小朋友入左名校, 但 ....

tracytang

Agreed

原帖由 misu 於 09-10-28 22:52 發表
我覺得小朋友就算谷得起，第時都會愛比較。長大後較難得到內心快樂。如果係叻嘅去邊間學校都會讀得叻。最重要小朋友董得自發及有自信。到中學根本無得谷。 ...

HIN2003

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-28 23:01 發表
其實小朋友邊個不鐘意玩, 做家長的一定要在某時候要谷下架啦, 不通給晒小朋友想點就點叫好家長? 我怕她地大左會埋怨你, 當初點解不谷下她地咋.

而家難就難在係"谷" & "良好親子關係"中攞平衡.

HIN2003

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-29 12:20 發表


我都覺得找平衡點真是好難, 我的準則是, 只要看到個女的心仲是愛親近自己就可以了,

例如放工, 個女見到我, 她是好開心的, 愛走過來同我傾計, 但在我叫她溫書時, 她又不開心,不彩我, 咁樣都仲可以谷下她.話下她.
...

好似我個囝咁, 剛測驗完, 鬆動D, 又話要去公園玩.去到平台公園只係得D BB, 即讀KG D 小朋友.
玩左一陣叫佢走, 我話得D BB係道玩. 小學D小朋友都係屋企要做功課. 佢都唔願走. 激死!!!

HIN2003

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-29 14:08 發表



是呀, 我個女又是剛測完驗, 我打算今個星期同她去海洋公園玩下.通常玩之前又同她說: " 那, 玩完回家要做xxx, 因為星期x 要默書啦, 星期x 又要做xxx 啦咁, 怕她回家不溫書時, 我閙她都可以理直氣壯的.:funn ...

我地25/10 剛去完海洋公園.
而家D活動全是親子活動 , 跟本沒有自己的活動&時間. 每天放工就急急回家睇功課.

ppsfung

原帖由 CFaHB 於 09-10-20 13:01 發表
滿江紅 .... or arm arm 合格多 dd

佢媽咪怪學校太深, 比分比得緊 .... (不過又有人可以攞到近滿分)

小朋友初小咋 ...

當年入到名校, 佢媽咪真係開心到顛架, 所以一定唔會轉校

我唯有叫佢再努力d啦, 個底打唔好, ...

唔使介意喎.
係名校包尾都可能已叻過一般學校的大部份人.我覺得呢個社會都係咁,出面大把勁人猛人,就算你幾叻都會有人叻過你,所以要學會接受自己的不足,亦要了解和運用自己的長處.
最緊要係父母心裡明白自己個小朋友其實唔差,唔好迫得太緊和多些鼓勵,咁個小朋友自然EQ會越來越高.

我個boss都係名校畢業,我覺得好已經好叻,但佢話我知原來佢以前經常包尾,不過佢亦因此而自細學會接受失敗,不會自視過高,所以出來社會做事反而順順利利.

easonkinki

聽到都覺得小朋友好可憐

aylau

Those studying in Band 1 schools have to prepare themselves for the never ending dictations/tests/exam. I believe kids are not necessarily extraordinary smart, but their parents should be able to provide sufficient assistant to them in term of time, patience, knowledge and finance.
Good habit is very important.  I believe the habit of revision should be started when kids are in K3. Otherwise, they will take much more time at the beginning of P.1 to catch up with the class progress.
Parents should work together with kids. Switch off the TV even you really want to have some relaxation after working for whole day.

HIN2003

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-30 07:09 發表
讀書不一定是可憐的, 成績好就是回報.

只有無父母理的孩子才是最可憐.

我都覺得一d都唔可憐, 但就非常充實.

ahtan

原帖由 ppsfung 於 09-10-29 15:53 發表


唔使介意喎.
係名校包尾都可能已叻過一般學校的大部份人.我覺得呢個社會都係咁,出面大把勁人猛人,就算你幾叻都會有人叻過你,所以要學會接受自己的不足,亦要了解和運用自己的長處.
最緊要係父母心裡明白自己個小朋 ...

After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which school did you graduate from? So if I were the parent, I won't consider changing school yet. Just try to find out the reasons for all these study problems first. If the kid really hates going to school and doesn't like his classmates, then it's another issue. But seems like this kid only hates homework and studying but not the school environment?

grDaddy

原帖由 ahtan 於 09-10-31 23:17 發表


After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which school did you graduate from? So if I were the parent, I ...

I will say that:
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which UNIVERSITY did you graduate from?

I think famous seconday school and primay school is just 錦上添花.

tinkerbell2004

Studying is only a process to facilitate our development. All the things will change when you go to work.

Remember childhood is only very short, don't push the child too much. Give your kids more happy memories are very important.

原帖由 grDaddy 於 09-11-1 00:09 發表



I will say that:
After you have graduated for many years, people won't care whether you are number one in class or last in class, they will only ask you which UNIVERSITY did you graduate from?

I t ...

ppsfung

原帖由 meipo28 於 09-10-28 17:03 發表
大至係甘 (如有錯誤,請指教)

佢囝囝原本在傳統名校就讀.成績唔係幾好,鄧靄琳於是轉做全職mum希望谷起佢成績. 但係情況無改善,佢更出手打囝,越打越重手,更影響一家人的關係.有一次鄧靄琳猛然發現佢個囝將自己畫成一 ...

成件事只係父母心態上有問題,與名校和細路都無關.
父母望子成龍當然正常,但過份期望往往會搞到走火入魔,將子女變成自己的"比賽功具",這種心態其對父母和小朋友都不好.
既然愛自己的仔女,便應接受他不足之處....只要小朋友盡咗力,就算成績唔好都應該為佢的勤力而驕傲.
講到底仔女的資質部分是從父母遺傳,怪罪仔女唔夠叻或怪學校,不如d大人反省一下係咪應該從另一個正面的角度去面對問題.

HoHoMom

Totally agree ! Having a chance to 讀書 is actually a blessing. And 讀書 is the fairest game in the world. The harder you 讀書, the better the 回報.

But I do notice that some kids' strength is not 讀書. In that case, the parents should really think about whether more time should be used to develop the kids' other talents. E.g. if music is the talent, the Music School might be a better choice than a traditional famous school.

原帖由 goodmama2003 於 09-10-30 07:09 發表
讀書不一定是可憐的, 成績好就是回報.

只有無父母理的孩子才是最可憐.

monkeydog

Job interviews wont care which primary or secondary schools you come from if you are a univeristy graduate. But good secondary schools will increase your chance to go into good universities

mat媽

我的大學同學, 好少是名校(小/中學)出生.
出來做野, 同事都是大學畢業, 但名校(小/中學)出生的都唔多.

猴子爸

都要看是什么公司，一些专业，有名气的大机构，基本上初入职的大学生，很多都是名大学，名中学的毕业生。起码我自己的所见所闻是这样。

原帖由 mat媽 於 09-11-3 14:28 發表
我的大學同學, 好少是名校(小/中學)出生.
出來做野, 同事都是大學畢業, 但名校(小/中學)出生的都唔多.