女兒朗誦比賽拒絕上台, 如何增強她的自信心!

chanwyf

花了兩個幾月時間和不少心機, 老師對她期望甚高.  我知道她性格內向, 所以沒期望她得到任何獎項, 只希望她有膽量踏上台, 可惜她最後仍未能衝破心理障礙!

她有點失落, 亦感覺到我的失落! :cry: 我沒有怪她, 本週還有一次比賽, 我怎樣做呢?

Gordon_No_4

Dear chanwyf,

How old is your girl? I saw a small girl attending the Putonghua speech for P1-P2 yesterday. She was the first one to present. She sobbed while she was presenting. At the end, she dropped her tears. I wonder she may be too young.

So, your girl is not the only one. She will get better year after year. No worries.

芬姐

事前帶囡囡去個場度行下，得唔得架？小朋友要有好多安全感先會夠膽上台架 ...

我個仔一 d 都唔內向，但係初初同佢返 playgroup，side 足我成個月錢﹝4 堂﹞先開始肯入班房咋 ... 老師話佢安全感唔夠，我唯有每次上堂前半個鐘就到，比佢玩下玩具先，同老師傾下計，比佢望下個班房 ... 同埋有時星期六會落 playgroup 度淨係玩，比佢習慣下。我個仔 d 性格好奇怪，佢玩呢就好開心，又唔肯走，但係叫佢上堂就入班房就好驚，一定要我陪佢一齊上 ... 又唔係太合群。依家都讀左咁耐就冇事咯！

chanwyf

我個女5歲. 唉! 佢一向都比好多小朋友怕羞嘅, 我經常搵機會俾佢同陌生人講嘢, 佢已經比以前好咗D架嘞!

至於比賽場地，有無去過都係一樣。佢練習嘅時候係同一課室，只要一有其他家長，佢就唔肯朗誦嘞！老師話佢係嗰班學生裏面係最好嘅一個呀! 所以話佢唔係能力問題, 絕粹係自信心問題! 我唔需要張證書, 因為佢有直升小學, 但係好想好想突破佢嘅心理障礙囉!  :cry:

cfanny

"她有點失落, 亦感覺到我的失落!"

You have to work with her -ve feeling.
As parent,we always have some expectation on our children. Sometimes it become their pressure. It's really not easy to give out a speech in front of so many ppl on the stage. Don't force her too much,when she grow bigger,one day she will feel at ease on the stage. However, if she feels very sad and think she is failed this time. And she senses your sadness,she'll really hurted and lacks her confidence.

If I were you, I will give her comfort and tell her it's only a game. Don't let her sense your disappointment any more. Praise her for she have been doing good during the trainning....

chanwyf

多謝妳們的提點！我會調整自己心態，亦會用較輕鬆的態度面對她明天的比賽！

cfanny 寫道:
"她有點失落, 亦感覺到我的失落!"

You have to work with her -ve feeling.
As parent,we always have some expectation on our children. Sometimes it become their pressure. It's really not easy to give out a speech in front of so many ppl on the stage. Don't force her too much,when she grow bigger,one day she will feel at ease on the stage. However, if she feels very sad and think she is failed this time. And she senses your sadness,she'll really hurted and lacks her confidence.

If I were you, I will give her comfort and tell her it's only a game. Don't let her sense your disappointment any more. Praise her for she have been doing good during the trainning....

PpiMa

有沒有試過錄起佢在家練習情形? 然後播番出黎俾家人欣賞,在欣賞期間多加鼓勵,希望增加自信!

chanwyf

以前佢係屋企都唔肯唸，現在已經敢係佢爸爸、我、弟弟和菲傭面前唸嘞！佢最近都試過敢係10個、8個陌生人面前唸，但係要熱身。可能面對100幾人，對佢嚟講實在太大挑戰嘞！其實我覺得佢經過呢兩個幾月嘅訓練後，已經向前邁進了一步，所以我對明天她是否肯上台都會抱著輕鬆的態度。

諗深一層，今次事件給了我女兒一個大挑戰，亦給了我一個反思的機會。我覺得大家都有得著。

himmamme

I attended the speech festival once. To some of the children, it's really stressful experiences,while some enjoyed performing in front of the audious.
Personality is a major factor. I think some children shouldn't been there. Hope your daughter will enjoy the performance.

PpiMa

chanwyf 寫道:

諗深一層，今次事件給了我女兒一個大挑戰，亦給了我一個反思的機會。我覺得大家都有得著。

放鬆d啦,或者當佢見到個個都係咁樣,佢會不足為奇又淡定完成朗誦呢.......anyway,無論佢能否完成,你都以+ve way對待.......good luck

himmamme

Hi! How was she perform? Did your family enjoy?
It's really a good experience. Hope you all enjoy.

chanwyf

佢最後都無上台!

唔緊要啦, 我今次心情好輕鬆, 因為我已經睇開咗, 有D嘢係急唔嚟嘅! 比賽完結後我哋仲一齊開開心心食早餐, 大家都無唔開心.

himmamme

Your daughter is lucky to have such an understanding and loving parent!