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作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 12:48 標題: How to nurture a confident and outgoing baby girl
Hi all, I am a mother of a 6mo baby girl. I wish to send her to top IS when she's in K and I would like to do the best right now. I will send her to playgroups but I'm afraid they only occupy a limited period of time and they are not enough to develop her social skills and her self-confidence. So I would like to ask you guys what else can I do to nurture her social skills and self-confidence at home? Or what extra activities I should arrange? Thanks a lot in advance!
作者: Goodluck2022 時間: 23-6-5 13:22
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你需要去小紅書找升學顧問， 錢可解決！
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 13:54
Goodluck2022 發表於 23-6-5 13:22 
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你需要去小紅書找升學顧問， 錢可解決！
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 13:54
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Goodluck2022 發表於 23-6-5 13:22
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你需要去小紅書找升學顧問， 錢可解決！
May I also have more advice on 小紅書 consultants? Do you have any recommendations? Thank you very much.
作者: kooliestgirl 時間: 23-6-5 14:44 標題: 回覆樓主:
I think the most effective way is to take your kid out as much as possible. My mum was used to look after my girl and took her out everyday. she met a lot of strangers and became very sociable. I won't say she is strong in academic as I am not focusing to make her to be one of them but she is definitely sociable and make friends very easily.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 15:24
kooliestgirl 發表於 23-6-5 14:44
I think the most effective way is to take your kid out as much as possible. My mum was used to look ...
作者: Goodluck2022 時間: 23-6-5 15:42
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I dont have any specific recommendations.
I just think there is no harm to check on what they offer and evaluate independently as to whether you would like to go with them.
Are you guys from Hong Kong or Mainland China ?
No offense. Just try to make some friends. Can PM me.
作者: kooliestgirl 時間: 23-6-5 15:49
registerzh 發表於 23-6-5 15:24
Hi Kooliestgirl, thank you so much for sharing! May I know starting from what age did your mum brin ...
my mum is a super outgoing person, I think she took her out for yum cha daily since she was about 3 months, then my mum met other grandmas and went out together. All waiters/waitresses, management knew my girl well.
I am a very hand on mum too even I work full time and will take her out on every weekend. We go to church weekly where she would be on her own since very young age and we did a lot of overseas hokiday since she was 9 months old, we flies everywhere with her.
Breastfeeding seems very helpful too..I did breastfeed my girl for a very long time.
作者: bigheadshrimp 時間: 23-6-5 18:04
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registerzh 發表於 23-6-5 12:48
Hi all, I am a mother of a 6mo baby girl. I wish to send her to top IS when she's in K and I would l ...
I think it’s great that you care so much about your child’s education, but please try to relax and enjoy the time you have with your baby girl because kids really do grow up too quickly!
Since your child is so young, you can just start with playing games and reading to her at home. This will help develop her communication skills, which she will need to build her social skills. It doesn’t really matter what you are reading to her, as long as you are doing it. Babies can learn so much from just listening to your tone of voice. You can also describe everything you are doing with her. This will help her build her vocabulary so she will have the words when she is ready to start talking. While she will only parallel play for now, you can start organizing play dates for your baby. Again, this will help with the social skills. Playgroups are only a platform. They will expose your child to different environments and give you ideas on learning activities, but at the end of the day, what you do with your child outside of class is way more important.
I know it’s ironic, but the best way you can do to help build her confidence is to let go. Don’t try to do everything for her, as most moms will have the urge to do. Encourage her to try things on her own. Let her know it’s ok to fail. She won’t have the confidence to be on her own if adults constantly tell her to not do this and not do that. If she wants to explore a new environment on her own, let her. Just make sure she knows you will always be there for her if she needs you.
Maybe this wasn’t what you had in mind when you asked the question, but hopefully this helps.
作者: Goodluck2022 時間: 23-6-5 18:21
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Your English is brilliant.
Are you a foreigner ?
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 19:12
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Haha I see. I guess the babies just watch and learn from their carers. Thank you so much for the examples. They are very inspiring. I guess the key is to be the role model of her. If I want her to be out-going, I'd better show her how to social. If I want her to live in a western way, I'd better provide her with the chance to immerse in the environment.
I guess why she's shy and "bored" is because she felt my stress when I tried to talk to strangers outside haha. I should improve myself and be comfortable to socialize before expecting her to enjoy going out.
Thank you for your examples again and now I know how to ask my mum to bring her out to yum cha (chuckle).
