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作者: five555 時間: 15-10-2 14:22 標題: 父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
考小一，大人小朋友也有壓力，但你對只有5歲的小朋友又打又駡，跟本就對事情無幫助。
你每次問完個小朋友剛才考了什麼，點解會唔識，點解咁蠢，點解。。。。。。得個惡字，你有無想個小朋友會從此怕了面試，怕了跟你分享面試內容。
假如你發覺身邊有家長越來越緊張，越來越惡，請告訴他／她考小一只是一個很小的試煉，不要動不動便發火。大人找工作面試都不是次次成功，更何況是個很小很小的小朋友呢。
希望你看完會明白，不要握殺了小朋友對你的愛，不要再嚇怕小朋友了，好嗎？
作者: hkpapa852 時間: 15-10-2 14:34
本帖最後由 hkpapa852 於 15-10-4 13:27 編輯
唉! 年年都有呢D情況..... 或者等我將我另一篇發文既說話改一改再講吓:
各位等候考直資/私立小學結果既家長, 萬一子女考得唔好, 唔好咁失望, 亦不要勞氣. 畢竟, 要過千人中突圍, 並飛易事. 而且, 考唔到又如何? 至少還有統一派位.
回想自己搵工見工的情況, 幾年前考K1的情況吧! 就算自覺事事順利, 結果往往都可能未盡人意. 這是孩子的問題嗎?
還記得大家在孩子還未誕生時的願望嗎? 我想大多數父母當時應該都會諗: 只要他/她平平安安, 健健康康.
可惜孩子出生後, 大家漸漸已把此期望忘記了!
大家開始對孩子多了要求, 多了比較, 要求他/她去學些甚麼, 比較他/她和朋友子女, 以及同學的能力. 但, 是否孩子一定要在某某學校讀書, 才代表對他/她是好的呢?
小學只係人生一個成長階段, 不要為了一時不如意而失了方寸. 其實, 對小朋友最重要的學校和老師, 由他/她出生當天已在, 只要把這所學校經營得好, 遠比考入甚麼神校對孩子的成長更有用.
希望大家記著, 不論考小學、派位或叩門結果如何, 不要"為了面了, 失了孩子"; 還有, 不要忘記當初對子女的期望, 毋忘初衷!
All the best!
作者: 布希亞 時間: 15-10-2 14:35
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作者: Yanamami 時間: 15-10-2 15:01
心都痛埋……
作者: charlottechy 時間: 15-10-2 15:08
布希亞 發表於 15-10-2 14:35 
對，小朋友不是你的代替品，不是代你出征的槍手，不日要完成你自已無法實現夢想的奴役，對小朋友打鬧只是自 ...
作者: vivienfong 時間: 15-10-2 15:54 標題: 回覆：父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
有時可以諗小朋友考唔到直資私小，間接幫你慳番唔少錢，叠埋心水等派位，始終都有學校讀，咁樣令自己令小朋友都無咁大壓力
作者: Jumama24 時間: 15-10-2 16:07
Agreed 樓主...
其實想入名校是否係父母虛榮心?
作者: Boopoo 時間: 15-10-2 16:50 標題: 回覆：父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
唉！如果有全港統一派位，不受地區限制，不受任何背景關係影響，沒有世襲/舊生等限制，純抽獎就唔使煩了
作者: Jane1983 時間: 15-10-2 17:13
吾好同人比較，少d同其他家長傾，係好好多。
考小一，對父母吾係舊生，無兄姐開路，無識人搞關係，抽獎又無運，但小朋友幾叻，選學校有要求的家長來說，係好多複雜感受，係會覺得吾公平……
作者: five555 時間: 15-10-2 17:19
人比人，比死人，我只覺得個小朋友好慘，好大壓力，我知這家長有上開來看，所以希望可以提醒吓。
作者: HK-MAN 時間: 15-10-2 17:26
Jumama24 發表於 15-10-2 16:07
Agreed 樓主...
