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他傻定我傻

Dear All,

Tks very much for your kindly advising. But I'm still
worrying about my son's social ability. In general speaking, he's a quite simply boy, sometimes he seems too bullheaded at this stage. He lives in his Utopia world, he loves peace, he always expects a lot of friends to share with him, and he seems quite lonely at his class because he's not good at P.E., so his classmates aren’t willing to play with him because they're not the same level. On the other hand, he doesn't play PC games very much because I didn't buy for him. I'm a little regret with him for this but I don't think it's a MUST toy to make friends. I don't stand by it. When I found he was down I was quite sad. Was it my fault? I'm confused too.  He can't share with his classmates, I suggest him trying to join his classmates in sporting, and he told me that it's impossible. In his mind, he wants to have friends sharing with him in solving homework problems, listening music, chatting &  reading together not just talking about soap TV programmers. He said he can't find such classmates at his class..
Yesterday I said that my son's academics results were fairly good, but this year I felt something was getting wrong with him.  His academic performances especially the language subjects such as Chinese and English were less well than before. He had never failed in all his tests or examations in the past years, but this evening he told me his Chinese Language joint test was got 19 marks of 50 marks, I said nothing but I think he must be lost his way. If he lost interested in studying, sporting, caring of society, his life may be monotonous.

May be teenagers can help teenages, could you tell me  where can I find such the organization? Tks.!

Midagemum

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Re: 他傻定我傻

In his mind, he wants to have friends sharing with him in solving homework problems, listening music, chatting & reading together not just talking about soap TV programmers. He said he can't find such classmates at his class..


Midagemum,

很少見到咁清純嘅小朋友 (美中不足,是有點點太正經)。

中一、中二之學生,總有大大小小之問題,做為家長,可做的事不多,盡量多聆聽他的心事,聆聽時盡量少加自己把嘴,少提意見,他說甚麽,你依依哦哦即可,他會自己解决問題的。

中一、中二之學生,很在意外間的評價和目光,有的勤力讀書,有的拚命做運動,有的破壞紀律,挑戰權威,很多時都是為博取注意而已。他們也會聯群結黨,也會排斥他人,為的是找安全感。

所以你的孩子更加勤力練習樂器,除了本身喜愛音樂外,也是尋找自我,希望得到認同之行為。所以,我認為應多加鼓勵。玩音樂玩得出色的,通常較聰明,只要他肯讀書,自自然然可追上。

不用太担心吧,你少担心,他自然較寬心,壓力也少了。


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其實你兒子有很多優點,你要去肯定它們,而不是見到呀B仔打籃球叻就要自己小朋友打籃球。

你小朋友所遇到的問題其實不罕見,初中生在參求自我,有些沒有主見的便除波逐流,人地鍾意打機便打機,踢波便踢波。你的小朋友有自己的興趣,他當然會想找一些志同道合的朋友。我相信咁大間學校,無理由無幾個鍾意音樂同讀書的,如果你擔心他的交際,就更不應該唔准他玩音樂,他可以透過音樂認識朋友,而我見過喜歡音樂的小朋友都一定係乖,大部份讀書都OK。

正如JUDY所講,你可做的不多,鼓勵多些,保持溝通,不要硬推銷你的一套,因為唔會有用。到了中四分科,好的學生很多時都會聚在一兩班,你的小朋友就更容易找到岩傾的朋友仔。

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發表於 05-10-25 12:00 |只看該作者

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BillyM,

    多謝您的意見,不過他話夾Band組內同他同班的男仔沒有,要麼就是F3以上的,所以好難分享到班中發生的事,老師叫他放學幫手睇住Junior Band的訓練,而班入邊的人一放學或者大息就內踢球、打藍球,羽毛球等。他好難Joint 到,他地班女多男少,再加上有幾個是小六同班昇上來的,例如: 慈幼Team、北循Team等,各有各陣容。我聽到都好內疚,因為他細個果陣患病,當時醫生話直到18歲都不要有太大的運動量,所以我也沒有培養他的運動習慣,而家覺得他好孤獨,有點曲高和寡,所以建議他多讀課外書,增加話題,把部分音樂時間逐步移師到其他Group,希望可幫到他。我可能太擔心了,反給他壓力。


Midagemum

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發表於 05-10-25 12:04 |只看該作者

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Oldcake,

    謝謝您的提議,因為他周未及星期日都要上音樂及其他課程,所以很難,他不願意換老師,老師只能安排這2天給他。


Midagemum

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發表於 05-10-25 12:13 |只看該作者

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Judy,

    非常謝謝您。我覺得加入這個會,得到您們誠意的支援,是我始料不及的,Tks a lot!


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