名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

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會否覺得有很多家長不斷用各種方法試探妳/孩子/妳家傭, 不斷暗中跟妳比較?

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

似乎有壓力嘅係那些不斷暗中跟別人比較的家長。自己做番自己點會有壓力呢！

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

同意~
壓力來自家長要自己仔女比人地叻, 其實小朋友讀得快樂才是重要

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I am not yet a 名校家長 but I don't mind the pressure if i ever become one. You got what you paid for.

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Yes, much much pressure just from parents themselves, everyday like in the battle (esp. for a working mom)......but the boy seems so relex...

chanwyf 寫道:
會否覺得有很多家長不斷用各種方法試探妳/孩子/妳家傭, 不斷暗中跟妳比較?

一個非常著緊囝囝學業的媽咪 :-D :-D

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

身邊有好多呢d家長, 成日問我同囡囡而家學緊咩課外活動, 有無補習等等....跟住就見到佢小朋友跟住學, 慌死蝕底咁....

我自己無咩所謂, 每人既talent都唔同, 你鍾意咪一齊學囉, 不過未必0岩佢小朋友啫~~~

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

doristsang 寫道:
同意~
壓力來自家長要自己仔女比人地叻, 其實小朋友讀得快樂才是重要

I agree. most likely the anxiety and pressure are coming from us more than our kids.
Although I always remind myself ,don't give her pressure . But frankly, sometime I also get into the maze without notice;It really a tragedy for a person with religious.

Treat people as if they were what they ought to be, and you'll help them to become what they are capable of becoming.-Goethe

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Agree!

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

Well even not 名校家長, we still want the best for our kids, and want to see him try and produce their best. That's how it becomes parents busy running around for courses and comparing with others. I try to relax but then my son is P5 now. I just cannot let it go, when I see his subjects are not good. Just went through the P1 application for my 2nd son I'm so glad we got in our targeted school but not a 名校 and still the competition has been keen!

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YuYuMother 寫道:
身邊有好多呢d家長, 成日問我同囡囡而家學緊咩課外活動, 有無補習等等....跟住就見到佢小朋友跟住學, 慌死蝕底咁....

我自己無咩所謂, 每人既talent都唔同, 你鍾意咪一齊學囉, 不過未必0岩佢小朋友啫~~~

我都有同樣經歷, 基本上幾個阿媽走在一起就一定會問學什麼? 在那裡學? 看什麼書? 英文定中文? 有冇幫佢溫書呀? 好鬼c老套! :tongue: :tongue: :tongue:

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

人比人, 比死人...

我會教個女做人是要比較, 不過是與昨天的自己比較。

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doristsang 寫道:
人比人, 比死人...

我會教個女做人是要比較, 不過是與昨天的自己比較。

同意, 我也會教我囝囝同昨日的自己比較, 而不是同其他人.

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YuYuMother 寫道:
身邊有好多呢d家長, 成日問我同囡囡而家學緊咩課外活動, 有無補習等等....跟住就見到佢小朋友跟住學, 慌死蝕底咁....

我自己無咩所謂, 每人既talent都唔同, 你鍾意咪一齊學囉, 不過未必0岩佢小朋友啫~~~

唉！呢d家長真係名唔名校都有。問黎做咩呢？人o地個小朋友又唔係你個小朋友，人人興趣、天份唔同，何必咩都要跟呀？
何況人o地都未必如實答你啦。話你聽佢小朋友鍾意學呢樣，學o個樣，樣樣都唔駛迫就會自動自覺去練習，仲要唔駛迫佢溫書添，你信唔信呀？分分鐘鐘o係屋企鬧到拆天你唔知咋！

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

仲記得我個仔讀緊小學時，有位家長，成日話自己吾會迫個仔温習，佢個仔係自動波，壓力只係個小朋友比自己。點知，我個仔話我知，果位小朋友原來在班上同老師講，佢媽咪比左好大壓力佢，成日迫佢温習，test 攞89分，都閙到拆天。所以，有D家長真係講一套，做一套。

nanalam 寫道:
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YuYuMother 寫道:
身邊有好多呢d家長, 成日問我同囡囡而家學緊咩課外活動, 有無補習等等....跟住就見到佢小朋友跟住學, 慌死蝕底咁....

我自己無咩所謂, 每人既talent都唔同, 你鍾意咪一齊學囉, 不過未必0岩佢小朋友啫~~~

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我女女讀的那間不算是什麼名校, 緊張小朋友成績既都係一大堆家長, 學校由始至終都無比壓力小朋友要有點樣點樣既分數, 如果真係落後得大市太利害, 老師先會同家長傾下要點幫小朋友, 以我綜合多間學校...我女女學校老師算係教得好多野比小朋友, 即係如果小朋友上堂吸收到, 返到屋企又
做下功課, 應該唔駛考試時死背爛讀, 我而家同同年級既家長
已經唔係好溝通得到, 一見面第一句, 測驗得唔得...第二句...幾多分, 真係好無聊呀...夠竟佢地真係知唔知讀書係為咩...

前晚同個mama傾電話, 她的兒子讀一間直資名校, 我朋友
係由幼稚園已安排好多補習,課外活動谷個仔入名校, 好了...
最後真的入了, 但兒子患了抑鬱病, 我聽了都很痛心,
名校或唔係名校都會有壓力, 問題係家長要點處理, 有好多時
壓力係來自家長對自已子女要求高, 時常和其他成績好的同學和自已子女比較...真係雙重無聊...

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I agree we shouldn't compare with others....or on every single aspect. However, the rules of the game is that if you fall behind in rank, you do not have that many choices then! We want to be relaxed parents, while on the other hand, the school system, the society is demanding very keen competition. Very often we're in this dilemma......

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同意. 時常提醒自己不要給太大壓力小朋友, 不過當他落後於人的時候, 沒有辦法地又是要迫小朋友努力, 多做練習, 多溫書.

有家長在另一topic問"求學是不是真的不是求分數?", 但入好的小學是看分數, 入中學又是看分數, 會考, 入大學樣樣都是看分數, 試問我們又怎可以置身事外的認為真的可以"求學不是求分數".

hjm 寫道:
I agree we shouldn't compare with others....or on every single aspect. However, the rules of the game is that if you fall behind in rank, you do not have that many choices then! We want to be relaxed parents, while on the other hand, the school system, the society is demanding very keen competition. Very often we're in this dilemma......

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Re: 名校家長, 妳們是否覺得自己壓力很大?

Study in 名校 or not, I think if we always comparing with others, pressure will always be high as there are always people better than us or our kids. I would prefer more assessing improvement of the kids themselves from time to time, if they make improvement, parents should show appreciation and be happy with the kids. Every kid has different talents and strengths, if we can develope them in the right way, they will all become useful persons in future.

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