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From Primary to Secondary.....

熱度 10已有 726 次閱讀 12-5-18 15:30 |個人分類:DBS|系統分類:教育

Some sharing about my struggles:

1. Primary vs Secondary
Assume a normal primary school, 1/3 students are band 1. In a Band 1 secondary school, all students are Band 1, so bottom of the form still band 1.... If you look at Band 2.... Band 3, what do you think. 
We need to adjust our expectation from top to middle, Chinese, English and Maths must pass etc.......

2. Declare Independence
My son gave us hard time in Grade 7-8, he seeked for independence and requested more free time and space. We had the feeling he disobeyed us and not repect us any more. Talked to school social worker and know more about his potential development, teenagers look for 3 "I"s - Identity, Independence and Intimacy......... he is normal and a natural development. One key issue is to maintain the relationship, don't push him away. After 2 years, he "comes back", we felt much better now.

3. Dating
My son's exam results and homework are dropped significantly in Grade 8, because of dating. He can SMS with girl till 2-3am in the morning. We talked to him about dating, he didn't want to talk much and shy away from the issue. What we can do is respect his 3Is? Share some boundaries with him and hope for the best with lots of prayers.

4. On-line games
Most of his time spent on on-line games, it's always our hot argument point. Our MOU is cut the games before and during exam or test period.

5. Discussion and sharing
Spare some time to do so, it takes time and the result also very slow, but it works and I can see the end of the tunnel.........

6. Never give up
Teachers can give up your son ot daughter, but we can't, so keep it going, never give up.

Learnt from a secondary school:

Grade A student = Grade A school + Grade A teacher + Grade A parents

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回覆 annie40 12-5-18 15:57
3. Dating
My son's exam results and homework are dropped significantly in Grade 8, because of dating. He can SMS with girl till 2-3am in the morning. We talked to him about dating, he didn't want to talk much and shy away from the issue. What we can do is respect his 3Is? Share some boundaries with him and hope for the best with lots of prayers.

Grade A student = Grade A school + Grade A teacher + Grade A parents
***  
sometimes you have troubled parents, but Grade A mentors would be the replacement.
***令公子是差不多18, 或已经18, 基本是拿正牌'拍拖', 老子是管不到,也不应管吧!  不如分陶孩子有高尚品味, 如老爸, 懂得挑'女朋友'
回覆 ANChan59 12-5-18 16:01
He is 17.

He has his own taste, within the boundaries, up to him.
回覆 annie40 12-5-18 17:03
以我观察, 通常男孩選终身伴侣时, 有两种倾向:
1) 似足阿妈
2) 跟阿妈极端相反.  
当然女友的条件可以胡乱点
回覆 ANChan59 12-5-18 17:36
跟阿妈极端相反

- He prefers girl friend not as smart as mom.....

My wife told him that a research from Harvard, the smart kids rely on mom's gene more than father. Find a smart woman/girl....
回覆 Yanamami 12-5-18 19:41
ANChan59: 跟阿妈极端相反

- He prefers girl friend not as smart as mom.....

My wife told him that a research from Harvard, the smart kids rely on mom's gene mo ...
   He probably have enough of his mum.  She understands him so well and he doesn't want TWO female monitors at home at the end of the day......
回覆 Yanamami 12-5-18 19:42
Like your point 6 very much.
回覆 ChiChiPaPa 12-5-18 21:09
我覺得我們有完全相反的經歷。1.女兒由水平高的小學升至現時的直資。2.在她要求自主前,我先讓她自主。3.我對dating持開放態度,她可自由出街,她也不只ㄧ張電話咭,方便和朋友SMS,因同網不收費,她也可隨意上Facebook。4.小學時,她已很喜歡玩網上遊戲,只可惜未能像細她四年的堂弟般看厚厚的英文遊戲攻略......

因此,我反而有時會想是否要收緊一些?
回覆 ANChan59 12-5-18 21:12
Parenting is an art, different family should have different philosophy and or approach.
回覆 One-Mama 12-5-18 23:10
Thus, we may need to adjust our target grade in 'Dating' subject from top to middle at the beginning year, right?  Anyway, all he/kids need(s) is time to grow & experience to be mature.  
回覆 HY412 12-5-19 00:56
唔知係咪阿囡早熟, 佢話浪費時間      還是未有合眼緣      阿囡生得高大, 呢一代既男生好似遲發育
回覆 kym 12-5-19 18:35
Dating最好唔唔好咁早, 等入左大學先啦!
回覆 kym 12-5-19 18:47
Grade A student = Grade A school + Grade A teacher + Grade A parents
唔係好同意哩點. 好多名校D老師都唔係好得, 好學生唔一定讀好學校亦未必有對好識教子女的父母.
回覆 BallBallMaMa 12-5-22 18:21
HY412: 唔知係咪阿囡早熟既表現, 佢話浪費時間      還是未有合眼緣      阿囡生得高大, 呢一代既男生好似遲發育   ...
阿女都有個玩得埋的男同學, 都有其他同學亂講佢地, 但阿女會話: 「我同佢傾得埋, 鐘意同佢玩啫, 唔代表我鐘意佢個喎!」
佢仲同細佬講: 「你未讀大學你都咪諗拍拖呀, 唔係你玩完架啦!」
回覆 HY412 12-5-22 18:57
BallBallMaMa: 阿女都有個玩得埋的男同學, 都有其他同學亂講佢地, 但阿女會話: 「我同佢傾得埋, 鐘意同佢玩啫, 唔代表我鐘意佢個喎!」
佢仲同細佬講: 「你未讀大學你都咪諗拍 ...
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