作者: Adiezz 時間: 23-6-5 20:04
Your child is still very young. Playgroups and other activities can certainly help, but it's okay to hand off and let her explore and learn at her own pace.
At this stage, the most important thing is giving her love and care - spending time in playing and interacting with her, reading books, singing songs. A strong bonding between you and your child will help boost her self-confidence.
When she grows older, you can expose her a variety of activities and experiences that can help develop her social skills and interests. But now just take it easy and enjoy the time with your daughter.
Top IS are always competitive. Just try you best but don’t put too much pressure on you and the kid.
作者: simonchan1986 時間: 23-6-5 20:57
If your only intention is to send her to top IS, then I would recommend you to get a FP (if you don't have one) asap, and buy debenture from these top school asap (some have waitlist)...
As for social skills, I think you may have worried too much...she is only 6 months old...As long as you speak more to her daily, arrange play-dates with other kids it should be good enough...but that being said, some of the more famous PG like ITT may help
作者: janellechan 時間: 23-6-5 21:31
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When baby is 6 months old, I think they just need to sleep and eat/milk. I am a mom of 3 kids. My elder daughter is 6 now and she is totally an extrovert. She’s in a good IS now. I have to say, it’s not the case that everyone in her class is extrovert. Children only develops their social skill after 1 year old (personal experience, no prof support). So you don’t need to give so much pressure to yourself. It’s really true that kids imitate the care givers. I m also an extrovert and I always talk to strangers in coffee shops or chit chat with neighbors or even security guards. I guess it would help.
If turn out your daughter is an introvert, it doesn’t mean that the chance for her to get into top IS is lower. Being independent is very important too. If children is capable of doing a lot of things by themselves, they would somehow be more confident.
After 3 years old, kids start to make friends and have their own conversations with friends. You can organize more play dates which definitely helps.
作者: Goodluck2022 時間: 23-6-5 21:43
A 6-month old baby can develop social skills and communication skills through interaction with parents and strangers.
You should have your kid to be exposed to different environments.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 22:05
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bigheadshrimp 發表於 23-6-5 18:04
I think it’s great that you care so much about your child’s education, but please try to relax an ...
Hi Bigheadshrimp, thank you so much for the advice! You give me quite a few directions to explore. And now I know the logic behind how reading to my baby can facilitate her to social. I bought some reading materials too but I found her not interested in the readings too. And that's the point where I give up. I will pick it up again and hopefully I gradually develop her interest into readings. Glad that you guys remind me when she is only 6mo. There are still plenty of time for me to spend with her.
And yes your suggestions on building her confidence sounds uncomfortable at first. But you are right that I shall let her go to try on her own. She build her confidence by making her own decisions. If I set too many rules for her to follow, she won't be good at exploring her own possibilities in the future. That's a very valuable advice that I will take. Much obliged!
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 22:16
Adiezz 發表於 23-6-5 20:04
Your child is still very young. Playgroups and other activities can certainly help, but it's okay to ...
Hi Adiezz. Yes when I look back to the past few monthes, I find that I've been too anxious about her development and future path. I have been searching for IS all day long but spend little time to play with my daughter or to hug her. I always think that after I finish work, there will be time. But there won't be an end or a full stop of my work. So I just now realize that I should arrange time routinely to spend with her instead of making fake wishes to play with her after all my things done. The strong connections and trust is more important than any training/learning for her at this age. I will keep that in mind. Thank you so much for your sharing! Much appreciated.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 22:28
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simonchan1986 發表於 23-6-5 20:57
If your only intention is to send her to top IS, then I would recommend you to get a FP (if you don' ...
Hi Simonchan1986, thank you for your advice. Yes we will consider the debenture but it's also hard as we don't find the sellers or platforms to trade. If you have any idea where the debentures are listed could you PM me a clue? Thank you in advance!
Yes haha after discussion with you guys I realize that maybe I've been too nervious on the competetion of nourishing a kid. I will try to arrange play-dates first and see what's the next to go for.
For ITT, I thought it was merely a stepping stone for Braemar Hill. Since we are only middle class in HK, we didn't even "daydream" to apply for it. That said, I never did any serious research into ITT itself. I would like to know why you suggest ITT for building her social skills? Is it because of the parent community? Or do you have other insights about this playgroup? Thanks a lot for your suggestions!
作者: simonchan1986 時間: 23-6-5 22:41
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There are not that many top IS that allow their debenture to trade in secondary market...for those still having secondary market, you can try google it...for some others, there is no secondary market and you will need to contact the admission officer of the school directly.
