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Thanks for the “mental bullying” explanation. I now realise why I got all the blues this morning – it was not because Arthur Clarke left this world yesterday, but because I was first mentally bullied by that unsightly fat man who drove his shinny Maserati in front of me and subsequently by the news that someone just bought a condo in Tai Hang for $35,000/ft2, and yet further by the fact that the guy next door knows what ventriloquism means but I do not.
There may well be students from really rich families who occasionally talk about big houses, skiing in the Alps, private singing coach, etc. The faint-hearted and the narrow-minded may tend to think that they are showing off their wealth. Not necessarily, I can honestly tell you. A boy from a poor family who has never been to Ocean Park may find it offensive that another boy tells him how fun Ocean Park is. Is the Ocean Park going boy boasting about his parents’ wealth? Maybe, and maybe not. He may truly consider Ocean Park fun and he just wants to share his joy with his friend. Jumping on the boy and accusing him of being bossy or boasting is foolish. Quite a few people tend to believe that schools with super rich families (e.g. HKIS, CIS and ISF to name a few) have this “showing off” culture. My own experience is very different from this general belief. If you walk into any of the above-mentioned schools and boast around, Ha, you will be frowned upon. Anyhow, it is up to the person to decide how to handle “mental bullying” – he can choose to grow out of it and be a better and more beautiful person; or he can choose to look only at the negative side and continue to play the victim’s role. Kids are easy; parents sometimes are not. At ISF kids from different walks of life learn and play together. If you are worried that there are too many kids who are from the rich and famous families, I can offer you one comforting fact and one simple solution: The fact first – most of the ISF kids are from the working middle class. The chance of you bumping into a kid living in South Horizon is higher than you bumping into a kid who lives in a big house up the Peak. And here is the solution – stop worrying and stop comparing the size of your apartment with that of others. Whatever you are worrying about you will pass it to your kid.
As for bullying (whatever it means, so called physical or mental), I accept that there are always some kids who are more challenging than others. But, I cannot imagine how boring and uninspiring a school is if there are not a few kids who constantly pose themselves as challenges to the teachers, other kids and their own parents. Tell me if you know of any schools that do not have challenging students. I will avoid them like plague. By the way, I am not saying that discipline is unimportant. I do care about discipline and always think that respect and responsibility are the two things that all students and their parents must learn. I have been at ISF for quite some time and I can see nothing seriously wrong with students’ discipline. My greater concern is the over-concerned parents who are more keen on over-parenting than parenting - they remind me of Bree in Desperate Housewives. Horrible species indeed. |
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發表於 08-3-10 13:58
So glad to learn that the school aims at being a school for all suitable, regardless of family background. Do you think they have achieved that goal already? Will those from poorer families be accepted by the other students all the same? 
so many doubts when it comes to finding a school for one's kid.
