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Mami_mi

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我個仔 9 歲成日講大話 ,
俾左好多次機會佢重係咁 :cry: :cry:
點算好 :cry: :cry:

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Re: 唉！個仔9歲成日講大話

講邊類大話呢？

如果欠交功課，想辦法令他交齊功課，他就不用講大話了。

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judy 寫道:
講邊類大話呢？

如果欠交功課，想辦法令他交齊功課，他就不用講大話了。

功課都有，但我依家check 得好緊，佢就冇得避...
其他 : 會講大話黎逃避做功課、睇電視、做左先算

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wunma 寫道:
[quote]
Mami_mi 寫道:
我個仔 9 歲成日講大話 ,
俾左好多次機會佢重係咁 :cry: :cry:
點算好 :cry: :cry:

相信他聽過狼來了的故事吧! 要循循善誘的解釋給他聽, 做一個沒誠信的人的後果.[/quote]

不斷俾佢機會，佢不斷又犯，
打佢又驚暴力唔好，
佢成日都再犯，係咪冇得救，好驚

:cry: :cry:

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Re: 唉！個仔9歲成日講大話

Telling lies is not a good habit. This will provide an easy way out of situations for person. Before giving your son a hard time, first of all, ask yourself do you impose a zero tolerance on telling lies --- including your own self? Did he/she picked this up from parents ? Are you imposing rules so rigid that your son refuse to obey. He cannot argue with you so that he chooses to tell lies to retaliate. Is it something to do with ego? There are many reasons behind a lie.

But as parents, we have to understand psychologically the hidden reasons behind the lies before we can use the right doses to cure it. There's no one magic pill that cures all. Each incident has to be tackled separately. I'm still tryin' hard on this myself on my son, good luck!!

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我個女都係自己返學,放學補習社接,補完習自己返屋企, 佢知我地要返工, 初初我地都會驚佢四處去, 所以我要佢補完習響補習社打電話比我,跟著計佢時間返屋企, 試過有兩次用左半個鐘返到屋企(因為第一次話算數,比多一次機會佢唔話比爸爸知)跟著即刻話比爸爸知,爸爸話收左佢條key同埋等到6點我地接佢,我地罰左佢一個禮拜,而家都好準時返到屋企。佢而家都會--如果自己放學(有時學校有特別事)或自己補完習想買包包食,佢地打電話比我話聲比我知,

** P.S.有時我老公得閒會靜雞雞響佢補完習跟蹤佢, 睇下佢做物野。

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其實你有冇探討過仔仔點解要講大話呢? 會唔會因為佢試過每一次提出要求, 都被你拒絕咗, 所以佢索性唔同你講做咗先算呢? 有時小朋友o既心態都會諗:問都係唔比o架嘞, 倒不如做完先算! 試下同佢傾, 要佢講出講大話o既原因, 然後亦講出你唔比佢做o既原因同憂慮. 往後你就要試下俾啲"甜頭"佢, 唔係叫你每一樣都應承佢, 可以同佢協定一啲(佢容易做到o既, 如果太難o既佢又會冇心機做, 因為實做唔到)條件, 等佢知道講出嚟媽咪都會應承, 咁就無謂講大話啦! 等佢習慣唔駛講大話, 因為亦冇需要. 睇吓得唔得? :wink:

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Mami_mi

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wunma 寫道:
唔好打, 重要比佢知如果佢應承唔講大話, 你會百分百信佢.

佢一旦唔守信用, 重罰! 不能心軟. 例如罰佢冇得睇最喜歡的電視節目, 沒收最喜歡的玩具等, 點求都冇得傾.

有改善就多多鼓勵, 如做得到, 應該ok.

今次罰佢冇得睇電視，冇得去街，冇得打機，希望佢真係改 :cry:

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Mami_mi

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lochan 寫道:
Telling lies is not a good habit. This will provide an easy way out of situations for person. Before giving your son a hard time, first of all, ask yourself do you impose a zero tolerance on telling lies --- including your own self? Did he/she picked this up from parents ? Are you imposing rules so rigid that your son refuse to obey. He cannot argue with you so that he chooses to tell lies to retaliate. Is it something to do with ego? There are many reasons behind a lie.

But as parents, we have to understand psychologically the hidden reasons behind the lies before we can use the right doses to cure it. There's no one magic pill that cures all. Each incident has to be tackled separately. I'm still tryin' hard on this myself on my son, good luck!!

