個女唔肯自己一個上堂, 有冇辦法?

pakyu0429

我阿囡由9個月開始就帶佢返playgroup, 可能因為有我在場所以一直返playgroup都唔會怕羞, 仲好開心。

但佢而家3歲, 有好多興趣班係唔俾家長倍(頭一兩堂都可以), 佢就話唔想返! 什至乎佢好有興趣嘅堂, 都因為我唔可以倍佢上, 佢就話唔想上!

有冇方法可以令佢唔驚呀? 佢係咪仲細所以會係咁呢?    

pakyu0429

上年佢兩歲半果陣, 佢可以自己一個返暑期班, 但唔知點解大左反而會驚!!!    

meikeimami

我覺得你要忍心d,由得佢,過幾堂就冇問題啦,
不過你千祈唔好俾佢係上堂時間見到你呀,
係呢,你小朋友返學未呀?

wc861

小朋友決乏信心及安全感所致, 可以先選一這同其他小朋友一起學的興趣班及女老師. 平時多d 比佢決定事物, 如:賣衫比機會佢選自已喜歡的. 比佢有決定權, 另.. 她做的事物比較好可以讚下佢, 亦調轉頭要佢教番你, 咁樣可以比到佢多d信心. 同埋佢上完興趣班之後你話你又好想學叫佢教番你, 或者可以增加佢的興趣.

pakyu0429

yanyanbee 寫道:
給些獎勵和鼓勵她要持續學。
你要說一些說話讓她知道你一定會回來接她，小朋友不肯自己上課外活動，很多時都是缺乏安全感所致。

我有ka, 佢放學我會贊佢叻叻, 佢會好開心ka!
但每次出門口前, 佢又會話唔返!  

pakyu0429

meikeimami 寫道:
我覺得你要忍心d,由得佢,過幾堂就冇問題啦,
不過你千祈唔好俾佢係上堂時間見到你呀,
係呢,你小朋友返學未呀?

就係唔知係咪我"忍心", 佢至會冇左安全感!  

佢足兩歲就返pre-nur, 一直都冇咩問題!

pakyu0429

wc861 寫道:
小朋友決乏信心及安全感所致, 可以先選一這同其他小朋友一起學的興趣班及女老師. 平時多d 比佢決定事物, 如:賣衫比機會佢選自已喜歡的. 比佢有決定權, 另.. 她做的事物比較好可以讚下佢, 亦調轉頭要佢教番你, 咁樣可以比到佢多d信心. 同埋佢上完興趣班之後你話你又好想學叫佢教番你, 或者可以增加佢的興趣.

好多謝你嘅意見!

平時多d 比佢決定事物, 如:賣衫比機會佢選自已喜歡的. 比佢有決定權 --> 我有做, 不過唔多, 試試做多d, 希望會好d!

她做的事物比較好可以讚下佢, 亦調轉頭要佢教番你, 咁樣可以比到佢多d信心. ---> 呢樣成每次上完堂我都有做

MommyCynCyn

pakyu0429 寫道:
我阿囡由9個月開始就帶佢返playgroup, 可能因為有我在場所以一直返playgroup都唔會怕羞, 仲好開心。

但佢而家3歲, 有好多興趣班係唔俾家長倍(頭一兩堂都可以), 佢就話唔想返! 什至乎佢好有興趣嘅堂, 都因為我唔可以倍佢上, 佢就話唔想上!

有冇方法可以令佢唔驚呀? 佢係咪仲細所以會係咁呢?    

Hi Pakyu

My son (now 3.5yrs-old) is also like your daughter.  He joins in 2 different interest group, one is 'english' and another is 'dancing' classes.  But I must be in all lessons, if not, he cries out for help and leave the room (of course, he had a long cry during the lesson).  I have tried whatever is best - but at the end, he dislikes the 'interest class' or any other lesson.... the worst is that he also doesn't want to go to school afterwards!  So I don't know what I can do??     so from now on, I am still in all the lessons!!  

