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發表於 07-11-15 17:31 |只看該作者 |倒序瀏覽 |打印

If your F1 son have following situation,what can i do?

1)Always sms, even dinner with my friends and relatives,
sometimes at saturday night until midnite, his excuse is no school tomorrow and all sms is free of charges.(about 30a day)

2)Always online games, he compliant that compare with his friends, he is not more time on this, everyday only about 1 hr.

3) everydays he goes to seven11 or macdonal after school, he said he is very hungry.but sometime he stay here over half hour.

4) cannot complete the homework without i remind him, he said "i must finish my homework by myself, i hate you remind me again and again.

5) not go to sleep early, still need watch TVpearl930, but next day he need wake up at six.

6) always want go out with his friend chating in park from 10-11 at night, because after activtives.

7) he always satisfy his test result , everytime just pass -over 50, he said that compare with his classmate, he is better, many are fail. For me , he never study, he can do it better.

He always compliant that "why my classmates and friend can do everything they like , but i cant, everything i need ask you first!"

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	190

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發表於 07-11-16 21:14 |只看該作者

突然變得這樣?

原文章由 ernniechow 於 07-11-15 17:31 硐表
If your F1 son have following situation,what can i do?

1)Always sms, even dinner with my friends and relatives,
sometimes at saturday night until midnite, his excuse is no school tomorrow and all sms ...

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	8980

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發表於 07-11-17 02:25 |只看該作者

然則....

最好，六點起床，精神奕奕返學，留心聽書，放學自動自覺做好功課，然後溫書，溫完書早些睡覺。

星期六、日，一部份時間溫書，準備默書、測驗、考試...etc，另外的時間跟爸爸、媽媽去街。

不看電視，不打機，不拍拖，喜愛閱讀，書不離手。

品性純良，溫文有禮，全級考前十。

Perfect!

.......

PS he always "Satisfy his test result , everytime just pass -over 50" ........

Oh!........

[ 本文章最後由 Ben2003 於 07-11-17 02:34 編輯 ]

尋找「閃光點」，努力不懈，堅毅不屈，機會總是留給有準備的人。
但是，有準備不一定能找緊機會，因為....
命運就是這樣的敲門。
要找緊機會，就要戰勝自己和戰勝命運。
遇到逆境，堅持，不要放棄。
黑暗是可怕的，極難耐的.....
但是，渡過了黑暗，不就是黎明了嗎 ?!

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	537

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發表於 07-11-17 12:36 |只看該作者

If your F1 son have following situation,what can i do?

1)Always sms, even dinner with my friends and relatives, - 如果我地大人傾計, 我由佢. 因為sms唔會發出聲音. 但一開始食飯一定要佢停.

sometimes at saturday night until midnite, his excuse is no school tomorrow and all sms is free of charges.(about 30a day) - 我由佢. 反正又真係明天不用上學. 我個囡逢假期前玩電腦可玩到12:00pm, 閒日就10:00pm (星期五佢會睇埋妙手仁心tim先訓).

2)Always online games, he compliant that compare with his friends, he is not more time on this, everyday only about 1 hr.
同佢協議做完功課可以玩2個鐘咪tim. 咁樣得5得?

3) everydays he goes to seven11 or macdonal after school, he said he is very hungry.but sometime he stay here over half hour.
半個鐘都話唔得, 你好以嚴左d喎, 佢都有自己ge生活圈子, 佢可能覺得你太煩所以唔想返屋企. 我個囡3:xx放學(有時學校有活動), 多數5:00返我都可以接受.

4) cannot complete the homework without i remind him, he said "i must finish my homework by myself, i hate you remind me again and again.
我唔會再提佢, 等佢撞一次板.

5) not go to sleep early, still need watch TVpearl930, but next day he need wake up at six.
做完都係10:30至11:30到, 小朋友體力係好過大人好多, 你想佢幾點訓?

6) always want go out with his friend chating in park from 10-11 at night, because after activtives.
- 你ge意思係咪話學校有活動後先去公園傾計到11:00pm? 定係平時都係甘? 如果係就比較麻煩d. 要提醒佢夜晚公園好複雜.....

7) he always satisfy his test result , everytime just pass -over 50, he said that compare with his classmate, he is better, many are fail. For me , he never study, he can do it better.
初入中一班主任講過分數係唔同小學咁可以拿到80-90分的. 其實我地真係做唔到mug野, 我只係提醒個女如果你打唔好基礎, 越升一班/級就會越辛苦.

