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菲傭與港童

熱度 13已有 1352 次閱讀 12-3-10 12:18 |個人分類:Parenting|系統分類:教育

今日早上在網上睇蘋果Sophia講港童跟菲傭的關係,睇完都有d感受,因而借題發揮。

我家菲傭幫我們家庭超過14年,是第一個,亦是唯一一個。我太太在聘請菲傭前做了不小研究,現在回想,她真正做得非常好。她有d要求及觀點我嘗試講講。

要求
- 年齡, 唔可以太年輕,家庭有負擔 (跟我倆差不多)
- 學歷,大學畢業 (護理系)
- 經驗,在其他國家工作過,最好待遇比香港差d (沙地阿拉伯)
- 英語流利
- 家有小朋友 (2女1子)

規矩
- 旅遊證件,她一到步將護照及我們保管,我們說妳自己保管,我地信任妳唔會借貴利 (loan shark)
- 若果因家人原因有財政困難,可開心見誠,大家有商量。我們一知妳借貴利,一定解約
- 我們將家中鎖匙給她,她要小心保管
- 我地明白她身在異鄉,我地會當她是家人

教養孩子
- 只有一個條件,就是當小兒係你兒子來教導

跟小兒有爭論時如何處理
- 通常有爭論,我或太太會囑咐兒子先聽姐姐先,晚上才處理
- 晚上先有兒子講述事件,他的睇法及為何認為 姐姐 不對。跟著是 姐姐 講述她的睇法,我們家事法官會澄清一d觀點及事發過程,我倆會作出裁決及要求兩方面以後的合作原則
- 幾次之後,兒子同太太講我地唔錫他,因為其他小朋友有投訴,父母會多數聽小朋友,我地相反,可能我們唔係佢父母.......

祖父母的看法
- 未有姐姐前嬤嬤負責帶兒子,姐姐的到來對嬤嬤來說係唔開心,就算我地點解釋,姐姐負責起居飲食,妳得閒同孫兒玩就是......
- 姐姐上任後,嬤嬤間中都會投訴姐姐,最經典一個例子如下:
有一次我出差,嬤嬤call我話姐姐無比bb食飯,我只好打電話了解發生甚麼事,我要bb聽電話,午餐食甚麼,好唔好味?佢話d通心粉好好味,我問佢點解唔同嬤嬤講清楚,佢答,嬤嬤問食飯我咪答無囉,問你死未......

旁敲側擊
- 有時太太放假,佢會接送兒子去校車站,她會同d家長及老人家傾下,佢地對姐姐評家價好高,唔會掛住傾偈,忽略小朋友
- 樓下看更的評語
- 兒子會將1/3來利是錢給姐姐
- 有次太太姐姐成日有磨擦,考慮跟姐姐唔續約,最後係兒子出面擺平

兒子都有少少"港童特徵",唯一安慰無全中/大滿貫而已......... Blessed ....




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發表評論 評論 (14 個評論)

回覆 lillymarie 12-3-10 13:10
可以相處超過14年,不容易!
回覆 annie40 12-3-12 15:51
哗! 连雇用菲佣,你都有心得! 小女子佩服万分

通常雇用关系是相对的, 重要是品格, 其他可以慢慢调教, 選对了就要好好珍惜!
回覆 ANChan59 12-3-12 20:09
Not me, my CEO.....

Yes, integrity is another key factor that's why we keep her so long.
回覆 cowboymama 12-3-13 00:53
如果真的再要挑剔的話,就是.....無懈可擊!!哈!哈!
Good night!
回覆 Yanamami 12-3-13 08:44
ANChan59, 你夫復何求? Almost a perfect life!
回覆 ANChan59 12-3-13 09:46
No life is perfect, that's why we always rely on God......
回覆 vincher 12-4-5 16:00
佩服!你日理萬機,仲有精力寫僱用菲傭心得!教曉兒子把部分利是給姐姐,很好呀!可惜我兒已大,沒法用此法!姐姐辛苦照顧他,應該感恩!我兒只肯把一丁點兒利是請祖母、我們喝茶!婆婆未去世前,每次給家用,我特意帶同兒子,培養他盡孝!奶奶去旅行,我封紅包,也由兒子轉交!
回覆 yiyiyima 12-5-16 14:02
父母的身教就是最好的榜樣,難怪你兒子會尊重菲傭。
回覆 cherubic 12-5-17 13:02
Our helper has been working for us for 10 years, and we have already renew the new contract with her, so another 2 years.  She came to our home one week before my son was born.  She treats my son as her son and we treat her as our family members.  There were some conflicts before and they were easily resolved if we looked at the matter from her angle of view.  My son asks me if she can stay until he is 30.  I say it is entirely up to him.
回覆 ANChan59 12-5-17 13:05
For some families, they treat the domestic helpers as outsiders, like no keys for home. I always see some helpers sitting at the lobby and wait for the hosts back home so that they can go for a rest.
回覆 One-Mama 12-5-20 22:27
A very admirable sharing!

Apparently, we're not so lucky as you & the longest service period was 4yrs only.  Besides having similar requirements as yr CEO, I further looked for those who appear to be clean, tidy, honest & put no cosmetics.  As I always emphasize, hygiene & safety should always be on top priority in her routine work & consideration.  Unfortunately, the employment agents also admit that maids of these few years appear to be more immature & just come for fun (free travel ticket & compensation fee).  So, in case you feel that your auntie maid prefers a new place to go, pls don't hesitate to let me know. (HaHa!)
回覆 nungma 12-5-21 00:57
我家的斯傭都做了差不多15年,剛剛退休回鄉了,兩個小朋友喊到死去活來
回覆 ANChan59 12-5-21 08:22
難能可貴
回覆 manmanchubb 12-5-25 20:54
能夠遇上好姐姐,加上你和太太的用心配合,兒子如此尊重愛護她更是難能可貴;佩服

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