Any advice.

Cheers
MommyCynCyn

raynthia

小小分享:
我亞囡都係咁. 不過, 我相信佢有興趣上, 不過唔想”分離”. 每次臨出門口時, 都話 “唔想返”, 所以,嘗試吓當聽唔到.如常談天說地, 盡量將氣氛開心d. 到課室門口, 如常叫佢放低手冊, 換鞋 (如有), 淡化分離, 好開心講 “bye bye,遲d 見”, 轉頭即走. 當然, 要同學校老師解釋及合作, 老師自有佢處理方法. 我亞囡初時坐埋一邊, 慢慢佢會玩埋一齊. 放學時, 買d佢喜歡食, 同其他同學分享. 有時, 可能要老師幫手贊佢. 當有一定模式, 佢會習慣, 自然會ok啦.
忌講負面說話 及要堅持.
我仍在努力中, 因亞囡十次都有一次扭計. 所以每次佢返PLAYGROUP, 我都有壓力, 因唔知今次會否順利. 不過, 如果我唔堅持, 誰可以支持自己個囡成長呢?

pakyu0429

raynthia,

   都係一個好方法bor!!

其實我阿囡入左課室之後, 教師分散左佢注意力, 我就可以靜靜雞離開班房, 而之後就算俾阿囡發現佢都唔會喊~! 我相信你講得arm, 佢地係唔想"分離"~!


mommycyncyn,

平時你囝囝去公園玩, 可唔可以自己去玩唔駛痴你ka?

axa

pakyu0429
你囡囡幾多歲呀? 我囡囡3.5歲都係咁 試過有次揍佢返學校,一入到班房就哭,平時坐校車返都唔會哭,老師佢好嗲我,我都唔知點幫佢搵暑期班     

raynthia

我都惱緊暑期班, 因為會係我99 帶佢去. 不過, 我已打算同佢及99 事前行幾轉centre, 第一, 二次會若無期事, 第三, 四次會講佢知會到呢個centre 學野 (最好揀有小朋友上堂或放學時間), 會點好玩. 等佢有心理準備. 然後再睇佢反應才諗next step 點做.

axa 寫道:
pakyu0429
你囡囡幾多歲呀? 我囡囡3.5歲都係咁 試過有次揍佢返學校,一入到班房就哭,平時坐校車返都唔會哭,老師佢好嗲我,我都唔知點幫佢搵暑期班     

cherubic

My son was the same situation when he was 3.  I tried solve this problem step by step.  

For example, the piano lesson (group).  In the initial stage, I came with him.  After the first stage, I let him attend the lesson alone.  Since it was the same teacher with whom he had built a relationship.  He did cry in the first lesson but OK afterwards.

Another example is the painting class.  I chose those class held at his school.  Given the familar environment, he had no probelm even in the first lesson.

Now, I can bring him to any class with different teacher and environment, but I need to assure him that I will come back after the lesson.

laiki

我個仔佢返緊k1,一d都冇喊過,仲好鍾意返學,就算病佢都要返,不過我問佢學校有暑期班,你返唔返?佢話係咪同你一齊返,我話唔係,係自己同小朋友一齊返,媽媽唔返,咁佢就話唔返,佢由2歲開始去過4個唔同既親子playgroup,佢想我同佢一齊上堂,有時佢話我聽佢返學個陣好掛住媽媽,所以我想同佢返親子班,但係一到3歲就冇乜親子班上

MommyCynCyn

pakyu0429 寫道:
mommycyncyn,

平時你囝囝去公園玩, 可唔可以自己去玩唔駛痴你ka?

Hi Pakyu

Well... he looks like a 'big boy' when he's at the playground... contrary, I worry about him - he is getting hurt (coz some big boys are quite naughty at the playground! All the time is "RUNNING!")

Cheers
MommyCynCYn