其實想入名校是否係父母虛榮心?
作者: HK-MAN 時間: 15-10-2 17:31
five555 發表於 15-10-2 17:19
人比人，比死人，我只覺得個小朋友好慘，好大壓力，我知這家長有上開來看，所以希望可以提醒吓。 ...
作者: sissysze 時間: 15-10-2 19:14 標題: 引用：吾好同人比較，少d同其他家長傾，係好好多
原帖由 Jane1983 於 15-10-02 發表
吾好同人比較，少d同其他家長傾，係好好多。
考小一，對父母吾係舊生，無兄姐開路，無識人搞關係，抽獎又 ...
作者: Jane1983 時間: 15-10-2 19:55
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呢樣我好同意，小朋友叻的，係終歸會出到頭，叩門又好、插班又好、升讀band1中學又好。
不過眼見好多家長，係無呢個 mental toughness，打左幾個月收左一堆reject letters，就散晒，又或者忙住搵食吾得閒...
作者: charlottechy 時間: 15-10-2 20:23 標題: 回覆：Jane1983 的帖子
同意，真係太短視，眼光放遠啲啦！
作者: bee_eed 時間: 15-10-2 21:34 標題: 引用：Quote:布希亞+發表於+15-10-2+14:35+對，小
原帖由 charlottechy 於 15-10-02 發表
"有本事自己去考個名校回來"
作者: Gerard 時間: 15-10-2 22:52 標題: 回覆：父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
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作者: tws2010 時間: 15-10-2 23:07
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When my kid was at K3, the headmaster told us, as parents, she's the headmaster of a primary school in the past. She said in fact subsidy schools were not bad and told us not to waste money on those private schools or 直 資. She said parents could save a lot of money on more meaningful things
作者: cocokan2004 時間: 15-10-2 23:37
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好方法!! 不過要保留反 "SILBINGS" 必收.
作者: charlottechy 時間: 15-10-3 09:04 標題: 回覆：tws2010 的帖子
primary school in the past is so different from those nowadays. remember the days when we, the parents, went to school?? we finished school at noon, head home for lunch, do 3-4 pieces of homework, some revision occasionally then watch tv And have fun.
look at those subsidized schools today. most of them give tons of homework to the kids, a lot of assessments to make sure they have good results in TSA or other public exams. how's their childhood like now?
I'm not saying all private schools provide good environment or less pressure to kids. but at least we can choose and we are not up to the “lucky draw” to decide our kids’ life. if we are financially capable, I think it's the only way to give them back their childhood by choosing a right school.
作者: Soundervolt 時間: 15-10-3 10:44
本帖最後由 Soundervolt 於 15-10-3 15:36 編輯
charlottechy 發表於 15-10-3 09:04
primary school in the past is so different from those nowadays. remember the days when we, the paren ...
In the old days, we went through so called "Gavage style education system", I studied in a homework-slaving primary school which had tons of homework with various intensive test and examination... not that easy than current students. I don't think the school is the only factor what makes the kids endures in a stressful life nowadays, my kid had studied in a subsidized school previously which had less homework and not harsh on academics, very easy to achieve the good scoring. But that school is not popular among the parents due to her result on the secondary school places allocation is not so impressive. I wondered would you prefer your kids studies in this kind of happy schools? The "Free Lunch" doesn't exist in the real world. APS, SFA, KTS are good schools and very popular in town. But do you think they are not such demanding on the kids? I'd believe the parents' mentality is more decisive to driven the kids' way of living rather than the schools.
作者: charlottechy 時間: 15-10-3 11:05 標題: 回覆：Soundervolt 的帖子
100% agree with you. that's why I said it's the choices of parents matter. for myself，I applied for private schools like ICQM but never SFA or APSKT.
at least we can make our choices instead of being chosen, right?
