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Re: DGJS result is out !
coolobserver 寫道:
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juke5301 寫道:
ummm this is really true tho.
the mothers themselves have enough competition, it is just an elitist thinking amongst the so called high class parents.
SO stuck up and snobbish
actually i think the top students in the school are playing an equally damaging role in group dynamics, to me those 超班女 try to segregate themselves so that they appear to be unique
This may be a slightly snobbish explanation, but I think a lot of the competitiveness actually comes from "chip on one's shoulders".
If parents come from extra-rich families (or have "background") they do not need to prove anything (and they do not need to be competitive academically).
If parents are themselves very well educated and cultivated, they will no doubt have high expectation of their kids and privately drive them quite hard, but because they have relatively good background (and have "class" - I do not mean "class" in the sense f high social class or social status, but "class" in the sense of acting with dignity and proper manners) they will not de-generate to the level of wanting to compete with other parents aggressively.
If parents are ordinary decent people with reasonable expectation of their kids, then they will just let their kids develop naturally without pushing them too hard. And since both parents may have to work they may ave no time to gossip or compete with the others.
The most intolerable are the "wannabe" type. I may sound very snobbish in saying this, but there are parents who think they have "a point to prove": they may now be professionals (or in middle/senior management posts) but they have this feeling that they have not been to the best or most elite school themselves (there are professionals and there are professionals). There is nothing wrong in this, because we all want our kids to do better than ourselves. However, the difference between wannabe parents (as in the case of all kinds of wannabes) and ordinary decent parents (with expectation of their kids) is that wannabe parents try to hard to prove themselves and to beat others. Also, they may feel that, now they are "professionals", they wish the whole world to heap praises on them by saying "O, your kid goes to this and that school and he or she comes first, how clever!"
Sorry to talk for so long. Have I offended anyone?[/quote]
The above analysis of parents is quite interesting. I guess that the most unbearable thing of the last type of wannabe parents is their showing off of how good they are or their kids are, telling people that they are the "best" and expect for others' praising. I know a colleague graduated from DGS, she has very good English, but she also possesses the typical characteristics of always wanting to beat down others and showing off that she is the best of all kind. I always think that the world is so big and there are always so many more things to learn and so many smart and intelligent people out there, does it appear very silly for someone to behave like that?  : : |
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發表於 04-12-23 23:54