He always compliant that "why my classmates and friend can do everything they like , but i cant, everything i need ask you first!"
我曾經同個囡講你咁做mami會放心d, 我舉例比佢聽: 假如我知道你係去海洋公園玩, 但廸士尼發生事, 我就會無咁担心, 因為我知你去左海洋公園ma, 但相反,
你是去左廸士尼, 我就會即刻打比你ma 了解下law.

唔好意思, 睇你小朋友ge問題都唔係好大, 或者6年級前又順從你, 所以而家咁變你會唔慣. 其實佢真係大個仔ga la, 你放鬆小小la.
其實我想問你佢玩sms係房應該無聲, 你都知?

明天會更好!

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	1103

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發表於 07-11-17 12:51 |只看該作者

sms

Thanks so much for your reply.

He will put the phone on the table when dinner, on his hand when watching tv, when i driving car .....normally i need he put the phone in sittng room before he go to bed, but sometime i forget it, he must play until midnite on saturday.
Every Saturday he goes outdooractivtives, after that he must ask for come back late, he want chating with his friend in park. He say very enjoyable and happy. He only elevem ,Should i let him everytime?

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	241

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發表於 07-11-17 16:44 |只看該作者

回覆 #1 ernniechow 的文章

From my point, I think that you should know whom is his best friend and talk to him for understanding his life. My son is also Form 1 now and show out to me that he is bigger bigger boy now and so less talk with me. But I try to talk with his school life as friend and give him some personal time but with condition that he must told me where/what to do. And now, our relationship become better but he often compliant to me that I was troublesome.
For your side, I think that it's so serious for chatting at park in midnight as it's danger for teen there.

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	537

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發表於 07-11-19 11:02 |只看該作者

原文章由 ernniechow 於 07-11-17 12:51 硐表
Thanks so much for your reply.

He will put the phone on the table when dinner, on his hand when watching tv, when i driving car .....normally i need he put the phone in sittng room before he go to be ...

我絕對唔係叫你唔好理佢,但你再用lee一套方法, 相方都無好處, 而且影響大家關係. 到頭來'舌'底係你.

有d野唔可以做你一定要嚴厲, eg. 食飯玩sms, 我會同佢講即刻拎開個電話, 食完飯再玩 , 我一早同d囡約定食飯一定要埋枱, 唔好好似當我工人, 放完工煮埋飯仲要我三催四請先黎食飯.

但你首先要反思之前所講佢所謂ge錯處, 你係味過份嚴左? 可唔可以大家有d協議.

你ge小朋友轉變都係剛開始, 陸續有來. 我都經歷過細囡轉變, 佢讀f1時, 開學無耐就已經約同學去街,(小六已經有不過在暑假), 我果時好失落, 星期日好似無左個囡咁, 但諗深一層lee個係必經階段, 過左一排佢又回復正常了, 可能比佢試過ma.

我都有將你個囝個case講比d囡聽, 佢地回應係 '你唔係控制員, 你係亞媽呀'

我講野比較直, 有mug唔arm聽多多包函

明天會更好!

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	1850

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發表於 07-11-21 16:51 |只看該作者

回覆 #1 janeleung 的文章

我仔最大轉變係由朝訓到黑, 成日好似好累咁, 佢主動左同自覺左, 完全吾駛我理, 仲會自動溫書, 但就真係send多左SMS, 到目前為止我幾滿意他的表現.

可憐天下父母心 :cry:

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	395

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發表於 07-11-24 21:43 |只看該作者

比D心機教la.....e家D靚仔係咁上下水平

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	395

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發表於 07-11-24 22:02 |只看該作者

我吾明白, why 11歲小朋友可在公園留到晚上 11 點?

是否小學時已可隋便出街.

作為家長的又怎可容許.
小朋友在星一至星六放學後, 除了課外活動, (我指學校裹的正常運動.) 就應立刻回家温習和做功課. :cry:

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	395

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發表於 07-11-24 22:16 |只看該作者

板主, 趁個仔仲細, 還有得教, 真係要落多些時間和心機, 否則過多 2 年後仲難搞.

慶幸我的小兒也是 11 歲, 但完全無你所講的問題, 因我和 c6 也不會容許這些事情發生.

不是我們專制, 就算我現在幾十歲人, 如無特別理由, 我的親人也不會接受我晚上留在街上到 11 点吧.

[ 本文章最後由 chuiiris 於 07-11-24 22:17 編輯 ]

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發表於 07-11-25 16:28 |只看該作者

I encounter the same problems. My daughter is now F1, she is totally different with P6. She likes at stay at 7-11 around half or an hour after school. I am worry about her changes as she always stay at home during P6, but she always likes to go out when F1. I have called her teacher, she said I should let her build her own secondary live, just need to monitor as long as she back home before 5:30. I should not question her too much.