For ITT, full disclosure I didn't enrol my kid to it but I heard a lot stories about kids joining ITT and went to CIS (though there is no official connections between the two)...
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 23:05
janellechan 發表於 23-6-5 21:31
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When baby is 6 months old, I think they just need to sleep and eat/milk. I a ...
Thank you for your advice for building her self-care skills. Yes after digging a bit more about this idea I found that it helps to build confidence for child in their early age. And I guess it will help to build their self-esteem too. Glad that I found another valuable piece of advice! Thank you!
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-5 23:21
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Thank you Simonchan1986 for sharing the information! I will dig into that.
Your information about ITT is also very useful to me. I wish I knew it earlier. I called up ITT 2 weeks ago and they said it would be most likely that my baby can get a seat after she's 18mo. At that time I guess I should rather put my girl to a PN class than playgroup. I guess the content of PN classes will be more advanced than playgroup so it can better prepare my daughter for K1 interviews. What do you think? Please help to correct me if I'm wrong. Thank you in advance!
作者: bigheadshrimp 時間: 23-6-6 00:55
registerzh 發表於 23-6-5 22:05
Hi Bigheadshrimp, thank you so much for the advice! You give me quite a few directions to explore. ...
Keep up the good work you are doing mommy! (emoji) Being a mom is the toughest job there is. I know it’s hard to relax when there is so much pressure from all sides, but babies can pick up on our moods. When you are stressing she will sense it also, particularly if you are still breastfeeding.
Kids have a very short attention span at this age, so don’t worry if she doesn’t seem too interested in books right now. It’s ok even if she only uses books as chew toys right now. I used to read to my babies while breastfeeding. Honestly, part of it is for my own entertainment, but listening to your voice helps with their verbal development. The other benefit is they see reading as a normal thing that everyone does. If your goal is to send your baby to a top IS, developing a love for reading is an absolute must.
作者: bigheadshrimp 時間: 23-6-6 01:23
registerzh 發表於 23-6-5 23:21
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Thank you Simonchan1986 for sharing the information! I will dig into that ...
My experience with ITT was very positive. The curriculum is very well balanced, and the teachers are all very caring and experienced. Yes, many parents sign up for ITT as a way to get an interview with Braemar Hill, but some simply go there for the program. Most parents are very hands on and go to the classes with their kids. I truly enjoyed my time there and value the opportunity to take part in my kids’ classes. Once they move onto kindy, you won’t get to see all that is happening in the classroom. Given the choice between ITT and a PN class, I’d agree she may learn more academically and develop independence more from a PN class though. Although ITT says you may not get a place till she’s 18 months, it doesn’t hurt to just submit an application now because someone may end up dropping out unexpectedly.
One thing you can do for kindy preparation specifically is to find out more about the schools you are interested in. Some will take applications from birth, so you can help improve her chances by applying early.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-6 12:58
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Haha thank you for the encouraging words and I will keep up. I will adjust my time and do more readings and play with my baby girl. Hopefully she builds up her vocabulary unconsiously and she's able to express herself freely in her life. And hope that she develop her love into readings.
And I bear in mind that she will feel what I feel and learn from me everyday. That means I should keep up a positive attitude to no matter what and I should take up challeges so that she learns how to withstand difficulties in the future.
Kids learn from us and immitate their carers. I guess that's the most difficult part of motherhood. Whatever I want her to be, I'd better be her role model.
Now I have a clearer picture of what I shall do with her daily. I feel so lucky to have your advice so I know the right way for the next 6 months or so.
Thank you so much for giving so much valuable advice. Thank you with all my heart!
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-6 13:00
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You are right and I'd better sign up now. Never should I tell myself not to try haha. It does no harm to try anyway. Thank you for pointing that out!
作者: Goodluck2022 時間: 23-6-6 13:01
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What are you aiming ?
What will you do in the next 6 months ?
作者: Erminator 時間: 23-6-7 09:47
simonchan1986 發表於 23-6-5 20:57
If your only intention is to send her to top IS, then I would recommend you to get a FP (if you don' ...
作者: Atamihanabi 時間: 23-6-7 10:53
registerzh 發表於 23-6-5 12:48
Hi all, I am a mother of a 6mo baby girl. I wish to send her to top IS when she's in K and I would l ...
My son was reserved and quiet when he was little although he was said to be a smart boy by all the teachers that taught him. He was that kind of boys who knew the answer but would never raise his hand first, if you know what i mean. His K1 teacher was even worried whether he would be able to show his talent during the 15 mins interview for primary. But we were lucky that he got in a very good IS where he has absolutely thrived over the past 7 years thanks to all the teachers' encouragement. Personality can change, in particular for a small kid. One thing I have found very important for their personality/character development is they need to have something that they are proud of, e.g. music, sports, breadth of knowledge, maths etc. That sense of achievement in particular through some hard work will definitely boost a quiet kid's confidence level.
