揀學校 - 我要孤軍作戰

dory13b

呢排為個仔

Keithmama

放開

rr

算啦, 我囡daddy 都係咁, 由阿囡讀N1 至而家 P.3, 家長會ar, 學校旅行都是一個人出席, 最哀係我有時迫阿囡溫習, 佢竟然答口話"書都使讀o既" .    

你不是孤軍作戰, 仲有呢度好多媽媽陪, 唔使咁勞氣.

rr

DoReMi媽媽

喺為小朋友揀學校作決定時, 我都覺得好孤單, 樣樣都要自己去諗, 去部署, 想揾個人分担下都冇.

dory13b

多謝你地對我

hugub

我同個仔溫習佢教極都唔識我鬧佢，我老公仲話我嘈！！死未？？？
  

Pulmma

rr 寫道:
算啦, 我囡daddy 都係咁, 由阿囡讀N1 至而家 P.3, 家長會ar, 學校旅行都是一個人出席, 最哀係我有時迫阿囡溫習, 佢竟然答口話"書都使讀o既" .    

你不是孤軍作戰, 仲有呢度好多媽媽陪, 唔使咁勞氣.

rr

rr.

我想我老公和你老公是孖生的.  d 行為簡真是一樣呀!

rr

Hi Pulmma,


  

    



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mummybear

I have the same experience too.... he don't event know when to hand in the 1st round lucky draw.  I was so depress on doing the application on private schools, making profiles etc... for my daughter but he thought because my expectation is too high, he can let her daughter to go to whatever the school lucky draw came out.  ahya.... but it's ok, although he do not do the first round job but he did go to interview with me..... at least I have a driver.  But all discussion on which school to choose is done between me and my friends only, not with him coz he know nothing....  

On homework side, whenever I ask him to take up the role to teach daughter on homework.... (I am a working mom too, may come home late sometimes or gone for biz trip), it will end up with him fighting with my daughter as he use an adult logic to put on kids........   

Anyway, by default a lot of men assume teaching kids are women's job......      but they forget that women nowadays also need to work   

So no need to feel lonely, we are with you.   

Fatty

我反而鐘意孤軍作戰，好過意見不合。

由九月開始報小學到依家，老公只係聽意見，一D都冇幫過手, interview 都冇去學校，所有影印，做profile, 交報名表，整回郵信封，幫仔仔買衫interview, 都係我做晒。

不過，好在佢都俾我"渣"晒主意，辛苦D都值得。

ttamy123

A coin always has two sides.  My husband participates in everything the kids do.  He competes with me for signing school handbooks, circulars and decides every detail for the kids.  I can't make any decision for the kids.  I have to wait for him to say "yes" or "no" for the contents of school circulars.  I even need to wait him to come back from business trip to make very little decisions like agreeing to buy story books from school or not.  When I try to write letters to school, he will change the words I use from the top to the bottom and make it almost a new letter.  I even needed to fight for a few years to let my kid learn piano because he thought that learning piano was sort of girls' stuff.  

Don't be frustrated.  It is good that you can make every decision.

rr

Fatty 寫道:
我反而鐘意孤軍作戰，好過意見不合。
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不過，好在佢都俾我"渣"晒主意，辛苦D都值得。

我覺呢個topic 好有趣, 所以回應了幾次   

都係嫁, 一人決定又都幾好,  真係唔使為不同意向鬧交, 不過最緊要要俾錢時Daddy 出手啦   :wink:  :wink:

我老公成日話俾我兩母囡搾乾d 錢, 我每次都答佢這是不用付出時間的代價, 我都俾個囡搾乾d腦汁啦, 特別係做親子project 的時候, 而家成日講家校合作, 要面對很多很多的親子功課都幾煩架 .  

rr

leeleelumlum

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ttamy123 寫道:
A coin always has two sides.  My husband participates in everything the kids do.  He competes with me for signing school handbooks, circulars and decides every detail for the kids. ......
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your case seems is quite extreme, usually the mum would be supposed to take such duties .... if you feel that you are capable of handling that, perhaps you can discuss further with him openly for more delegation especially he has been a busy man already.

I'm also is a working mom, after work, immediately check homework, prepare test/dict, ...... Sometimes, it is really frustrated when my kid did/answered wrongly/carelessly....  

I did feel lonely sometimes ..... as other moms here ....   , what can we do? what should do?   It's a long way to go. Let all of us share here as much as possible to release our pressure ..... Going into BK is part of my daily life now, I really enjoy to be here ....

Let us share, support, and encourage each other here !       :   

vanessamom

I ask my hubby to teach my girl english, end up he taught once only, no more...............continue

Zen

rr 寫道:
算啦, 我囡daddy 都係咁, 由阿囡讀N1 至而家 P.3, 家長會ar, 學校旅行都是一個人出席, 最哀係我有時迫阿囡溫習, 佢竟然答口話"書都使讀o既" .    

你不是孤軍作戰, 仲有呢度好多媽媽陪, 唔使咁勞氣.

rr

rr,

話妳知阿囡幼稚園畢業時班主任同佢講”三年黎都未見過妳Daddy ，今年一定要請Daddy黎家長日喎” 　結果當然係 no show啦　

可能ｄ老師以為阿囡係單親家庭長大   

Aries媽咪

我好同意fatty講, 孤軍作戰係好事, 唔使大家都有自己主見, 就我為例, 我同囡囡部署咗好耐, 又搬屋, 又轉幼稚園, 都係希望佢入女校, 點知老公失驚無神就話入樓下新開間英文直資小學, 唔比囡囡去大抽獎, 我同佢爭論咗好耐, 最後佢就同我講, 妳係唔係一定囡囡可以入到心儀女校先, 天呀 大抽獎係唔到我話事, 係上天安排架, 我點可以保證一定入到呀

最後我都要放棄呢幾年所做的一切, 幼稚園考得幾好都無用, 連私小我都無意欲去考, 知道改變唔到老公, 我老公好愛囡囡, 放工返嚟會同囡囡玩, 又同溫書洗澡, 就連床邊講故事都係佢.

但係係選校方面, 我情願佢唔幫手好過

Keithmama

ttamy123 寫道:
A coin always has two sides.  My husband participates in everything the kids do.  He competes with me for signing school handbooks, circulars and decides every detail for the kids.  

有時我要overnight 返工返唔到屋企，叫佢簽手冊，佢居然話唔識，叫我不如教定"姐姐"做，咁未唔洗煩

Huisys

Keithmama 寫道:

有時我要overnight 返工返唔到屋企，叫佢簽手冊，佢居然話唔識，叫我不如教定"姐姐"做，咁未唔洗煩

我老公重搞笑,有時我唔得閒叫佢幫我簽住個仔D通告,佢係有簽呀,但係冒簽我個名呢??我問佢點解唔簽自己個名落去??佢話:"D通告簽開你個名

小夜曲

我就鐘意孤軍作戰, 多個人多意見.
我個哀佬成日話宣小, 禮賢, 優材都唔係好好, 第一輪抽籤衰左, 又話搬屋博大抽獎. 搬屋就一定抽到咩? 我地住緊個度, 我就好鍾意, 我就唔想搬啦

剩係為左揾小學, 差不多每星期都

所以我唔理佢啦, 佢自己揾屋搬