原來阿囡長大體貼別人呵!

Sherryko9

昨晚阿囡又要趕做project,一組5個人,媽咪我已一早提醒她預先和組員傾,矣何佢又好似"會"攪得掂,我都唔理得佢甘多,由佢!終於"出樹",又只得兩個人做,媽咪唔講事件了,因不是重心,係過程中我發覺囡囡原來幾"體貼",囡囡和同學通電時,係甘放低把聲叫果女同學:你唔好甘啦!唔好甘啦!.......又過了一陣,發覺阿囡講了幾句說話,內容係:我係第1個做先喎!(把聲好平靜),我無比晒佢做喎!.....好啦!你唔好做啦!我攪掂佢啦!(收線),我跟手入囡囡間房,(都已經差不12點了!是晚上),睇吓發生物野事,囡囡同我講,頭先果個女同學阿爸搶左個電話,起勢甘鬧佢(我囡囡),話佢好比晒D野佢果囡做....阿囡答佢阿爸:我係第1個做先喎!無比晒佢做喎!...阿囡話聽到同學喊(比佢阿爸鬧),又聽到佢阿媽講:又係只得佢兩個人做.....,後來佢同學攞番電話講,佢阿爸抆左條電腦綫唔比佢做,又鬧佢....阿囡就叫個同學唔好做啦!比佢做買佢啦!唉!昨晚阿囡甘就上腦做到成2點,我都陪住佢(其實我係廳到睇電視)到成1點30分頂唔順,同阿囡講,唔好理D format啦,求其做完佢算,快快手吧啦!囡囡爸爸終於都起身睇阿囡做成點,講左幾句野(我都唔知佢講甚麼)再上床瞓過!果時1點45分,2點了!(我都瞓唔著,但自己對眼頂唔到,開始痛,惟有只得阿囡一個作戰!精神上支持佢!)終於等到阿囡熄灯上床呵!自己肉體終於放鬆瞓了zzzzzzzzzz
換著以前阿囡小學時,媽咪我一定好忟,但今天我亦明白"長大過程中是有經歷",等佢下次學懂處理事情,又教媽咪看出她處理手法等,向好方面看,囡囡做project過程中亦令她學懂不少,不做不懂,起碼她懂去search資料和做powerpoint,無做的那些同學是她們損失了學習機會.

Yanamami

對! 多勞多得. 唔係話家下d年青人乜都怕蝕底咩?  其實表面似蝕底, 有著數就真.....不過話分兩頭, 要學下大家合作做好件事, 事關第日做野都要team work, 唔一定one man bank.

Sherryko9

回復 Yanamami 的帖子

我成日都同佢講,如果係team做的野,唔好只得一兩個做,人地唔做,首先你地有無分配工作比人先?如果分配左佢地唔做就佢地錯,但無分配之下人地唔做就唔係人地不對,係你地分配不公和無分配甘解,唔好話人,當然點都要有人做帶頭,唔好多少,少有少做,多有多做,係參予甘解,點都要分D野比大家去承擔,矣何!媽咪講又講左,佢地係學校點做又另一回事,結果就係佢受!媽咪我係有心痛!

like_travel

感同身受, 我囡囡交際唔叻但成績好又勤力, 玩既時候朋友唔多, 但一要做project 即成風頭躉,次次做project 都係得兩個(其中一個係我女)肯做野既人做晒, 香港真係好多呢d 走精面既人 !!! 我都係同亞女講, 做多些唔怕洩底, 將來出來做事老闆會欣賞肯做又願意幫人既員工 !

csy_ma

回復 Sherryko9 的帖子

我囡而家只係小六，唔知佢中學會點做，不過自小四到小六，經歷咗咁多次（每年兩次），佢由俾其他家長鬧到喊（故事很長，不說了），又要各自家長出手，到完全唔駛我地理，自己小組響學校完成大半，剩返少少，不過為咗搵藉口招呼同學黎屋企做完一齊玩，係不斷學習比背書更有用既能力


不過，體貼之餘，要學懂如何令全組人一齊做，先係更進一步既學習。加油


（到中學都要家長出面既同學，真係鄧佢慘，佢一定既唔好意思，自我形象又低

ANChan59

My son also suffered in this type "team project", some teachers will ask the team leader to provide the contribution of individual members. After adding this adjusting factor, it's more fair to all students.

My son told me that he may also put a classmate as average even he was not involve in the project, based on the following situation:
1. Family issue,
2. Training and competition,
3. Agreed to take up more responsibilities in coming project;
4. Technical issues - network or computer;
.......