;P:hug:;P

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	676

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發表於 07-11-26 16:46 |只看該作者

初中很重要！
鬆緊，制約要家長和子女共同協定。協定後，一定要確實執行。
放鬆左後，很難管。所以，要逐少放鬆。若不能守協定的話，即代表仍未有自制能力，就要加點管促在家長一方。
通常，少年人較喜歡自由，所以他們必按以上協議自我管制。

當然，協定的內容/執行情況，就要視乎雙方關係。

e.g.我個仔升上中一後，發現有些同學從不溫習，都可以過關。他跟我講，因為他想我不理他，讓他也想試試。
我向他解釋，每個家庭都不同。其他同學現在可以過關，無人知他們將來追唔追得上。既然加少許力，就可以得好成績，打好基礎。
點解唔趁機考高d成績呢？

總之，管得就要繼續管，唔好咁易放棄！

要讓孩子明白&體驗，父母的管教是因為愛！
多講肉麻既說話！

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發表於 07-11-26 17:08 |只看該作者

原文章由 chanms 於 07-11-26 16:46 硐表
初中很重要！
鬆緊，制約要家長和子女共同協定。協定後，一定要確實執行。
放鬆左後，很難管。所以，要逐少放鬆。若不能守協定的話，即代表仍未有自制能力，就要加點管促在家長一方。
通常，少年人較喜歡自由，所以他們必按以上協議自 ...

傾個時個子女都應承左 , 亦都講左好多語重心長的說話 , 但一到衝突點時 , 個子女非常硬頸 , 絕不聽從勸告 , 一意孤行 , 若強制執行,關係一定又差 , 我覺得無論用什麼方法 , 最緊要子女肯受教才有用.

寶貝豬的媽咪

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	312

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發表於 07-11-26 17:44 |只看該作者

我仔仔都是F1, 但我一直以黎都比適量自由佢, 例如﹕佢放咗學想去7-11食吓野, 我都會比佢去, 只要佢有分寸會通知我一聲. 星期五同六我基本上唔限制佢幾時瞓, 底線係我瞓佢就要瞓(嘻..我都好夜瞓). 至於玩online games, 做好晒要做的事咪可以玩囉, 未做晒就一定唔得. 但我仔仔就無sms呢個問題, 亦都無夜mama走落街. 佢鍾意係屋企多過係街, 可能佢覺得無壓力又或者係屋企都可以同朋友傾電話打機...咁咪唔使走出街囉.

我覺得小朋友都有自己的喜好, 而且當佢地開始覺得自己大過喇, 佢地就唔想咩都由父母話事, 做咩都無自由. 所以我會比小朋友適量嘅自由, 但我都有自己底線, 相方協調咁會好d.

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	2080

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發表於 07-11-26 21:49 |只看該作者

我囝囝今年中一, 暫時未見反叛, 他仍經常與同我分享學校生活包括喜與哀, 我亦樂意傾聽及認識他的新同學. 囝囝小五開始自己放學, 我知他放學後會第一時間回家做功課, 玩下電腦, 升中後亦如是, 而且他也不喜歡到同學屋企玩或跟同學週街盪, 除非做project, 所以我好放心, 因為不會 check 他幾時回到家/做緊什麼等等. 其實父母最了解自己子女性格, 大家互'信', 講多些鼓勵說話, 考試考得唔好, 下次再努力, 盡量少'鬧'(火遮眼除外), 大家關係會
keep 得好點.

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發表於 07-11-28 01:09 |只看該作者

其實呢個係必經過情大家諗吓當你地自己呢個年歲時諗緊咩

加上現在社會已經變左好多做媽咪都要跟住行

只要多Ｄ同子女溝通會知多Ｄ內心世界同佢地想法，父母同仔女永遠都會有大家立場有邊個父母唔想子女好又叻又乖又聰明

我教我女女都係傾計為主好多時都會出現大家話應成左唔做的事係一定有鬧唔係最好方法如果真係好嬲最好先冷靜左先再處理件事只要記住要建立良好關係要一定時間但當你努力建立後就為一時發癲就無左值得嗎

做媽咪係好辛苦同好漫長大家都要努力佢地長大後會有一定程度上明白你的苦心

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發表於 07-11-28 08:39 |只看該作者

Do not allow a F1 boy chat with friend in the park at night.

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