What is your kid start to tell lies ?

csonliuson2000

Dear all,

My son starts to tell lies this year when he is only 9 studying in P4. Is this too earlier ?

I only expecting a kid start to tell lies in Form 1. Is this because kid becomes mature earlier nowadays ?

Can you teach me how to fix it ?

pony媽媽

請問他是講了怎麼樣的大話? 講大話我想不是分甚麼年齡，尤其是現今的孩子都很聰明，我自己也小學時期都已經識講大話。最緊要知道他說大話的動機和後果是否嚴重.....說起來昨天我也為兒子向我講了多日大話而起不開心，大家可以交流一下。

原帖由 csonliuson2000 於 10-1-8 10:22 發表
Dear all,

My son starts to tell lies this year when he is only 9 studying in P4. Is this too earlier ?

I only expecting a kid start to tell lies in Form 1. Is this because kid becomes mature earlier ...

csonliuson2000

Like he told us that he use the computer to get info for his homework but in fact he played games.

We just allowed him to play only 30 mins computer games on Sat and Sunday. He played overtimes but he did tell me he is not.
Or he would adjust the clock to show us that he did not play overtime...etc.

pony媽媽

電腦是否放在他自己的房間裏? 如是, 要找個藉口把它攞返出廳, 但又不能讓他知道你是為了監督他用電腦, 他會極之反感的... 你仔的情況可以話好正常, 愛玩game的人自律性都很低, 何況是小孩, 為掩飾自己的不是, 講大話就最方便。但你要讓他知道每次你都能揭穿他, 說我知你講了好多大話, 我只是有時扮唔知....小孩講大話, 動機大都是, 自知做錯或做得不好, 怕被大人罵, 以為掩飾住就冇人知, 其實都好天真.....那就要檢討一下大人的反應, 我們是否太緊張他做錯事, 緊張他的成績, 行為表現等...... 次次被你發現玩過鐘都大發雷廷, 但又唔想唔玩, 只有騙你, 不說小孩, 連大人都係咁, 連政府官員都係咁.....唉! take it easy啦

原帖由 csonliuson2000 於 10-1-8 11:02 發表
Like he told us that he use the computer to get info for his homework but in fact he played games.

We just allowed him to play only 30 mins computer games on Sat and Sunday. He played overtimes but h ...

pony媽媽

而我個仔, 話說昨天他同學致電來問功課, 之後我跟他的媽咪閒談,問他的兒子是否每天跟我仔玩捉棋?(集體遊戲-召集幾個人扮棋子, 由懂得捉象棋的人發號司令)
他說沒有。問阿仔他不敢出聲，才揭穿真相。

約聖誕假前一周，他每天放學回家都說很多人跟他玩這遊戲。由他發號司令, 說得很逼真, 還說幾個我認識的同學仔名字, 講得好興奮, 我從沒想過這全是他的虛構。他只有7歲, 小一時已講過大話, 但技巧笨拙, 很快被我揭穿。今次的大話其實無傷大雅, 他說只是想作d野玩下, 可是他天天在說, 已經把自己訓練成講大話不眨眼, 技巧進步神速, 這才是令我最感不安。  
又擔心他的過份想像力會不會是自閉症? 可是他從來都不喜歡獨自玩耍的, 由幼稚園到小學都有幾個很要好的朋友, 我也跟他所有好朋友的媽媽很熟絡。又好似不像。

我告訴他講大話不分性質好壞都是壞習慣，以為冇人知，但天父會找你同學問功課, 讓真相敗露, 他哭著叫我原諒他, 說以後不會。

我自己也檢討過, 因我仔在學校成績雖好, 但為人內向, 細膽, 怕事, 我很想他在學校像些開朗活潑的同學般, 做事主動, 受同學和老師的歡迎, 可能無形中對他的期望變成他的壓力...因為每次他跟我講在小息玩捉棋的遊戲, 如何叻 , 如何受歡迎時, 我都讚他, 他知我想聽這些, 便作這些給我聽.......我現在才知道小孩講大話, 背後是有很多心理因數的, 所以家長也不該只看到孩子眼中的刺, 而看不到自己眼中的樑...... 唯有take everything easy 啦~

[ 本帖最後由 pony媽媽 於 10-1-8 12:03 編輯 ]

csonliuson2000

I agree with you that your son tell you good lies as he wants to get your appreciation.

However mine is different. Even my son like yours can get a quite good result in school. Hoever he is quite slow to do everything. Of course except playing computer games. It takes him more than an hour to take meal. Some issue like bushing teeth, taking bath...etc everying he cannot complete in on time. As my son's school is quite far away from the house so he has to wake up early and arrive home late. Normally he sleep at 11:30 pm. Without a good sleep I guess, my son is quite short and thin. That is my concern.

happyvalley

聰心的小孩子先會講大話，而且代表左佢長大 la，家長亦代表要轉一轉自己教佢的唸法，唔可以當佢乜都唔適 la。

[ 本帖最後由 happyvalley 於 10-1-11 21:33 編輯 ]

yovin

引用:
何謂 white lie:
- 講謊話時的出發點是純為收聽者着想，而不會傷害任何人的利益及對講謊話者是一點額外好處也沒有 (註:即使那個謊話的出發點是為收聽者着想，但只要那謊話對講謊話者有額外的益處，例如避免受責、避免負上一些責任或得到讚賞等，那就不是 white lie)

贊同!

如果7 YEARS OLD也不會講大話，我也會小小擔心。不過如果大話連篇，我會更加擔心。

良民

My son 3 8months, he was draw on the table, I ask him " who did it?" he said Grandmother Q: is he tell lies?