我都好小心自已身教
佢依家咁樣實在令我好煩惱...
會覺得自已一路放棄工作全心教佢
估唔到佢會諗各種方法黎瞞騙我... :cry:

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Mami_mi

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BB200200 寫道:
我個女都係自己返學,放學補習社接,補完習自己返屋企, 佢知我地要返工, 初初我地都會驚佢四處去, 所以我要佢補完習響補習社打電話比我,跟著計佢時間返屋企, 試過有兩次用左半個鐘返到屋企(因為第一次話算數,比多一次機會佢唔話比爸爸知)跟著即刻話比爸爸知,爸爸話收左佢條key同埋等到6點我地接佢,我地罰左佢一個禮拜,而家都好準時返到屋企。佢而家都會--如果自己放學(有時學校有特別事)或自己補完習想買包包食,佢地打電話比我話聲比我知,

** P.S.有時我老公得閒會靜雞雞響佢補完習跟蹤佢, 睇下佢做物野。

我都試過跟蹤佢，發現佢柄響公園玩一陣先返屋企..
應承我唔再犯，今次就走左去野食，重講大話話執到錢，後黎問多好多次先話用八達通...
頭先佢唔認時，我叫佢唔好返家，
估唔到我裝佢時，佢走左落樓下坐
俾佢嚇死我 :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:

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Mami_mi

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DoReMi媽媽寫道:
其實你有冇探討過仔仔點解要講大話呢? 會唔會因為佢試過每一次提出要求, 都被你拒絕

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DoReMi媽媽

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Re: 唉！個仔9歲成日講大話

由 Mami_mi 於 2005-02-23 18:10:50
佢話每次要做得好先有獎，所以佢索性做左先..
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所以我話要俾啲"甜頭"佢先囉! 初初同佢協定啲條件係俾佢好容易做到o既(唔好咁難), 仲要無論佢做得好唔好都讚, 起碼佢有做, 糾正咗佢講大話呢個問題先, 然後先再提高你對佢o既要求, 一步步嚟啦. :wink:

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wunma 寫道:
唔好打, 重要比佢知如果佢應承唔講大話, 你會百分百信佢.

佢一旦唔守信用, 重罰! 不能心軟. 例如罰佢冇得睇最喜歡的電視節目, 沒收最喜歡的玩具等, 點求都冇得傾.

有改善就多多鼓勵, 如做得到, 應該ok.

Agree, 因為我都係用呢個辦法教我個女。佢之前都有講大話, 比我同佢亞爺訓話完, 一輪車輪戰之後, 我老爺重用o左條苦肉計, 就係話如果佢下次再係咁, 就要話比爸爸知, 如果爸爸打佢, 就叫我老公打自己(即係我老爺)咁話, 我個女當堂喊o左出o黎, 我老爺重問我個女, 想唔想見到爸爸打亞爺, 我個女知道自己錯, 但係又唔想亞爺代佢受罪, 咁以後就真係唔敢講大話啦。

而且, 我一有機會, 就會佢我個女耳邊度"吟"佢, 話比佢聽講大話有物野唔好處, 講得大話多, 就會無人信你之類.......咁就會好o的o架啦

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lochan

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I see too many mothers gave up their work to teach the kids and ends up being more frustrated than happy. Mums are too worried, too angry, too strict and too demanding to themseles as well as to the kids! They kept saying to themselves, "my kid must perform well since I am full time looking after him (repeat one hundred times)"

If you think you are like one of them I mentioned above, just let loose yourself first, your strict/worried/angry face is unwelcoming to your kids. Your kid in return will not talk honestly to you!

I suggest you set up a trust on your son and stop interrogating him every time like "I knew you had done something wrong" . Maybe, your son sense your trust in him and will begin to feel responsible for his own action and tell less lies. See if this works.

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Kids will tell lies if they know that what they have done will cause parents to scold or beat them. If the boy only goes to buy some food before going back home, maybe you should buy something he likes at home and tell him that he can come back home to eat. If you can ask him what he wants and allow his request if reasonable, there is no need for him to tell lies.

I believe trust between each other is very important, if parents can be more friendly to the kids, they will trust you as their friends and will tell you more things honestly. This is relationship building and it takes time.

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