to "be" Cinderella....Do some houseworks

原文章由 Johnny_hk 於 07-12-11 09:25 發表
Haha, good example .. wonder the children understand this

Johnny_hk

Haha, good example .. wonder the children understand this

原文章由 andykwan 於 07-12-10 23:46 發表
"爭" because of simple theory: Demand > Supply

space of famous school is example.

children example: only cinderella can stay with prince after dance selection...

andykwan

"爭" because of simple theory: Demand > Supply

space of famous school is example.

children example: only cinderella can stay with prince after dance selection...

poorpapa

有競爭才有進步, 只要唔係惡性, 係良性競爭.

其實, 老土那句廣告對白:
要嬴人先要嬴自己

[ 本文章最後由 poorpapa 於 07-12-10 23:20 編輯 ]

ChiChiPaPa

原文章由 gracechung 於 07-12-10 16:19 發表
有感而發。我亞仔最近問左我一條我唔識答的問題。

佢問：媽媽，點解呢個世界咩都係爭既？
我唔意識到佢講咩，就話：爭咩呀？冇野要爭呀。
跟住佢就話：咩都要爭呀，讀小學又要爭，讀中學又要爭，讀大學又要爭！
對於呢個問題，我都唔識答，只 ...

下次和你打波時，我們每人一個球，大家不用爭，看看你是否覺得這樣會開心一點。

每個人都需要為自己定下目標，然後為目標而奮鬥，這樣我們才會有多姿多彩的人生。

星級國民

原文章由 gracechung 於 07-12-10 16:19 發表
有感而發。我亞仔最近問左我一條我唔識答的問題。

佢問：媽媽，點解呢個世界咩都係爭既？
我唔意識到佢講咩，就話：爭咩呀？冇野要爭呀。
跟住佢就話：咩都要爭呀，讀小學又要爭，讀中學又要爭，讀大學又要爭！
對於呢個問題，我都唔識答，只 ...

我會話: 有樣野冇需要爭, 亦都無得爭, 就是父母對你的愛.

鳳梨

That is the real life

原文章由 gracechung 於 07-12-10 16:19 發表
有感而發。我亞仔最近問左我一條我唔識答的問題。

佢問：媽媽，點解呢個世界咩都係爭既？
我唔意識到佢講咩，就話：爭咩呀？冇野要爭呀。
跟住佢就話：咩都要爭呀，讀小學又要爭，讀中學又要爭，讀大學又要爭！
對於呢個問題，我都唔識答，只 ...

Era

乜唔係達爾文話既咩?物競天擇,適者生存呀!

原文章由 gracechung 於 07-12-10 16:19 發表
有感而發。我亞仔最近問左我一條我唔識答的問題。

佢問：媽媽，點解呢個世界咩都係爭既？
我唔意識到佢講咩，就話：爭咩呀？冇野要爭呀。
跟住佢就話：咩都要爭呀，讀小學又要爭，讀中學又要爭，讀大學又要爭！
對於呢個問題，我都唔識答，只 ...

gracechung

有感而發。我亞仔最近問左我一條我唔識答的問題。

佢問：媽媽，點解呢個世界咩都係爭既？
我唔意識到佢講咩，就話：爭咩呀？冇野要爭呀。
跟住佢就話：咩都要爭呀，讀小學又要爭，讀中學又要爭，讀大學又要爭！
對於呢個問題，我都唔識答，只係感到好抱歉！

原文章由 麟媽媽 於 07-12-10 11:18 發表
係吖！接左龍就輕鬆得多，
但競爭可能更早發生於k.3 呢！
而沒有接龍之小學壓力可更大，
想入間好中學，學位更加少了。

898998

原文章由 BillieBug 於 07-12-10 11:28 發表
此所以入讀一條龍的小學那麼受家長的歡迎！我見我的同事，當仔女接近升中時，都非常擔心不能成功升讀聯系的中學，或理想的英中，又需擔憂仔女面試入中學的表現不濟，就連現時不少小五學生亦要開始接受學校的面試特訓，以致家長及仔 ...

yes, it is crazy world............................

BillieBug

此所以入讀一條龍的小學那麼受家長的歡迎！我見我的同事，當仔女接近升中時，都非常擔心不能成功升讀聯系的中學，或理想的英中，又需擔憂仔女面試入中學的表現不濟，就連現時不少小五學生亦要開始接受學校的面試特訓，以致家長及仔女精神壓力都很大，同學之間的競爭就更不必說了！

WYmom

原文章由 麟媽媽 於 07-12-10 11:18 發表
係吖！接左龍就輕鬆得多，
但競爭可能更早發生於k.3 呢！
而沒有接龍之小學壓力可更大，
想入間好中學，學位更加少了。

Yes, it's the trend, so more parents turn to DSS which are mostly one-dragon schools!  A lot of famous schools have become one-dragon DSS.  I think LS and MCS will gradually form one-dragon, just not sure if they will be DSS.

麟媽媽

係吖！接左龍就輕鬆得多，
但競爭可能更早發生於k.3 呢！
而沒有接龍之小學壓力可更大，
想入間好中學，學位更加少了。

原文章由 WYmom 於 07-12-10 11:07 發表


In reality, pressure of getting into "good" secondary schools is very large under the current banding system and the labelling of EMI/ CMI schools.  Pressure/ competitions come from rankings of stud ...

WYmom

原文章由 peppergin 於 07-12-10 10:43 發表
很多家長都不能成熟地看子女的教育，只跟大圍的方向把子女推往看重學術表現的名校，所以做成壓力和傷害。

現今其實是可以"條條大路通羅馬的"。各位，不要執着在某階段競爭，而損害親子關係啦！這將會是得不賞失的。壓力愈大，反 ...

In reality, pressure of getting into "good" secondary schools is very large under the current banding system and the labelling of EMI/ CMI schools.  Pressure/ competitions come from rankings of students.  Parents are so anxious about the kids' academic results.  So through train schools are better for releasing such pressure.

In a few years' time, most secondary schools have to either delink or form one-dragon with their primaries.

麟媽媽

其實，壓力唔係來自名校與否，
十居其九來自父母，自已迫緊子女罷！
好多名校有直屬額，升中點都收成半有多啦，
子女真係能力不到，父母係咁一咪迫！
之但係非名校就唔使迫？唔一定，
地區學校要升上好中學，一樣睇成績，
如果父母唔介意子女升上任何中學，
根本個個細路都可以開心無壓力，
所以問問自己，過到自己仔女讀乜都無問題了。

原文章由 peppergin 於 07-12-10 10:43 發表
很多家長都不能成熟地看子女的教育，只跟大圍的方向把子女推往看重學術表現的名校，所以做成壓力和傷害。

...

peppergin

很多家長都不能成熟地看子女的教育，只跟大圍的方向把子女推往看重學術表現的名校，所以做成壓力和傷害。

現今其實是可以"條條大路通羅馬的"。各位，不要執着在某階段競爭，而損害親子關係啦！這將會是得不賞失的。壓力愈大，反抗愈大。