Any idea on the first day to school

Radiomama

My boy starts his summer course today and after these 3 weeks, he will begin K1 in August.
This morning he cried for 3 hrs in the class.
What should I do tomorrow?  I will bring him to school and he will take the school bus home.
Should I give him candy??
What should I say before I leave him??

Pls make your suggestions.

vanyau

原文章由 Radiomama 於 07-7-9 15:01 發表
My boy starts his summer course today and after these 3 weeks, he will begin K1 in August.
This morning he cried for 3 hrs in the class.
What should I do tomorrow?  I will bring him to school a ...

可以送糖給他，但不是事前說”如果你返學，我就送你什麼什麼．．．？”而是應該接他放學時送給他，以示獎勵他．但最好講明不是日日送的，因為返學是小孩子應該做的，不能夠扭計要東西的．

老師教要狠心些，哭多幾次就會ｏｋ．
我自己聽到他哭，我的心也很痛，所以最好放落他之後，立即離開．

Radiomama

第二天上學了....在地鐵時已開始扁嘴, 飲泣, 上到班房門口, 死纏著我不放, 最後由老師抱入班房, 便著我們離開.
今天更多小朋友哭了...真替他們難過....
昨天放學我真的出奇不意送上瑞士糖一夥, 今天還由他帶同小動物一起上堂, 還有什麼法寶??
當他要求我"不要離開課室時", 應怎樣回答呢??

Radiomama

小兒今早起床後說, "我不開心!" 再追問他, 他又不願再說了.

乘地鐵時跟他談天說地, 他也沒有再哭, 還"喀" 聲笑.
怎料到學校後一聽到上課鈴聲, 他便緊張上來, 要抱, 要陪.

當看見同班同學與家長耳語就是我這小男孩在課室裏也哭不停時, 我真替兒子難過.  是我過去做得不夠好而令他缺乏安全感嗎?

還好, 今天他被老師"抱入"課室時, 他有一些小進步--終於可以像平時一般跟我吻別及說再見! 剎那間, 真希望他快些長大, 快些離開陰霾天!!

OkaMama

Hi, Radiomama,

My daugther has started nursery since January 2007 and we had the same worries of her not adapting to school life before.  Fortunately, she cried at home slightly when changing to school uniform at the first few days only.  Now that nearly 7 months had passed and she is very well adapted to and enjoyed school life.  We had used the following methods before:-

• Buying a few story books about first day to school and school life (many of these could be found in bookstores) and read with her days before starting school and everynight during her first few weeks to school.  During story reading, I took the opportunity to hear what my daughter had come across at school and her feelings.
• I hurried back home after work as early as possible and spent as much time with her as I could especially during her first month at school so that my daughter would not feel that we have deliberately left her in school (a strange environment to her) and our care to her remains the same.

Don't know if this works for your son.  I remembered at other discussion that you used to take your son to church and so he might very much used to have other children accompanying him.  Don't worry.  I share your joy in learning the improvement of your child at the 3rd day.  Children will settle down very quickly.  If possible, keep in close connection with the class teachers who are experienced enough to take care of your son and to reflect to you how we as parents could assist the child to adapt to the new environment.

Cheers,
OkaMama

Radiomama

OkaMama,

Thank you so much!
We will try our best!
Will your daughter study K1 this year or next year??

OkaMama

Radiomama,

My daughter will study K1 this year, but not in the existing nursery which is within 5-minute walk from home.  Starting from September, she will have to take school bus with travelling time of around 20 minutes per trip. We will also try our best to help her adapt to the new KG.

Looking forward to reading more good news from you.

原文章由 Radiomama 於 07-7-11 10:06 發表
OkaMama,

Thank you so much!
We will try our best!
Will your daughter study K1 this year or next year??

Radiomama

乘坐校巴回家的小兒, 從電話傳來他愉快的聲音, "媽媽, 今日少少喊, 我有笑啊! 老師還送我一張黃色貼紙!!"
快樂的感覺, 盼望能延續到明天.

olima

努力，加油。

為你及你的囝囝打氣。

原文章由 Radiomama 於 07-7-11 18:26 發表
乘坐校巴回家的小兒, 從電話傳來他愉快的聲音, "媽媽, 今日少少喊, 我有笑啊! 老師還送我一張黃色貼紙!!"
快樂的感覺, 盼望能延續到明天.

Radiomama

小兒的表現有些令人憂慮...:cry:
昨晚開始胃口不佳, 今早只把奶喝了一半...
乘地鐵時他變得沉默, 無論我怎跟他聊天, 他都無大反應, 只是忽然扁嘴說不要吃餅! 這可奇怪, 平日最喜歡吃的, 今天統統不吃??
上課室前, 全程均要求抱抱, 但到入課室時, 他又乖巧地站著看我整理書包, 然後要求錫錫我, 跟我道別擁抱, 之後便拖著老師的手進入課室.....
我沒有探頭看他進入課室之後的情況, 我怕他因發現我而哭, 這樣對嗎??
期待放學時能聽到他快樂的聲音.....

