一篇很值得我們看的文章

老公的小健

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trustme

Very good!    

WYmom

From the passage, it reflects that studying in famous school like DBS or DGS is a nightmare, and the relationship changes only after sending him to an international school.  Is international school really the solution??  How many of us can afford?

wq

文章講出了我們的心聲。   

toffeeli

WYmom 寫道:
From the passage, it reflects that studying in famous school like DBS or DGS is a nightmare, and the relationship changes only after sending him to an international school.  Is international school really the solution??  How many of us can afford?

WYmom,

文章並沒有說國際學校才是解決辦法。請參看尾三那一段。

toffeeli

Jokey2828

As a mother, nothing can be more important than understanding your own child - his ability, personality, temperament… The pursuit of a never-ending higher ranking in disregard of a child's constraint is the culprit. The switch to an international school has not changed the child, but the mother – her attitude towards her child's school performance. With this change, I am sure that her child could survive well even in the famous traditional school, and at the same time maintain good parent-child relationship.

In a traditional school, parents tend to look too seriously at and compare too eagerly their children's scores and ranking with other children's. Is this the fault of a school?  

絕對贊同"只愛孩子，不愛面子"這句話。

WYmom 寫道:
From the passage, it reflects that studying in famous school like DBS or DGS is a nightmare, and the relationship changes only after sending him to an international school.  Is international school really the solution??  How many of us can afford?

JP

WYmom 寫道:
From the passage, it reflects that studying in famous school like DBS or DGS is a nightmare, and the relationship changes only after sending him to an international school.  Is international school really the solution??  How many of us can afford?

The author's elder boy has transferred to an international school while her younger boy is studying in local elite school--->La Salle!

waiwaichu2003

老公的小健,

Million thanks for your sharing!
好貼題 "一篇很值得我們看的文章 ~ 媽媽不要哭",好令人感動的一篇文章,我覺得所有k3家長同小朋友選小一前應看一看,然後想清楚什麼學校才是最適合自己的小朋友!

waiwaichu

Leiyuemun

一篇值得作為母親的我們好好反思的文章, 我自己近日在兒子的學業問題上, 每每大聲喝罵他, 對我來說就好像當頭棒喝 , 我要從新調整對亞仔的態度, 我不希望自己變成他的女巫

precious

父母替子女選校, 一定要明白 ‘大池小魚’, ‘小池大魚’嘅道理.  

選讀名校唔係對或錯的問題.  父母心態好重要.   一班三十幾人, 一定有人考三十幾… 無論小朋友的分數可能有80~90分!

讀名校肯定競爭大, 給子女多些鼓勵比打打鬧鬧積極得多.

讀國際學校, 因冇名次的安排, 父母沒得比較. 心態自然平和得多!

rr

我絕對是惡女巫, 我做足文中媽媽的每人部份, 只是從沒考慮要將小朋友轉到國際學校. 因為.......
除了金錢問題, 是現實社會問題, 上中學, 上大學,找工作, 那兒都是以成績行先, 不是說一定要小朋友去到最top, 而是我們的確要面對的一次一次的競爭, 不是說不讀書, 便沒有用, 只是學習是小朋友唯一的責任, 要教好小朋友談何容易.
小朋友大部份都不會自動自覺, 那父母便要從旁協助, 有d小朋友可以以相勸, 好似我囡囡完全不可以, 我日中打打鬧鬧, 真不是我想的,  但每次都會做得好.  朋友說是阿囡太"中"我了. 每次都給我我要的. 阿囡唔幫佢都有暫時都有不錯的成績, 但迫佢, 佢會做得更好, 我說過, 不是要阿囡成最top, 而是要她知道周圍都潛在競爭, 實無辦法, 我擔心的是這一代要父母供養到幾大?

有感而發, 現今小朋友太富足了, 將來可有自理, 經常忘了讀書學習是初是唯一的責任.

anyway, 很多謝分享, 我會提點自己做一個面孔比較善良的女巫. 等阿囡無咁驚.  

rr

思佳媽咪

這是電台DJ 鄧藹霖的文章，是她的親身經歷。為什麼轉貼者不註明出處呢？

思佳媽咪

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WYmom

precious 寫道:
父母替子女選校, 一定要明白 ‘大池小魚’, ‘小池大魚’嘅道理.  

選讀名校唔係對或錯的問題.  父母心態好重要.   一班三十幾人, 一定有人考三十幾… 無論小朋友的分數可能有80~90分!

讀名校肯定競爭大, 給子女多些鼓勵比打打鬧鬧積極得多.

讀國際學校, 因冇名次的安排, 父母沒得比較. 心態自然平和得多!

Agree with you, it is very natural for parents to be anxious about the ranking and results as these have major impact in the kids' future, i.e. competing into good secondary schools and universities. Don't think that parents can have so high EQ to tolerate their kids ranking 3x all the time in a famous school. So it is really inevitable to push the kids to work harder in local schools, though we should do it using more positive ways such as awards and encouragement.

Changing to international schools can definitely release the pressure of study.  There is no ranking in IS and not much competition, so parents will no longer be so anxious and kids can study more happily.

Though the author has not said that this is a solution to change her relationship with her son, she has in fact achieved it by making such a move. She just found another school which was more suitable for her son, rather than trying to change her way of teaching and support her son to survive better in the famous school.

sandycat

waiwaichu2003 寫道:
老公的小健,

Million thanks for your sharing!
好貼題 "一篇很值得我們看的文章 ~ 媽媽不要哭",好令人感動的一篇文章,我覺得所有k3家長同小朋友選小一前應看一看,然後想清楚什麼學校才是最適合自己的小朋友!

waiwaichu

Yes, I agree your advice.

jochebed

waiwaichu2003 寫道:
老公的小健,

Million thanks for your sharing!
好貼題 "一篇很值得我們看的文章 ~ 媽媽不要哭",好令人感動的一篇文章,我覺得所有k3家長同小朋友選小一前應看一看,然後想清楚什麼學校才是最適合自己的小朋友!

waiwaichu

上好的提議！  

跟朋友提起，她說她的同事就是每天過著這樣的生活。
旁人看在眼裡，只覺母子太可憐！真的沒有選擇嗎？
何時才覺悟，只愛孩子，不愛面子呢？