Hope my experience can give you some confidence on your baby girl too :)
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-7 14:31
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Thank you so much Atamihanabi for sharing your experience in such a detailed manner. I am surprised that an introvert talented boy is also welcomed by IS in their interviews. Is it comfortable for you to share some more details about how you prepare him for the interview and what you think is the exact right thing he has done to pass the interview? Doesn't matter if you don't want to share. I sincerely appreciate it.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-7 14:43
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Hi Erminator. Thank you for your sharing. Haha I guess I know what you mean. Yes I will take that into consideration. Thank you for the reminder!
作者: Atamihanabi 時間: 23-6-7 15:05
registerzh 發表於 23-6-7 14:31
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Thank you so much Atamihanabi for sharing your experience in such a detaile ...
I didn't prepare my kids for the interviews. It would have been crazy to prepare a 3 or 4 YO for an interview. I'm a committed mum but i'm not a helicopter parent. Observe your kid and respect her as a person, not shoehorning her into any school.
BTW Susan Cain's Quiet is a good book. But i'm not sure if you read.. Reading is a good habit that you can help your kid develop. It would be even better if you also like reading.
作者: poonseelai 時間: 23-6-7 16:06
Atamihanabi 發表於 23-6-7 15:05
I'm surprised that you're surprised lol. Why would you think IS only like extrovert kids? Shouldn't ...
. Anyway this is on my "to read list".
作者: bigheadshrimp 時間: 23-6-7 16:38
poonseelai 發表於 23-6-7 16:06
Full name of the book - Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking.I have alr ...
Hehe… I find it easier to read bigger fonts lately also. This is where ebook readers come in handy. Love to actually hold a book in my hands, but the fonts can be hard on my aging eyes. Lol
作者: 964000 時間: 23-6-8 08:03
registerzh 發表於 23-6-5 12:48
Hi all, I am a mother of a 6mo baby girl. I wish to send her to top IS when she's in K and I would l ...
You are asking the right question! If you have a smart and introverted child and target top IS, you have to work on the emotional, social and confidence aspects early on. Once these are sort out, they will go really far. Many parents especially those target local schools tend to focus too much in academic in early years, which could miss out a lot in development. Very often we see kids with good academics who still lack confidence and they only become more reserved with time. There is nothing wrong to be quiet but if they have learned to be more comfortable to open up at appropriate time early in life, life will become easier and opportunities won’t be slipped so readily.
Early interventions by parents should help. Choosing IS from start is already the big first step, therefore I don’t recommend “LS first IS later approach”. Local style teaching that emphasise too much in obedience, no talking, no running, right or wrong at early age could be counterproductive in opening up an introverted child.
Back to your question, at 6m, there are really not much “activities” to arrange , many good advice from above posts have been given already. Earliest at around 12 M, you can start to join playgroups, and try to arrange more playdates with friends later on as free plays with friends are always more effective than structured classes in developing social skills. This is totally not replaceable by just playing with siblings alone.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-9 20:48
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964000 發表於 23-6-8 08:03
You are asking the right question! If you have a smart and introverted child and target top IS, you ...
Sorry repeated post. Del.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-9 20:48
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964000 發表於 23-6-8 08:03
You are asking the right question! If you have a smart and introverted child and target top IS, you ...
Thank you 964000. Thanks to your post and the above posts, I am no longer as overwhelmingly panic as before. I think I will arrange playdates and bring her out to gatherings as it seems to be an effective way to develop her social skills in early age. At least there's something I can do.
Thank you also for inspiring me to compare the pros and cons between IS and LS from this perspective. For introverts it's more difficult to get into IS. But once she gets in, she can benefit from the IS padegogy and have a higher chance of overcoming the shortage in her introvert personality. Thank you for the inspiring post!
作者: jujuwong73 時間: 23-6-10 06:27
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Different Top IS has different requirements on their pupils. Perhaps you can be more specific. Which IS are you targeting?
作者: Goodluck2022 時間: 23-6-10 09:06
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Very helpful advice !!!!
Playgroup at the age of at least 1.
作者: registerzh 時間: 23-6-10 22:50
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Hi Jujuwong73, my first priority is CIS, though I know it's very difficult for parents without any siblings in the school...
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