Radiomama

老師說, 他今天又進步了! 沒有大哭, 只是間中飲泣眼紅, 當老師問問題時他也開始回答.

在家中曾教導小兒若要上洗手間便要跟老師說, 他昨天向我表示老師在他要求時著他等等, 好奇的我今天向老師查詢, 老師說確有此事, 但發生在剛上洗手間之後!!!
實情是蠱惑的小兒, 以為我在課室外面, 所以希望借故出來找我!!

要摸透小朋友的感受, 真不容易!

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其實小朋友初初返學一定會喊，情緒亦會變化較大，因為他們要離開父母，適應一個新的環境。而且家長一定唔可以俾小朋友感覺到你都好唔捨得佢，因為佢會感受到，分離的情緒會更強烈。家長可以好輕鬆咁同佢講，一陣見，好似平時去街咁，就得架喇。不過都都睇返小朋友的情況，但一般都可以咁做，但見你小朋友都適應得唔錯，應該ok 的

Radiomama

看題目就知道昨天有多高興, 親子旅行, 當然不會哭啦!
下星期一再接再厲, 努力!

Radiomama

第六天上學, 拭一拭眼淚就走入班房去!

今天沒有扭抱, 可以自己一步一步走上樓梯, 到達班房前, 為他整理好書包, 他的眼淚大滴大滴流下, 熱烈地擁著吻別後, 他便走進課室去! 看著他一天一天進步, 感受生命的微妙轉變!

又, 上星期沒有哭的小同學, 今早不知何解哭得特別癘害, 小孩子的心情真的很奇妙!

YankeeMa

Hi Radiomama,

Your sharing is very touching and it arouses my memory on my son when he attented playgroup 2 yrs ago!  

Will your child study in the same school in September?  Most children can get adapted to the same study environment in at most one months' time.  It is also applicable to those enrolled in playgroup.  When they are more familar with their teachers (who are the most significant ones!) and little classmates, their anxiety will be alleviated much.  When they grow bigger and bigger, they may even share with you their schoolife, like the gifts awarded by their teacher or the name of their best friends.  

Let's be confident!

Regards,
Yankeema.

Radiomama

今早起床, 小兒扭肚痛, 所以今天放他一馬, 不用上學!
我會否上當了???
其實, 對他的期望是身體健康和愉快學習, 不想因為肚子痛而令他上學時他難過.
明天繼續努力!

又,

YankeeMa,

小兒上的暑期班是一直上遊戲班的學校, 同學也有四位相同, 只是他仍未適應沒有媽媽/姐姐的日子!
八月將正式進入k1, 屆時又會到另一間幼稚園, 真頭痛!!

Radiomama

休息一天之後再上學, 真要花點功夫, 今早的戰場從穿校服開始! 幸好在爸爸的聰明鼓勵下, 終於由他自己把校服穿上. (方法是跟爸爸比賽誰穿衣第一)
到達學校後跟我道別時, 還是會扁扁嘴, 但偷看他進入課室後, 已經沒有哭, 而且還企定定聽老師吩咐, 我真的感到安心!
今天接他放學, 還會問我要糖果呢! 但我今天沒有再帶糖果, 改為蘋果汁!  他歡天喜地地喝光.

Radiomama

嘩, 大件事, 上學途中要大解!!
其實在家中已辦了大小事才出門, 怎料車行至鑽石山他堅持要上洗手間, 唯有請求地鐵客戶服務中心幫忙, 原來地鐵真有洗手間的!!
之後才再上學去!!!

日後坐校車怎辦呢???

今天較遲才到學校, 到達班房門口, 他便被老師拉了進去, 還未來得及吻別呢!  幸好從小窗口還可以跟他揮手說再見, 希望他一切安好.

YankeeMa

Hi Radiomama,

It seems that your son has got adapted to attend this activity independently! Congratulations!

I think the your son's tummy pain that you mentioned before was lilely true rather than malingering.  Thus it resulted in occasional diarrhoea or increase in bowel opening as your son complained during taking MTR.  When he takes schoolbus in future, you need to pack some spare clothes and diapers in his schoolbag to deal with "emergency" situation.  Most "shum shum" in schoolbus are smart and you need not worry much.

Regards,
Yankeema

Radiomama

仔仔的"慣性"建立得真快, 今天坐地鐵至彩虹他又說要上洗手間, 今次當然沒有再左撲右撲, 與他下車後躲在一角, 穿上尿片就是!
還好趕及上接著的列車.

今天又是親子旅行, 全程均自創歌曲, 開心得很!

老師說他現在上堂時沒有再哭了, 而且還爭取機會發言, 動手嘗試和唱歌, 真好!昨晚跟他說獅子和老鼠的故事, 他說老鼠救了獅子後成為好朋友, 一起上學去!

小兒用了十天來適應上學的環境, 真要多謝老師們的協助, 也証明這次參加暑期班是對的, 希望八月正式開學時, 他可以更享受未來三年的學校生活呢!