好吾捨得

trustme

昨晚剛剛收加拿大Montreal學校通知收咗我個仔下年讀F.1，而香港我小朋友又可以入番自已中學請賜教！，所以就好煩，話就話有晒心理準備佢要出去讀，但一想到七月就要走又好始好吾捨得咁！我成日都同個仔講，早啲去就早啲適應，加上佢由一歲起就年年summer都過去，近兩年仲係嗰邊讀summer school添，所以佢都好有心理準備，佢仲話香港教育制度吾係咁好，係嗰邊讀書會開心啲！我又覺得嗰邊生活純樸啲，無咁大物質引誘，佢係嗰邊起碼無一日望住部電腦，最大興趣就係ride a bike週到去，or simply go for a walk with the dog，大自然好多！唉！真係越想越煩！ :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

virgokaren

trustme：

聽你咁講，你應該係有親人係果邊，可以照顧你囝囝。
佢由一歲起就年年summer都過去，近兩年仲係

WYmom

trustme,

Maybe you should go with your son together for sometime, to help him settle down, and adapt to the new environment.  It is quite a big change, don't think that relatives can help very well.  I also plan to send my kids overseas in secondary, but will definitely go with them to settle things well myself rather than relying on relatives.  Kids at such age can easily go the wrong track, so will be best to help them yourself.  

trustme

我都係有咁嘅打算，我己經攞咗個半月大假，陪佢settle down.如果我老闆俾我攞no pay leave，我就會繼續陪佢。其實我起初有想過quit咗份工陪佢，但同啲朋友傾完後就打消咗念頭，因為佢始終大喇，又係讀全日，叫佢出去讀無非都係想佢獨立啲，如果我長時間係度，仲可能拖慢咗佢適應，始終都係要放手喇！吾係自已只有悶親自已，同出面個世界又可能脫節，佢仲嫌我煩添！我希望可以做到一個supporting role，係佢需要我嘅時候就出現，總好過做黑白天鵝，日哦夜哦。所以我打算隔個月就去探佢一次！不過而家講就好，怕到時殺埋身時又無咁理智！但我老公己經好吾捨得，就來痴線嗰隻！     

WYmom

trustme,

I think I will be more unwilling than you to leave my kids in Canada to study on their own, I will stay for half year there instead of half month.  Understand your point which is very good, but I just won't be able to do it.  It is really too far away.  I have studied in Canada alone previously and I know the feeling of loneliness very well.

trustme

WYmom,

Thanks for your comment. What do you mean by studying in Canada alone? You stayed in the boarding school or you have relatives there? I know 1.5 month may not be enough and my husband keep asking me to quit the job and go staying with him, but I still have hesitation. I fully understand that it really takes time for him and me to make adjustment. The only concern I have is how to maintain our close relationship and that's my husband's concern too. Now he is having a very close relationship with us and we can talk and play together freely. Of course there may also be time we have conflicts especially when he becomes a teenager now. So I am afraid if I stay with him all the time, it may create more conflicts since my temper is not really not good, it definitely ruins our existing good relation. Besides, I feel comfortable with him to stay in  Montreal with my family there. It seems to be his second home already. While he stayed there last summer, and when I went to pick him up to come back to HKG, he showed me around to different places, ordering food for me when we have lunch in the resturant. He really behaves as a mature, independant young man. I feel proud of him. He even told me that he wants to stay there and asked me to find him a school. But I told him that both my husband and I want him to complete his primary school in HKG. Of course there may be gain and lose, that's why we are still trying very hard and hope we can bring all of us into a win win situation.    

WYmom

trustme,

It is good that your son likes to study so much in Montreal and you have relatives taking care of him well, then you can rest assured to leave him there.  For me, I had been studying alone in University on my own, leading a boarding life, so felt quite upset especially during the very cold winter (-30C), just like living in a friege.  It will be better for kids to study aboard earlier so that they will not feel so difficult to adapt to the new environment.  I believe you have made a good choice and hope your son enjoy studying there.

Msma

我女即頭去boarding無人無物添，但無計啦！　

trustme

Where is she going? Also for G7? You know my husband doesn't want my son to go now cos he said once he think of this he already missed him so much! So he keeps persuading my son to go later! Actually my son is ready to go and I am afraid he has hesistation if dad keeps pushing him like this! I am so mad!!! :cry:  :cry:  :cry:

WYmom

trustme,

If then, maybe let your son go overseas later la, I know a mom who brought her sons to Canada for a year to study, leaving their father working here in HK, and just during that year, the father could not bear the loneliness and had an affair with the mom's best friend!  Even though the mom came back immediately after a year with all her sons, they still go divorce afterwards, and the sons live with their mom thereafter and lose their father.  So sometimes men are not so strong as women and there may be family problem which you may not expect...

Just for your consideration.