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發表於 04-9-27 17:37 |只看該作者

開學了,不願意上課外活動

阿仔自從小一開學後,所有活動都試扭計唔肯上堂,重係鬧到好彊個種,如公文、PIANO、 SWIMMING,
公文就投訴要做功課,而PIANO & SWIMMING 就話無練習, 老師會鬧(有時我地會帶佢去SWIMMING, 練琴就而視乎我有無時間布佢去練啦),所以唔上堂WO。
你地覺得應否堅持要佢學呢?  :cry:

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發表於 04-9-27 17:55 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

唉….上小一總有呢D問題,我早幾日前鬧完個仔,之後都有點後悔。
以往我仔幼稚園時要我陪佢做功課,陪佢練琴,咁佢一路都彈得不錯的。自從升小一之後,佢下晝自己又唔練琴,又彈到錯晒,到我放工只係對功課、溫下當日課文、執書包…都無咩時間同佢坐埋琴度,彈不到10分鐘佢已叫眼訓!我叫工人下晝睇佢彈琴,佢竟然彈以前d歌,工人以為佢好熟,到我返到屋企穿晒煲!當時真的好嬲好嬲!佢係度一味喊,說新歌難、佢唔想學、彈得唔好老師會鬧….
之後再諗,佢上小一呢段過度期,可以自動自覺完成功課已好大進步了,自己會否對他太mean?他還不到6歲,咩都要求他自動波?!諗下諗下呢個亞媽真係唔識得appreciate個仔已作出既effort…真的好內疚….
之後我打比琴老師,同佢講了亞仔的情況,希望佢比D allowance比亞仔,之前先比我話完,之後如果又比老師話都好慘…老師都說他呢幾個星期確實有D問題,進度唔好,應該是少於練習。我叫老師由得他,如果彈得不好,拖慢一點算了,希望之後適應了才pick up,始終學琴都是想他陶冶性情,想他開心...
所以你亦可跟琴老師及游泳教練說說你仔仔的情況,等小朋友不感到有壓力,過度了呢段時期應該會好D,唔好咁快放棄唔學呢!

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發表於 04-9-28 09:42 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

我認同麟媽媽的做法,亦明白她的感受,俾o的時間個小朋友同自己。我常常提自己,對待小孩子,千萬不要抱
Evelyn

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發表於 04-9-28 10:00 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

I face similar problem.  Children are usually lazy.  They cannot even finish their homework properly.  To practise piano, I suggest you go through the new songs with him at least once before you push him to practise by himself.  Help him to work out a time table and stick it on the piano.  Don't push too hard, leave some spare time for him.

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發表於 04-9-28 10:05 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

Yw,
Forgot to reply to your question.  I do believe you should insist.  Some extra activities is good to them.  Swimming is good for health and 1 music instrusment is enjoyable.  If he don't like swimming and piano, you may talk to him and change it to other activities or similar nature.

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發表於 04-9-28 10:41 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

Thanks a lot
Right, on our side we should insist (做事要有恆心)the child to learn some activities but we can't give them to too much pressure, and too demanding(在現在的過度期不應要求太高,要時間去適應新環境同時間表); otherwise, our relationship will become worse.
尋日好開心, he finished his homework, he  wait me bring him to  go to practice the piano , and today is his school holiday, he go to swimming with grandpa. So I think if he gets enough practice, he likes these two activities too.
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發表於 04-9-28 10:51 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

YW,
Yes, if they get achievement, they will feel satisfied and continue with your push.  First, is your/teacher's verbal praise, then is some small reward (gift), then is the award from external.
My push my daughter to play piano when she's in K2, she got satisfaction after the performance show, then she got really satisfaction when when win the 3rd in the annual school music festival.  Last year she got a 3rd and a winner.  When she's lazy, I'll remind her of her satisfaction.

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發表於 04-9-28 12:20 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

YW,

take it easy la!Don't push to hard on him! Give him a break! If you keep giving all these pressure on him, he will dislike all these activities sooner or later, and hence, stop trying to fulfill what he was asked to achieve.

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發表於 04-9-28 17:18 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

yw,

我大仔是在升小一時開始學公文數的,他也很多時都交不足功課,幸好有位好老師,每次要他在那裡完成所有家課才讓他上堂。而上完公文數的課外活動是他最愛的圍棋,如果早少少去可以玩一會才上堂,但很多時因他平日沒做妥公文家課要留堂,積了很多功課令他唔願做又做得慢,往往他去到便立即要上堂,上完課後我又不讓他久留,他就埋怨問點解無時間玩、咁快走?然後我跟他講要怪就怪你自己欠功課要留堂,才弄到這麼遲!下次唔好欠功課早d上完堂早d來。於是這星期他交足功課、堂課做得快而準,結果如他所願很早去到玩,玩得很開心很滿足,臨走他還說下次我要好像今天這麼早。久而久之他習慣了每天完成公文功課,就算唔返圍棋一樣會交足功課。見他公文數的進度很好,就替他報學公文中和英,但學了半年他仍然很懶和抗拒做公文中英功課,而我覺得跟足公文功課要求和預計去做也很難達到目的和標準,如要有效果非每天用上個多小時不可,所以決定放棄公文中英。

由強迫至到令仔仔真正自動自覺去做公文數功課,我差不多花了大半年時間。小朋友學習的路途很長,太過強迫或急進會令他失去學習興趣。慢慢來,你不要太擔心,剛剛轉了新環境應給小朋友一段適應期,不要太早放棄!

我們大家一同加油和努力!

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發表於 04-10-2 14:35 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

真係話時話我女練琴就幾好,但係就好唔鍾意做公文數,叫佢做公文數,佢就去練琴,到冇藉口時真係要做,又做錯好多......

仲有,我女又話唔鍾意去童軍,緃然佢知道童軍有好多活動、好好玩,但係童軍好注重守時,就算佢都冇試過遲到,但係一感到有壓力,就唔鍾意......。

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發表於 04-10-4 23:06 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

我女一樣,除左琴就什麼都say NO!功課唔算多,但是.......總之就論論盡盡,執書包都半個鍾。

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發表於 04-10-5 17:26 |只看該作者

Re: 開學了,不願意上課外活動

Would it be the case that the kids actually do not have the aptitude for playing piano if they are reluctant to learn ?

It may be only the parents' one-side thinking that the kids have to learn to play piano !

But do the kids themselves really like to play piano or do they have the right aptitude for that ?

We have all gone through their ages !

What would we have reacted if we had been forced by our parents to learn something we didn't like or didn't have the required talent for that ?

  
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