語言障礙的小朋友

大肥媽咪

Hello,
請問有沒有人的小朋友是有語言障礙? 我的小兒is 8 years old，　但是說話還是不很清楚，　when he was 2 years old, I brought him to see a doctor, the result said that he had a speech problem and about 9 months behind his age. I was so worry. At that time, I did go to the government speech centre and had some treatment for him. But he seem very scared around the other children. 跟住發生了沙士事件，　所以停了，　Now he is in P.2, teacher說他沒事，　但the other students 說他是傻仔，　可是他還是很開心to go to school. 或許我是憂慮太多，　但很想和somebody傾訴一吓，　希望可以啦．Thanks!

MARSTEN

聽講6歲前train會大進步d,可能你仔仔是說不正那種是嗎?

路人(甲)

大肥媽咪,

睇到你尼編野, 令到我d眼淚不斷流出, 尤其係睇到"傻仔"
尼一段, 我個仔今年9月會入讀小一, 我都非常非常之擔心
佢會比d同學話佢係傻仔, 會成日玩佢, 因為佢向幼稚園都
已經有尼個情況發生過, 我覺得最令人心酸ga係, 佢一d都
唔明白發生緊d咩事, 你係一個愛錫子女ga媽媽, 你ga憂慮
我都有, 所以我好明白

ALAL

hi,

My son is my p2. He has speech delay when he is young. Speech therapist in governent would said he has no problem in speech now, but actually in school he would encounter problem in expressing himself, especially to those schoolmates who can speak very proper and fast. And he is hesitate to speak with teachers.

But no need to worry, and is no use to worry. At least train our kid so that they can tell us their problem in school is already a big blessing to us.   

路人(甲)

ALAL,

你有冇再去揾私家兒科心理醫生check下??
你有冇懷疑個政府d Speech therapist呢??
佢到底係5敢講定係5識講呢??
5好介意, 我只係想了解多d 尼類小朋友ga世界,
希望可以向其他人ga經驗當中, 能得到一d啟示,
盡自己最大ga能力去引導同教導好我ga仔, 因為
如果做媽媽ga都放棄, 咁樣佢就會冇希望

agustus

According to my experience, speech trainning is best to do at home. That one hour per session can do only a very small part in helping the child.  I am not an expert but I do have speech-deficient child.  After all these years, I know that to speak well, the child need a lot of 'cooperation' with himself.  

First of all, in speech means the child talk.  That is either (a) asking a question, (b) answering a question (c) informating (d) relating an experience

Once you know what is his problem ( I talk it as a boy as most often boys have this problem more than girls, forgive me if I jumped to a wrong conclusion), (a) and (b) need an interactive situation when one send and receive information while (c) and (d) is more or less one directional.  To know if the child is having difficulties in speech, I'll humbly advice trying (c) and (d) first. Ask him to go to the toilet ( or somewhere) and observed. Then go back to you and tell you what he sees.  That is informing.  If he can tell you well at least 10 objects ( as he is familiar with the toilet ) or 5 objects ( in places he is not familiar) at the age of 5 years old, he passed this test.  Next test is (d), you try to tell him something that happened to you in the morning, at least 10 sentences ( 5 years old) and 30 mins later, ask him to tell someone the whole thing, relating experiences must be at least 75% accurate for 5 years old.  If he passed both then the child actually has no serious speech problem.  

Other than these two tests, there are uncountable type of tests, these are the simpler one.

If you find problem in these two tests, try to find out what is his main problem.  There are lots of complex problems, take for example, for a child to be able to tell things from sight, we must be sure he really see the things, know what are they, remember them, know how to pronounce them, dare to say them out. . .   most of the child having speech delay have multiple problem, may not be only speech.  I knew of most having problem in oral motor instead of really speech.  If you can tell me more precisely, maybe I can share more on how to help him to know his own problem, tackle the problem and improve.  Acceptance is very important.  If a child accept his own problem, it's easier to intervent.  I hope I am not nosy around here.  My sincere apology if I had offended anyone here.  Hope these helps and don't worry too much.   

tin_tin

大肥媽咪,

我仔都係有語言障礙, 3.5歲時評就慢左6-9 months, 5.5歲評就話追番同齡. 都冇training 俾佢. 我都e為ok. 但其實比起普通ge小朋友真係差好遠. 我仔e+ P.2, teacher 都話佢學習上冇問題. 但我仔開始講係學校俾人蝦. 可能佢表達差, 同同學communicate 時冇話題, d同學又唔g佢講mug. 我仔都係開心to go to school ga.