作者: Soundervolt 時間: 15-10-3 11:37
本帖最後由 Soundervolt 於 15-10-3 11:37 編輯
charlottechy 發表於 15-10-3 11:05
100% agree with you. that's why I said it's the choices of parents matter. for myself，I applied for ...
Agreed! Therefore, parents should choose the school with a clear-mind for fitting the kids' abilities and personality rather than pursuing the reputation of the school itself. But unfortunately every DSS or private school have thousands application each year, it's not easy to acquire an appropriated school for the kids with good matching.
作者: picture 時間: 15-10-3 11:57 標題: 引用：吾好同人比較，少d同其他家長傾，係好好多
原帖由 Jane1983 於 15-10-02 發表
吾好同人比較，少d同其他家長傾，係好好多。
考小一，對父母吾係舊生，無兄姐開路，無識人搞關係，抽獎又 ...
作者: vinik 時間: 15-10-3 12:48 標題: 引用：Quote:原帖由+Jane1983+於+15-10-02+發表吾
原帖由 picture 於 15-10-03 發表
其實嗰D家長chatroom, 最有用係報導面试現場交通狀況和室內溫度。。。其他的哂命/欢水function , 切勿理會 ...
作者: superying 時間: 15-10-3 12:57 標題: 回覆：父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
知易行難呀！
作者: alovea 時間: 15-10-3 13:01 標題: 回覆：父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
說實在...so far我未聽過未見過有咁嘅家長喎！個個家長都好好喎，出唻都係鼓勵小朋友為主
作者: milktealai 時間: 15-10-3 17:09 標題: 回覆：父母們，愛我們的孩子請不要這樣！
支持！
作者: nerolibaby 時間: 15-10-3 17:58 標題: 引用：Quote:布希亞+發表於+15-10-2+14:35+對，小
原帖由 charlottechy 於 15-10-02 發表
"有本事自己去考個名校回來"
作者: simonwan 時間: 15-10-4 19:55
Soundervolt 發表於 15-10-3 10:44
In the old days, we went through so called "Gavage style education system", I studied in a homework ...
要好成績唔一定要功課默書多，問題系好多學校衹懂谷功課，其實大部分功課系無用！
作者: simonwan 時間: 15-10-4 19:56
charlottechy 發表於 15-10-2 15:08
"有本事自己去考個名校回來"
甘如果父母本身系名校畢業，就系唔系可以谷仔女入名校？
作者: Soundervolt 時間: 15-10-4 20:24 標題: 引用：Quote:Soundervolt+發表於+15-10-3+10:44+I
原帖由 simonwan 於 15-10-04 發表
要好成績唔一定要功課默書多，問題系好多學校衹懂谷功課，其實大部分功課系無用！
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作者: jchw 時間: 15-10-5 10:56
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totally agree and really impressed
作者: yhchoy 時間: 15-10-5 15:13
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作者: yhchoy 時間: 15-10-5 15:14
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作者: 已刪除用戶 時間: 15-10-6 00:08
孩童只盼望歡樂 大人只知道期望 為何都不大懂得努力體恤對方
作者: tws2010 時間: 15-10-6 20:59
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To a certain extent, I agreed with you.
For my kid, he's quite blessed, For the past 5 years, I don't feel he feels the pressure studying at subsidy school (so far, he's a happy boy), His school is quite a famous one in this district, but unlike those other schools, that school does not really give a lot of pressure to students and parents for the TSA. He's busy just because he enrolled a lot of activities at his own wish. I asked him can he manage, he replied yes. And it's the time, he can play with his friends at school. All activities he enrolled, he enjoys so much.
This year, I feel a bit pressure coz it's time for him to choose secondary school and this year, he has to take PRE-S1 exam, so I noticed that school started to be a bit serious. In fact, if my kid has not enrolled in so many activities, he can definitely go to bed early. Even my friends say it's a miracle studying in a local subsidy school. So far, I feel happy on his result.
作者: angieip 時間: 15-10-8 11:06
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