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如何幫助小朋友處理情緒行為問題 ? 請幫忙。 [複製鏈接]

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本帖最後由 ababymami 於 13-5-7 22:59 編輯

本人小朋友四歲幾,人較敏感,追求完美,愛哭,常有負面思想。
有沒有什麼方法,可以幫助改善 ?
另外小朋友承受挫折的能力超低,有時別人一句說話或一個眼神都會很不開心,而引起發脾氣。有沒有什麼方法,可以幫助改善 ? 謝謝。
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Dear ababymami,

All u mentioned in those 4 emotional problems - 敏感(u mean sensitive, not allegical, right?),追求完美,愛哭,常有負面思想 (u mean negative thoughts, not negative emotions, right?A bit different in reasoning) could be divide into neurotic and behavioural reasons.
Neurotic reasons (like brain misproportion, etc)need some time to find back each possible reasons if u want to know.
I guess ABA & RDI both have thorough explanation and possible remedies in behavioutal parts. Other experienced parents could have detail suggestions.

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我諗你仔個問題-追求完美可能係因為佢地個腦只係裝住一種方法. 抗逆力差可能係因為佢地個腦只係裝住0種方法, 即係一個方法都無.

1. 平時可以玩d 變通的遊戲, 例如食蛋糕, 故意拿走刀叉, 旁邊放筷子或其它東西, 不提示可否完成.

2. 遇到困難位, 起初就要spotlight 一d good-enough solution: 呢條路都得; 行樓梯都可以...(記住melt-down 之前就要spotlight, melt-down 後可以慳返啖氣), 成功後再spotlight一次, 叻叻, 第二個方法原來都得, 無發脾氣, 媽媽開心...

我地d 仔好似打機咁, 過完一關又一關, 呢關都有d 似 "打大佬". 過左呢關個仔行為就會正常好多.

加油!

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唔好俾甜野佢食...佢就會平靜好多~好多時佢地發脾氣都係因為身體有唔舒服但係又唔識講出黎

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唔好俾有人造色素D零食給他,  有媽媽推薦過馬莎的糖, 她說check過無人造色素!

[ 本帖最後由 JJran 於 11-11-3 19:48 編輯 ]

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首先多謝各位的意見。

LPYDAD1, my child always has negative thoughts which immediatly leads to negative emotion. The two are connected.

kelvin_hmlau, 你講:"我諗你仔個問題-追求完美可能係因為佢地個腦只係裝住一種方法. 抗逆力差可能係因為佢地個腦只係裝住0種方法, 即係一個方法都無."

你講得真好,我之前沒有往這方面想。

另外煩請你解釋一吓以下一句,我不是很明白:"記住melt-down 之前就要spotlight, melt-down 後可以慳返啖氣"

Thank you again for your sharing.

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其實小孩melt-down 有d 似電器 "跳fuse"或者電腦 "hang 機", 果一刻個腦都唔多轉, 只須要令佢地cool down 好過.

喬布斯果種追求完美 (不停評估後改進) 同A仔果種追求完美 (做事只得一個辦法) 係好唔同.

有d小孩唔知點做/點算時可能會擲物, 瞓地, 自傷; 有d無咁激可能會傻笑, 亂講/講反話/鸚鵡學舌, fooling around, flip the hands...

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I agree that negative thought could easily lead to negative emotions. But they are not parallel in every time or everyone or mixed. Should be identified in detail.
Just explain the negative thought & emtions first.
Negative thought is very commonly found in those kids with asperger syndromes. A few typical cases I have seen as
A 5.5 yr boy being rejected by a tutor to take a toy or an instruments. He immediately said, "I dont want this toy ever. " even though all people knew he is dying to have one.
A 6.5 yr girl (suspected PDD) bullying all younger kids around in the playground. When parent tried to explain her fault, she just turned her head away when explaining & ran away even though she clearly knew she did wrong.
Cases could be not very emotionally attached.
Negative emotion of course is a lot easy to identify, like easy to cry, no guts, easily meltdown by changes, cannot share food or toys etc.
Starting w/ neurotic reason and remedy. Of course, reasons are complex and not single. But just let me get u some key suspects.
One major arousal for negative /false thoughts are brain wiring problem - an overbuilt or underbuilt of certain neurons, neuron dendrites (short branches), neuron receptors over certain area like cerebellum小腦 or temporal lope.
Most popular suspect of emotional dysfunction of a delayed kid is the improper development of the medial brain - development problem in amygdala 杏仁體 and hippocampus 海馬體 under the limbic system. An oversize of amygdala and hippocampus mean that they are easily overreacted by external threats. A person will probably be easy to get emotionally attached by a small thing or not easily accept changes.
One common remedy again is play in happiness of course could rectify the imbalance in both problems. Exercise with fun is definitely helped to the brain to restructure its function.
For cerebellum problem, it involves in troubles from social activity and language learning mainly. Remedy to rebuild the neuron and neurotic matters over certain area would help to a certain extent. Behaviourally, social class, play therapy or even music therapy could also be suitable to ease such problem over this area. Therapy should stress on fun with logic & social bindling issue.
About primitive emotional problem is bascially controlled by limbic system. Reducing the job in amygdala and hippocampus could help to reduce its size, e.g. better sleeping habbit, some sensory training since these 2 parts also control most sensory function of a person could also help.
Passage is damn long already, talk about other behavioural solutions next time.
Btw, hope it helps.

[ 本帖最後由 LPYdad1 於 11-11-5 00:33 編輯 ]

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謝謝kelvin_hmlau,你講嘢真是很風趣。

LPYDAD1,Thank you so much for your detailed explanation.

I am glad to learn that "play in happiness of course could rectify the imbalance in both problems." The remedy is easily available. LPYDAD1, you always give hopes to our parents in spite of all the problems we face.

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Dear ababymami,

Hahaha..
I mean playing w/ fun rectifying SOME imbalance of both problems la.
Even yr kid might have emotional problem, pls dont get too worried. They might overcome later to some extent since conscious mind will overwhelm sub-consciousness as they grow older.
Am I too optimistic?Hahaha... I dont know.
I heard that there are quite a few celebrities having L-T emotional problem like Jane Austin, Leonardo De Vinci & Dicaprio, 林夕. It became more common in society...

Sorry, I forgot to say one more thing about remedy for emotional dysfunction & negative thoughts. People saying nutrition control over negative thoughts and emotional dysfunction is actually possible . A good diet will signal the brain to reorganize its weight of function. JJran said cutting artifical color is another possible solution since such chemical might block signal being properly indicated through neuron transmitters. At the same time, this chemical being absorbed through guts will actually burden the work in limbic system. Other chemicals like monosodium chloride and preservative might also have similar impact over the brain.

[ 本帖最後由 LPYdad1 於 11-11-5 22:57 編輯 ]
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