唉...終於我要同佢上c人 ST. 佢e+上左幾堂, 講

路人(甲)

agustus,

你個小朋友e+有幾大???讀緊幾年班???
多謝你提供ga方法, 我會去嘗試


big-head,

多謝晒你d 資料, 我會將尼2個網址加到我的最愛到

agustus

路人(甲),

My fourth and fifth sons have speech deficient.  14 years old in Form 1, 13 years old in Primary 6 this year.  My youngest one is in P 1, slow in speech but just border-line so he is not having any therapy.  Now the Form one is speaking well already, only slow and a bit disorder, the Primary 6 boy is more complex.  He can not perform well in most cases not because he has speech problem.  He has multiple disorder.

Actually, it's not very difficult to help the children but tolerance, patience , consistency and endurance are very crucial.  I started from nothing as I know the best person to help my child is myself.  Set an easy target and work in schedule, arrange the best time, the most convenient place and started to 'guide'.  Everyday, I spent 30 mins in the morning before school and 30 mins after school to 'talk' one-to-one with him.  Plus read lots of books about how to process.  If you are interested, I can search for my notebooks I wrote on the process years ago but no promise I can find them.  Still, if you are keen and have faith, all will work out pretty well.  My sincere advice is: don't plan to 'cure' anyone,  don't set a target too high and praise the child plus yourself for all the hardwork.  keep going. . .  in failure or success.  I am still working hard on it as I know there are still room for improvement.
I will never give up, that is my motto.
   

siubakto

我想請教言語遲緩的小朋友有多大機會追返到正常的水平呢 ??

路人(甲)

agustus,

好多謝你同我分享你ga經驗
(tolerance, patience , consistency and endurance) 我會好好咁去記著尼4點同運用, 其實我一直以黎都覺得最直接; 最能夠幫到佢ga只有自己, 我接受therapy原因係, 因為我對尼方面咩都5知, 亦5知要點做, 希望可以向尼班專業人士身上學到同得到一d引導
我當然有興趣la......., 如果你揾得返, 你記得話我知ah!
Never give up!

heiheibbchu

我的女兒3歲9月,除了在家內很少和其他人說話.  語言能力比同歲孩子差. 她在家也可以和我們對答, 但在學校教唱歌後回家唱給我們聽, 我們大部份聽不明. 上年10月巳在政府作初步綜合test,還未見醫生.
我想請問她是否 言語遲緩或語言障礙? 這會否影響日後社交和學習? 在撰小學時, 我想撰一些活動教學, 著重小孩發展多過考試成績, 例如`啟思, 禮賢.
請各位指教.

路人(甲)

heiheibbchu,

你個女ga情況同我仔仔ga差5多, 放心比多d心機同時間
去教導同引導佢一定會有成績+   參考下agustus提
供ga心得同經驗, 你會得到好大ga幫助同啟示, 了解多左
你ga小朋友, 你就自然會懂得點樣去為選擇學校。

"天生我才必有用"我地ga小朋友雖然有speech delag,
但係我覺得佢地絕對5會遜色於其他口齒伶俐ga小朋友,
打個比如, 我個仔仔講野同社交都好差好差, 甚至好多時
會做出一d怪異ga行為, 令到我覺得萬分尷尬同無奈, 但
係佢ga記憶力比起同齡ga小朋友強(評估時醫生都話佢
有特強ga記憶力同創造力)所以佢ga成績一向都名列前
茅, 令我得到一d安慰, 所以我相信你ga小朋友都一樣有
佢ga優點。
5好意思我可能離左題, 不過尼d都係我有感而發ga心底
話, 我衷心祝福世界每一個小朋友都能健康快樂咁成長。

大肥媽咪

Hi, Happy New Year to all advisors. I am so glad to have some family to share their experience to me. Now I don't feel lonely anymore. The case of my son is just like one of you ALAL, he is so active at school, teacher said that he can solve his own problem, he has a good memory but is easy to disattract of something else. Some of his classmates are not willing to talk to him because they think he uses to much time to finish one sentence. Moreover, 在school, 有些同學開始欺負他, 因為他講話慢, 但我的小朋友又想同他們講, 他不知道自己說話慢, 所以有些人很討厭他, hopefully he can improve more later on. As long as I see his smile, I am so happy.
大肥媽咪

ALAL

大肥媽咪AND路人(甲)<
my son's problem is speaking slow, just like 大肥媽咪's kid. he has consulted both private and public st since he is 3. But in school there are always some bigger boys and girls, and some whose speech is developed better than normal. So it is quite diffiuclt for him to communicate with them in their speed.

chrischiu

hi agustus,
after reading your words, i really want to you to know "真係好佩服你的毅力同恆心", 我都真係做左媽咪先知, 原來愛真係可以好偉大

I am trying very hard to train my 2 yr old son every day , he is autistic and of course with speech delay, actually comparing with other kids with this disability , he is quite easy to teach, esp,in nouns, i can just give him the picture or the toys, tell him about two or three times, he can remember next time, but these days, during the lunar new year, i brought him to you know many parties in my friends house, i think you will understand it's so depressing to see his delays,,not in speech only, the most depressing thing is his social ability, he is very quiet and sit at the sofa but i see the other 1year old baby will actively play peekaboo with strangers,
anyway, i will keep working like you, your words..
i will never give up gives me strength again

hey, you say the know some books about how to process, do you know where i can buy it, coz it's very easy for my boy to learn nouns, but other things like sequence, adj. , are more difficult for him
i find it quite difficult to find some good chinese book in the market,

thanks for your advice

agustus

Hi chrischiu,

Actually, I am not the only person helping out.  I am not superman.  My plan in guiding the less-abled is a whole-family involvement.  I have a big family and thus even the youngest one has to do something to 'contribute' to the family.

I understand your feeling in 'parties' as my family share the same feeling too.  Lots of things happened these 10 years to all my children.  Some how I know there are good and bad.  My eldest son is a lonely person deep inside that I am still struggling to help him.  He will not attend any party ever since he was embarassed by peers almost 10 years ago because he has an autistic brother, a hyperactive brother, a very disturbing cum noisy brother that can't talk.  Until now, he still refuse to go to regular social gathering.  I read a book call " siblings of the disabled".  I felt so ashamed that I did not treat the children with enough respect.  When I knew my sons have certain inabilities, it took me months before I can accept the fact and started to work out plans.  I expect all of the elder brothers and sisters are in my pace but I am wrong.  The eldest one had the most effect and I think he needs much more time than any of us to get over the feeling.

Don't worry, a laugh or a smile will 'cure' lots of ambarrassment.  Don't feel bad because your child sit in a corner and do nothing.  Try to bring him out of the corner step by step.  I used to bring his toys along and let him play with it for a while and then ask him to join in.  Maybe it's easier for me as I have lots of children.  The sisters are very helpful as they are always the leaders thus they will wait till the brothers are ready.  Maybe you need a constant social circle to start with.

We did a lot of role play at home during the holidays.  We will pretend to have parties at home and 'teach' the less-abled children the proper behaviour.  Only one of my child is still having social problem with peers.  We will work hard on that.  Still, my worry is the sibling.  If you have other children, please make sure you really explain the disablities of the sibling with the fortunate child.  It's very important as I learnt the hard way.  My eldest son asked me years ago what is wrong with him as one by one his brother is having problem in one way or another.  When is his turn?  I am really shock to hear that.  He is absolutely fortunate to be healthy yet he doubt he will be okay.  I am not sure if the sisters are having the same disturbance as I talk more with sons than daughters, ( I am not unfair but I really do not have more than 24 hours a day and the girls will need time to "yee....yee...eeh...eeh... before they talk.  I prefer to let my spouse to talk to them and give me the 'report')  I did not find daughters having this problem with unertainities.

Anyway, our family also cut out unnecessary social gatherings.  There are lots of reason, for one Chinese New Year is really ambarrassing as it'll cost anyone a bomb to just give lucky money to all my children, secondly, the elder ones have their own friends and can not fit in the timing. Thirdly, I still need to work during the holidays.  So, not only because of the less-abled we did not go out so often, there are all different reasons.  Try to work out a plan to help with the child's social relationship.  As the old saying goes, there is a will, there is a way.  Maybe I can share with you the days when my eyes were wet and no one to pat my shoulder to let me move forward.  The days I must be brave as the whole family is waiting for my command when all are lost.  The days when I don't know what to do but must pretend I know everything.  Ha, those are the worst days of my life.  Those days when my spouse are so hopeless and cried out her eyes but I told her we will save the boys regardless what.  I will work out everything, financially when she gave up her career for the children, I had to work extra.  Relatives are telling tales about curses and so on.

Don't worry, the sun still shines and the earth still rotate.  Life will goes on.  Now that my children are older, I am more concern about their career and how the less-abled supporting themselves in the future.  I will try my best to make sure that they will not be a burden to the society, being a near-normal person.

This is not happening yet but I am still working out plans.  Years down the road you will feel better as your sun will stop hiding behind clouds. Let it shine and smile.  Have a happy day, don't feel bad because of a set back.  Hope my muttering is not disturbing you, be happy is the motto.